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- August 10, 2012 at 6:13 am
Today and 12.40, 9th August my father passed away in my mums arms in a private hospice with his two daughters, myself and my sister Rachel.
He complained of a stomach pain on Wednesday night and we got into this lovely private palliative care hospice the next day where is rapidly declined. He fought all the way still believing he would see the neurosurgeon next week. The nurse thought it was probably his liver.
I am totally numb and feel so incredibly lost.
My deardad is gone.
Nahmi from Melbourne
Today and 12.40, 9th August my father passed away in my mums arms in a private hospice with his two daughters, myself and my sister Rachel.
He complained of a stomach pain on Wednesday night and we got into this lovely private palliative care hospice the next day where is rapidly declined. He fought all the way still believing he would see the neurosurgeon next week. The nurse thought it was probably his liver.
I am totally numb and feel so incredibly lost.
My deardad is gone.
Nahmi from Melbourne
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- August 10, 2012 at 7:01 am
Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all. You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts. Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength. My prayers tonight go out to you and your family. Take care,
Hope
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- August 10, 2012 at 7:01 am
Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all. You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts. Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength. My prayers tonight go out to you and your family. Take care,
Hope
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- August 10, 2012 at 7:01 am
Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all. You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts. Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength. My prayers tonight go out to you and your family. Take care,
Hope
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- August 10, 2012 at 8:42 am
Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.
Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.
Take care
Frank from Australia
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- August 10, 2012 at 9:01 am
Dear Nahmi,
I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.
Hugs,
Vermont_Donna
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- August 10, 2012 at 9:01 am
Dear Nahmi,
I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.
Hugs,
Vermont_Donna
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- August 10, 2012 at 9:01 am
Dear Nahmi,
I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.
Hugs,
Vermont_Donna
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- August 10, 2012 at 8:42 am
Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.
Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.
Take care
Frank from Australia
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- August 10, 2012 at 8:42 am
Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.
Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.
Take care
Frank from Australia
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- August 10, 2012 at 9:28 am
Nahmi,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.Cathy
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- August 10, 2012 at 9:28 am
Nahmi,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.Cathy
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- August 10, 2012 at 9:28 am
Nahmi,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.Cathy
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- August 10, 2012 at 3:08 pm
Nahmi,
I'm so sorry honey. I wish I could hug you right now. Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him. I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile. You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.
You BOTH fought a good fight.
Much love,
Maria
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- August 10, 2012 at 3:08 pm
Nahmi,
I'm so sorry honey. I wish I could hug you right now. Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him. I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile. You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.
You BOTH fought a good fight.
Much love,
Maria
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- August 10, 2012 at 3:08 pm
Nahmi,
I'm so sorry honey. I wish I could hug you right now. Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him. I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile. You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.
You BOTH fought a good fight.
Much love,
Maria
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- August 11, 2012 at 12:56 am
Nahmi,I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.
Hugs,
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- August 11, 2012 at 12:56 am
Nahmi,I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.
Hugs,
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- August 11, 2012 at 12:56 am
Nahmi,I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.
Hugs,
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- August 11, 2012 at 12:15 pm
Dear Nahmi,
I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.
Thinking about you,
Ben.
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- August 11, 2012 at 12:15 pm
Dear Nahmi,
I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.
Thinking about you,
Ben.
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- August 11, 2012 at 12:15 pm
Dear Nahmi,
I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.
Thinking about you,
Ben.
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- August 12, 2012 at 2:10 am
So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease! -
- August 12, 2012 at 2:10 am
So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease! -
- August 12, 2012 at 2:10 am
So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease! -
- August 12, 2012 at 7:06 am
Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1
best wishes
James
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- August 12, 2012 at 7:06 am
Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1
best wishes
James
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- August 12, 2012 at 7:06 am
Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1
best wishes
James
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- August 12, 2012 at 1:52 pm
Another good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast. Al
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- August 12, 2012 at 1:52 pm
Another good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast. Al
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- August 12, 2012 at 6:05 pm
Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story ! I know your hearts are broken ! You were such a good caregiver ! I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time ! DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !
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- August 12, 2012 at 6:05 pm
Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story ! I know your hearts are broken ! You were such a good caregiver ! I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time ! DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !
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- August 12, 2012 at 6:05 pm
Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story ! I know your hearts are broken ! You were such a good caregiver ! I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time ! DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !
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- August 12, 2012 at 1:52 pm
Another good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast. Al
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- August 13, 2012 at 2:05 am
Thank you for all of your posts, just want you to know that your input has touched my life. May God comfort you and your family now and always. You are a special person. God Bless
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- August 13, 2012 at 3:21 am
Nahmi,
I am so sorry. I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered. Your dad is at peace and free from pain. I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place. My prayers are with you.
Susan
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- August 13, 2012 at 3:21 am
Nahmi,
I am so sorry. I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered. Your dad is at peace and free from pain. I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place. My prayers are with you.
Susan
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- August 13, 2012 at 3:21 am
Nahmi,
I am so sorry. I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered. Your dad is at peace and free from pain. I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place. My prayers are with you.
Susan
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- August 13, 2012 at 11:41 pm
Dearest Nahmi,
I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.
I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together.
I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.
I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.
Thinking of you.
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- August 13, 2012 at 11:41 pm
Dearest Nahmi,
I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.
I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together.
I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.
I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.
Thinking of you.
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- August 13, 2012 at 11:41 pm
Dearest Nahmi,
I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.
I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together.
I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.
I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.
Thinking of you.
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- August 14, 2012 at 8:43 am
So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.
Lisa
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- August 14, 2012 at 8:43 am
So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.
Lisa
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- August 14, 2012 at 8:43 am
So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.
Lisa
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