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Lost my dad

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    deardad
    Participant

      Today and 12.40, 9th August my father passed away in my mums arms in a private hospice with his two daughters, myself and my sister Rachel.

      He complained of a stomach pain on Wednesday night and we got into this lovely private palliative care hospice the next day where is rapidly declined. He fought all the way still believing he would see the neurosurgeon next week. The nurse thought it was probably his liver. 

      I am totally numb and feel so incredibly lost.

      My deardad is gone.

      Nahmi from Melbourne

      Today and 12.40, 9th August my father passed away in my mums arms in a private hospice with his two daughters, myself and my sister Rachel.

      He complained of a stomach pain on Wednesday night and we got into this lovely private palliative care hospice the next day where is rapidly declined. He fought all the way still believing he would see the neurosurgeon next week. The nurse thought it was probably his liver. 

      I am totally numb and feel so incredibly lost.

      My deardad is gone.

      Nahmi from Melbourne

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        lhaley
        Participant

          Nahmi,

          I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed away.   Your dad is now in peace but the rest of your family is in pain.   Surround your self in good memories.   Know that you have done all you could have.

          Linda

          lhaley
          Participant

            Nahmi,

            I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed away.   Your dad is now in peace but the rest of your family is in pain.   Surround your self in good memories.   Know that you have done all you could have.

            Linda

            lhaley
            Participant

              Nahmi,

              I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed away.   Your dad is now in peace but the rest of your family is in pain.   Surround your self in good memories.   Know that you have done all you could have.

              Linda

              hope4cure1
              Participant

                Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all.  You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts.  Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength.  My prayers tonight go out to you and your family.  Take care,

                Hope

                hope4cure1
                Participant

                  Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all.  You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts.  Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength.  My prayers tonight go out to you and your family.  Take care,

                  Hope

                  hope4cure1
                  Participant

                    Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all.  You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts.  Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength.  My prayers tonight go out to you and your family.  Take care,

                    Hope

                    FormerCaregiver
                    Participant

                      Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.

                      Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.

                      Take care

                      Frank from Australia

                      FormerCaregiver
                      Participant

                        Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.

                        Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.

                        Take care

                        Frank from Australia

                          Vermont_Donna
                          Participant

                            Dear Nahmi,

                            I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.

                            Hugs,

                            Vermont_Donna

                            Vermont_Donna
                            Participant

                              Dear Nahmi,

                              I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.

                              Hugs,

                              Vermont_Donna

                              Vermont_Donna
                              Participant

                                Dear Nahmi,

                                I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.

                                Hugs,

                                Vermont_Donna

                              FormerCaregiver
                              Participant

                                Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.

                                Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.

                                Take care

                                Frank from Australia

                                saddaughter
                                Participant
                                  Nahmi,
                                  I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.

                                  Cathy

                                  saddaughter
                                  Participant
                                    Nahmi,
                                    I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.

                                    Cathy

                                    saddaughter
                                    Participant
                                      Nahmi,
                                      I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.

                                      Cathy

                                      Lori C
                                      Participant

                                        Nahmi, I am so very sorry.  You did an incredible job of advocating and caregiving.  Your dad was surrounded by love.  I think that is perhaps the very best any of us can hope for.  May his memory be for a blessing,

                                         

                                        Lori caregiver to Will

                                        Lori C
                                        Participant

                                          Nahmi, I am so very sorry.  You did an incredible job of advocating and caregiving.  Your dad was surrounded by love.  I think that is perhaps the very best any of us can hope for.  May his memory be for a blessing,

                                           

                                          Lori caregiver to Will

                                          Lori C
                                          Participant

                                            Nahmi, I am so very sorry.  You did an incredible job of advocating and caregiving.  Your dad was surrounded by love.  I think that is perhaps the very best any of us can hope for.  May his memory be for a blessing,

                                             

                                            Lori caregiver to Will

                                            Gene_S
                                            Participant

                                              Nahmi,  We are so sorry to hear of your Dear Dad's Passing.  Our prayers go out to you and the family.  You were such a great caregiver and advocate for Dad.  Remember the good memories.

                                              Judy and Gene

                                              Gene_S
                                              Participant

                                                Nahmi,  We are so sorry to hear of your Dear Dad's Passing.  Our prayers go out to you and the family.  You were such a great caregiver and advocate for Dad.  Remember the good memories.

                                                Judy and Gene

                                                Gene_S
                                                Participant

                                                  Nahmi,  We are so sorry to hear of your Dear Dad's Passing.  Our prayers go out to you and the family.  You were such a great caregiver and advocate for Dad.  Remember the good memories.

                                                  Judy and Gene

                                                  triciad
                                                  Participant

                                                    Nahmi,

                                                    I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  He was truly lucky to have such an amazing daughter.  May his memories confort you in this difficult time and know his spirit lives within you forever.  My deepest sympathies.

                                                    Tricia

                                                    triciad
                                                    Participant

                                                      Nahmi,

                                                      I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  He was truly lucky to have such an amazing daughter.  May his memories confort you in this difficult time and know his spirit lives within you forever.  My deepest sympathies.

                                                      Tricia

                                                      triciad
                                                      Participant

                                                        Nahmi,

                                                        I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  He was truly lucky to have such an amazing daughter.  May his memories confort you in this difficult time and know his spirit lives within you forever.  My deepest sympathies.

                                                        Tricia

                                                        Karin L
                                                        Participant

                                                          I wish I could hug you, I am so sorry Nahmi.  I have 2 daughters and a son myself and I worry all the time how they are doing.  Godspeed Daddy.

                                                          Karin

                                                          Karin L
                                                          Participant

                                                            I wish I could hug you, I am so sorry Nahmi.  I have 2 daughters and a son myself and I worry all the time how they are doing.  Godspeed Daddy.

                                                            Karin

                                                            Karin L
                                                            Participant

                                                              I wish I could hug you, I am so sorry Nahmi.  I have 2 daughters and a son myself and I worry all the time how they are doing.  Godspeed Daddy.

                                                              Karin

                                                              MeNDave
                                                              Participant

                                                                Nahmi,

                                                                I'm so sorry honey.  I wish I could hug you right now.  Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him.  I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile.  You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.

                                                                You BOTH fought a good fight.

                                                                Much love,

                                                                Maria

                                                                MeNDave
                                                                Participant

                                                                  Nahmi,

                                                                  I'm so sorry honey.  I wish I could hug you right now.  Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him.  I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile.  You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.

                                                                  You BOTH fought a good fight.

                                                                  Much love,

                                                                  Maria

                                                                  MeNDave
                                                                  Participant

                                                                    Nahmi,

                                                                    I'm so sorry honey.  I wish I could hug you right now.  Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him.  I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile.  You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.

                                                                    You BOTH fought a good fight.

                                                                    Much love,

                                                                    Maria

                                                                    Linny
                                                                    Participant

                                                                      Dear Nahmi,

                                                                      I am so very sorry to hear this. You fought so hard for your dad. I'm sure he knows just how hard you fought and how much you loved him. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

                                                                      Linda

                                                                      Linny
                                                                      Participant

                                                                        Dear Nahmi,

                                                                        I am so very sorry to hear this. You fought so hard for your dad. I'm sure he knows just how hard you fought and how much you loved him. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

                                                                        Linda

                                                                        Linny
                                                                        Participant

                                                                          Dear Nahmi,

                                                                          I am so very sorry to hear this. You fought so hard for your dad. I'm sure he knows just how hard you fought and how much you loved him. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

                                                                          Linda

                                                                          deardad
                                                                          Participant

                                                                            In all my madness I posted the wrong date (not that it matters) 

                                                                            Henry Winkler

                                                                            13/4/1947-10/8/2012

                                                                            deardad
                                                                            Participant

                                                                              In all my madness I posted the wrong date (not that it matters) 

                                                                              Henry Winkler

                                                                              13/4/1947-10/8/2012

                                                                              deardad
                                                                              Participant

                                                                                In all my madness I posted the wrong date (not that it matters) 

                                                                                Henry Winkler

                                                                                13/4/1947-10/8/2012

                                                                                gabsound
                                                                                Participant
                                                                                  Nahmi,

                                                                                  I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.

                                                                                  Hugs,
                                                                                  Julie in Las Vegas

                                                                                  gabsound
                                                                                  Participant
                                                                                    Nahmi,

                                                                                    I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.

                                                                                    Hugs,
                                                                                    Julie in Las Vegas

                                                                                    gabsound
                                                                                    Participant
                                                                                      Nahmi,

                                                                                      I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.

                                                                                      Hugs,
                                                                                      Julie in Las Vegas

                                                                                      s Mom
                                                                                      Participant

                                                                                        Dear Nahmi,

                                                                                        I am so sorry for your loss.  I know how much you loved your dad.

                                                                                        Jeff's Mom (Bridgette)

                                                                                        s Mom
                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                          Dear Nahmi,

                                                                                          I am so sorry for your loss.  I know how much you loved your dad.

                                                                                          Jeff's Mom (Bridgette)

                                                                                          s Mom
                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                            Dear Nahmi,

                                                                                            I am so sorry for your loss.  I know how much you loved your dad.

                                                                                            Jeff's Mom (Bridgette)

                                                                                            benp
                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                              Dear Nahmi, 

                                                                                              I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.

                                                                                              Thinking about you, 

                                                                                              Ben.

                                                                                              benp
                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                Dear Nahmi, 

                                                                                                I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.

                                                                                                Thinking about you, 

                                                                                                Ben.

                                                                                                benp
                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                  Dear Nahmi, 

                                                                                                  I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.

                                                                                                  Thinking about you, 

                                                                                                  Ben.

                                                                                                  Phil S
                                                                                                  Participant
                                                                                                    Nahmi, Prayers and strength for your family during this difficult time. You sound like an amazing daughter, a wonderful tribute to your Dad. God bless, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                                                    Phil S
                                                                                                    Participant
                                                                                                      Nahmi, Prayers and strength for your family during this difficult time. You sound like an amazing daughter, a wonderful tribute to your Dad. God bless, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                                                      Phil S
                                                                                                      Participant
                                                                                                        Nahmi, Prayers and strength for your family during this difficult time. You sound like an amazing daughter, a wonderful tribute to your Dad. God bless, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                                                        jag
                                                                                                        Participant
                                                                                                          Very sorry to hear this, you will be in my prayers.
                                                                                                          jag
                                                                                                          Participant
                                                                                                            Very sorry to hear this, you will be in my prayers.
                                                                                                            jag
                                                                                                            Participant
                                                                                                              Very sorry to hear this, you will be in my prayers.
                                                                                                              awillett1991
                                                                                                              Participant
                                                                                                                So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease!
                                                                                                                awillett1991
                                                                                                                Participant
                                                                                                                  So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease!
                                                                                                                  awillett1991
                                                                                                                  Participant
                                                                                                                    So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease!
                                                                                                                    James from Sydney
                                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                                      Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1

                                                                                                                       

                                                                                                                      best wishes

                                                                                                                      James

                                                                                                                        deardad
                                                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                                                          Thank you for all your kind words.

                                                                                                                          I will continue to check in to support all you fighters, carers and loved ones who have lost also.

                                                                                                                          Love Nahmi

                                                                                                                          deardad
                                                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                                                            Thank you for all your kind words.

                                                                                                                            I will continue to check in to support all you fighters, carers and loved ones who have lost also.

                                                                                                                            Love Nahmi

                                                                                                                            deardad
                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                              Thank you for all your kind words.

                                                                                                                              I will continue to check in to support all you fighters, carers and loved ones who have lost also.

                                                                                                                              Love Nahmi

                                                                                                                            James from Sydney
                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                              Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1

                                                                                                                               

                                                                                                                              best wishes

                                                                                                                              James

                                                                                                                              James from Sydney
                                                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                                                Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1

                                                                                                                                 

                                                                                                                                best wishes

                                                                                                                                James

                                                                                                                                Richard_K
                                                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                                                  Nahmi

                                                                                                                                  I am so sorry to read this news. I hope the time comes quickly to you where all you can remember the good times and laughs you must have shared.

                                                                                                                                  Dick

                                                                                                                                  Richard_K
                                                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                                                    Nahmi

                                                                                                                                    I am so sorry to read this news. I hope the time comes quickly to you where all you can remember the good times and laughs you must have shared.

                                                                                                                                    Dick

                                                                                                                                    Richard_K
                                                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                                                      Nahmi

                                                                                                                                      I am so sorry to read this news. I hope the time comes quickly to you where all you can remember the good times and laughs you must have shared.

                                                                                                                                      Dick

                                                                                                                                      aldakota22
                                                                                                                                      Participant

                                                                                                                                        Another  good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast.    Al

                                                                                                                                          Snickers60
                                                                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                                                                            Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story !   I know your hearts are broken !   You were such a good caregiver !   I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time !   DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !  

                                                                                                                                            Snickers60
                                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                                              Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story !   I know your hearts are broken !   You were such a good caregiver !   I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time !   DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !  

                                                                                                                                              Snickers60
                                                                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                                                                Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story !   I know your hearts are broken !   You were such a good caregiver !   I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time !   DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !  

                                                                                                                                              aldakota22
                                                                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                                                                Another  good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast.    Al

                                                                                                                                                aldakota22
                                                                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                                                                  Another  good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast.    Al

                                                                                                                                                  kristine
                                                                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                                                                    Thank you for all of your posts, just want you to know that your input has touched my life.  May God comfort you and your family now and always.  You are a special person.  God Bless

                                                                                                                                                      NYKaren
                                                                                                                                                      Participant
                                                                                                                                                        Dear Nahmi,
                                                                                                                                                        I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m glad your dad was surrounded by his loving family. You are a wonderful daughter and I too wish I could hug you.
                                                                                                                                                        Karen
                                                                                                                                                        NYKaren
                                                                                                                                                        Participant
                                                                                                                                                          Dear Nahmi,
                                                                                                                                                          I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m glad your dad was surrounded by his loving family. You are a wonderful daughter and I too wish I could hug you.
                                                                                                                                                          Karen
                                                                                                                                                          NYKaren
                                                                                                                                                          Participant
                                                                                                                                                            Dear Nahmi,
                                                                                                                                                            I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m glad your dad was surrounded by his loving family. You are a wonderful daughter and I too wish I could hug you.
                                                                                                                                                            Karen
                                                                                                                                                          kristine
                                                                                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                                                                                            Thank you for all of your posts, just want you to know that your input has touched my life.  May God comfort you and your family now and always.  You are a special person.  God Bless

                                                                                                                                                            kristine
                                                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                                                              Thank you for all of your posts, just want you to know that your input has touched my life.  May God comfort you and your family now and always.  You are a special person.  God Bless

                                                                                                                                                              susanr
                                                                                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                                                                                Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                I am so sorry.  I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered.  Your dad is at peace and free from pain.  I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place.  My prayers are with you.

                                                                                                                                                                Susan

                                                                                                                                                                susanr
                                                                                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                                                                                  Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                  I am so sorry.  I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered.  Your dad is at peace and free from pain.  I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place.  My prayers are with you.

                                                                                                                                                                  Susan

                                                                                                                                                                  susanr
                                                                                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                                                                                    Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                    I am so sorry.  I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered.  Your dad is at peace and free from pain.  I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place.  My prayers are with you.

                                                                                                                                                                    Susan

                                                                                                                                                                    AllyNTAus
                                                                                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                                                                                      Dear Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                      I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You did everything possible to try and find answers for your Dad.

                                                                                                                                                                      Sending you lots of virtual hugs,

                                                                                                                                                                      Allison in Darwin NT

                                                                                                                                                                      AllyNTAus
                                                                                                                                                                      Participant

                                                                                                                                                                        Dear Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                        I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You did everything possible to try and find answers for your Dad.

                                                                                                                                                                        Sending you lots of virtual hugs,

                                                                                                                                                                        Allison in Darwin NT

                                                                                                                                                                        AllyNTAus
                                                                                                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                                                                                                          Dear Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                          I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You did everything possible to try and find answers for your Dad.

                                                                                                                                                                          Sending you lots of virtual hugs,

                                                                                                                                                                          Allison in Darwin NT

                                                                                                                                                                          Ashykay
                                                                                                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                                                                                                            Dearest Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                            I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.

                                                                                                                                                                            I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together. 

                                                                                                                                                                            I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.

                                                                                                                                                                            I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.

                                                                                                                                                                            Thinking of you.

                                                                                                                                                                            Ashykay
                                                                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                                                                              Dearest Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                              I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.

                                                                                                                                                                              I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together. 

                                                                                                                                                                              I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.

                                                                                                                                                                              I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.

                                                                                                                                                                              Thinking of you.

                                                                                                                                                                              Ashykay
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                                                                                                                                                                                Dearest Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                                I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.

                                                                                                                                                                                I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together. 

                                                                                                                                                                                I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.

                                                                                                                                                                                I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.

                                                                                                                                                                                Thinking of you.

                                                                                                                                                                                Lisa – Aust
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                                                                                                                                                                                  So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.

                                                                                                                                                                                  Lisa

                                                                                                                                                                                  Lisa – Aust
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                                                                                                                                                                                    So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.

                                                                                                                                                                                    Lisa

                                                                                                                                                                                    Lisa – Aust
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                                                                                                                                                                                      So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.

                                                                                                                                                                                      Lisa

                                                                                                                                                                                      cwu
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                                                                                                                                                                                        Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                                        I am incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. Please know that he is no longer in pain and that he will always be by your side.

                                                                                                                                                                                        Chau

                                                                                                                                                                                        cwu
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                                                                                                                                                                                          Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                                          I am incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. Please know that he is no longer in pain and that he will always be by your side.

                                                                                                                                                                                          Chau

                                                                                                                                                                                          cwu
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                                                                                                                                                                                            Nahmi,

                                                                                                                                                                                            I am incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. Please know that he is no longer in pain and that he will always be by your side.

                                                                                                                                                                                            Chau

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