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    • August 10, 2012 at 6:13 am
    deardad
    Participant

    Today and 12.40, 9th August my father passed away in my mums arms in a private hospice with his two daughters, myself and my sister Rachel.

    He complained of a stomach pain on Wednesday night and we got into this lovely private palliative care hospice the next day where is rapidly declined. He fought all the way still believing he would see the neurosurgeon next week. The nurse thought it was probably his liver. 

    I am totally numb and feel so incredibly lost.

    My deardad is gone.

    Nahmi from Melbourne

    Today and 12.40, 9th August my father passed away in my mums arms in a private hospice with his two daughters, myself and my sister Rachel.

    He complained of a stomach pain on Wednesday night and we got into this lovely private palliative care hospice the next day where is rapidly declined. He fought all the way still believing he would see the neurosurgeon next week. The nurse thought it was probably his liver. 

    I am totally numb and feel so incredibly lost.

    My deardad is gone.

    Nahmi from Melbourne

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      • August 10, 2012 at 6:48 am
      lhaley
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed away.   Your dad is now in peace but the rest of your family is in pain.   Surround your self in good memories.   Know that you have done all you could have.

      Linda

      • August 10, 2012 at 6:48 am
      lhaley
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed away.   Your dad is now in peace but the rest of your family is in pain.   Surround your self in good memories.   Know that you have done all you could have.

      Linda

      • August 10, 2012 at 6:48 am
      lhaley
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed away.   Your dad is now in peace but the rest of your family is in pain.   Surround your self in good memories.   Know that you have done all you could have.

      Linda

      • August 10, 2012 at 7:01 am
      hope4cure1
      Participant

      Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all.  You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts.  Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength.  My prayers tonight go out to you and your family.  Take care,

      Hope

      • August 10, 2012 at 7:01 am
      hope4cure1
      Participant

      Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all.  You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts.  Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength.  My prayers tonight go out to you and your family.  Take care,

      Hope

      • August 10, 2012 at 7:01 am
      hope4cure1
      Participant

      Nahmi, I just wish I could hug you. This has been such a tough journey for you all.  You love for your dad was so very obvious in your posts.  Surely, your dad felt that love, and it gave him comfort strength.  My prayers tonight go out to you and your family.  Take care,

      Hope

      • August 10, 2012 at 8:42 am
      FormerCaregiver
      Participant

      Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.

      Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.

      Take care

      Frank from Australia

      • August 10, 2012 at 8:42 am
      FormerCaregiver
      Participant

      Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.

      Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.

      Take care

      Frank from Australia

        • August 10, 2012 at 9:01 am
        Vermont_Donna
        Participant

        Dear Nahmi,

        I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.

        Hugs,

        Vermont_Donna

        • August 10, 2012 at 9:01 am
        Vermont_Donna
        Participant

        Dear Nahmi,

        I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.

        Hugs,

        Vermont_Donna

        • August 10, 2012 at 9:01 am
        Vermont_Donna
        Participant

        Dear Nahmi,

        I am so sorry to hear that your father has died from melanoma cancer. He certainly was a fighter and you were right beside him every step of the way. May your memories comfort you and your family.

        Hugs,

        Vermont_Donna

      • August 10, 2012 at 8:42 am
      FormerCaregiver
      Participant

      Nahmi, I am deeply saddened to read that your dad has passed away. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy.

      Unfortunately, there is nothing much that anyone can say that will make a lot of difference to how you might be feeling at the moment. However, talking with others who have also lost a loved one to melanoma helped me to cope with the loss of my wife in 2009.

      Take care

      Frank from Australia

      • August 10, 2012 at 9:28 am
      saddaughter
      Participant
      Nahmi,
      I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.

      Cathy

      • August 10, 2012 at 9:28 am
      saddaughter
      Participant
      Nahmi,
      I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.

      Cathy

      • August 10, 2012 at 9:28 am
      saddaughter
      Participant
      Nahmi,
      I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. May you find comfort in your family as you go through this difficult journey. I’m sure your dad would have passed being so proud of you and knowing how much you loved him.

      Cathy

      • August 10, 2012 at 11:02 am
      Lori C
      Participant

      Nahmi, I am so very sorry.  You did an incredible job of advocating and caregiving.  Your dad was surrounded by love.  I think that is perhaps the very best any of us can hope for.  May his memory be for a blessing,

       

      Lori caregiver to Will

      • August 10, 2012 at 11:02 am
      Lori C
      Participant

      Nahmi, I am so very sorry.  You did an incredible job of advocating and caregiving.  Your dad was surrounded by love.  I think that is perhaps the very best any of us can hope for.  May his memory be for a blessing,

       

      Lori caregiver to Will

      • August 10, 2012 at 11:02 am
      Lori C
      Participant

      Nahmi, I am so very sorry.  You did an incredible job of advocating and caregiving.  Your dad was surrounded by love.  I think that is perhaps the very best any of us can hope for.  May his memory be for a blessing,

       

      Lori caregiver to Will

      • August 10, 2012 at 12:59 pm
      Gene_S
      Participant

      Nahmi,  We are so sorry to hear of your Dear Dad's Passing.  Our prayers go out to you and the family.  You were such a great caregiver and advocate for Dad.  Remember the good memories.

      Judy and Gene

      • August 10, 2012 at 12:59 pm
      Gene_S
      Participant

      Nahmi,  We are so sorry to hear of your Dear Dad's Passing.  Our prayers go out to you and the family.  You were such a great caregiver and advocate for Dad.  Remember the good memories.

      Judy and Gene

      • August 10, 2012 at 12:59 pm
      Gene_S
      Participant

      Nahmi,  We are so sorry to hear of your Dear Dad's Passing.  Our prayers go out to you and the family.  You were such a great caregiver and advocate for Dad.  Remember the good memories.

      Judy and Gene

      • August 10, 2012 at 1:41 pm
      triciad
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  He was truly lucky to have such an amazing daughter.  May his memories confort you in this difficult time and know his spirit lives within you forever.  My deepest sympathies.

      Tricia

      • August 10, 2012 at 1:41 pm
      triciad
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  He was truly lucky to have such an amazing daughter.  May his memories confort you in this difficult time and know his spirit lives within you forever.  My deepest sympathies.

      Tricia

      • August 10, 2012 at 1:41 pm
      triciad
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  He was truly lucky to have such an amazing daughter.  May his memories confort you in this difficult time and know his spirit lives within you forever.  My deepest sympathies.

      Tricia

      • August 10, 2012 at 2:30 pm
      Karin L
      Participant

      I wish I could hug you, I am so sorry Nahmi.  I have 2 daughters and a son myself and I worry all the time how they are doing.  Godspeed Daddy.

      Karin

      • August 10, 2012 at 2:30 pm
      Karin L
      Participant

      I wish I could hug you, I am so sorry Nahmi.  I have 2 daughters and a son myself and I worry all the time how they are doing.  Godspeed Daddy.

      Karin

      • August 10, 2012 at 2:30 pm
      Karin L
      Participant

      I wish I could hug you, I am so sorry Nahmi.  I have 2 daughters and a son myself and I worry all the time how they are doing.  Godspeed Daddy.

      Karin

      • August 10, 2012 at 3:08 pm
      MeNDave
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I'm so sorry honey.  I wish I could hug you right now.  Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him.  I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile.  You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.

      You BOTH fought a good fight.

      Much love,

      Maria

      • August 10, 2012 at 3:08 pm
      MeNDave
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I'm so sorry honey.  I wish I could hug you right now.  Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him.  I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile.  You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.

      You BOTH fought a good fight.

      Much love,

      Maria

      • August 10, 2012 at 3:08 pm
      MeNDave
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I'm so sorry honey.  I wish I could hug you right now.  Take time to grieve… and know that you did everything you could to help him.  I hope you find some peace (I'm still looking for mine), and in time can smile.  You were such an amazing advocate for him, and I'm sure he's looking down on you with a smile.

      You BOTH fought a good fight.

      Much love,

      Maria

      • August 10, 2012 at 5:16 pm
      Linny
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so very sorry to hear this. You fought so hard for your dad. I'm sure he knows just how hard you fought and how much you loved him. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

      Linda

      • August 10, 2012 at 5:16 pm
      Linny
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so very sorry to hear this. You fought so hard for your dad. I'm sure he knows just how hard you fought and how much you loved him. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

      Linda

      • August 10, 2012 at 5:16 pm
      Linny
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so very sorry to hear this. You fought so hard for your dad. I'm sure he knows just how hard you fought and how much you loved him. I wish I could give you a big hug right now.

      Linda

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:12 am
      deardad
      Participant

      In all my madness I posted the wrong date (not that it matters) 

      Henry Winkler

      13/4/1947-10/8/2012

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:12 am
      deardad
      Participant

      In all my madness I posted the wrong date (not that it matters) 

      Henry Winkler

      13/4/1947-10/8/2012

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:12 am
      deardad
      Participant

      In all my madness I posted the wrong date (not that it matters) 

      Henry Winkler

      13/4/1947-10/8/2012

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:56 am
      gabsound
      Participant
      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.

      Hugs,
      Julie in Las Vegas

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:56 am
      gabsound
      Participant
      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.

      Hugs,
      Julie in Las Vegas

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:56 am
      gabsound
      Participant
      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear your father has died. There is never a good time to lose a parent. I’m sure you will have some comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering. Hold closely your family, and with time may you only remember the good time with your father.

      Hugs,
      Julie in Las Vegas

      • August 11, 2012 at 2:39 am
      s Mom
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so sorry for your loss.  I know how much you loved your dad.

      Jeff's Mom (Bridgette)

      • August 11, 2012 at 2:39 am
      s Mom
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so sorry for your loss.  I know how much you loved your dad.

      Jeff's Mom (Bridgette)

      • August 11, 2012 at 2:39 am
      s Mom
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so sorry for your loss.  I know how much you loved your dad.

      Jeff's Mom (Bridgette)

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:15 pm
      benp
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi, 

      I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.

      Thinking about you, 

      Ben.

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:15 pm
      benp
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi, 

      I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.

      Thinking about you, 

      Ben.

      • August 11, 2012 at 12:15 pm
      benp
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi, 

      I don't know what else to say other than I am very sad and sorry for your loss. Despite the huge sadness that you must feel, you should be confident that you did everything a daighter could possibly do to support your dad and his illness.

      Thinking about you, 

      Ben.

      • August 11, 2012 at 6:42 pm
      Phil S
      Participant
      Nahmi, Prayers and strength for your family during this difficult time. You sound like an amazing daughter, a wonderful tribute to your Dad. God bless, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
      • August 11, 2012 at 6:42 pm
      Phil S
      Participant
      Nahmi, Prayers and strength for your family during this difficult time. You sound like an amazing daughter, a wonderful tribute to your Dad. God bless, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
      • August 11, 2012 at 6:42 pm
      Phil S
      Participant
      Nahmi, Prayers and strength for your family during this difficult time. You sound like an amazing daughter, a wonderful tribute to your Dad. God bless, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
      • August 12, 2012 at 12:27 am
      jag
      Participant
      Very sorry to hear this, you will be in my prayers.
      • August 12, 2012 at 12:27 am
      jag
      Participant
      Very sorry to hear this, you will be in my prayers.
      • August 12, 2012 at 12:27 am
      jag
      Participant
      Very sorry to hear this, you will be in my prayers.
      • August 12, 2012 at 2:10 am
      awillett1991
      Participant
      So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease!
      • August 12, 2012 at 2:10 am
      awillett1991
      Participant
      So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease!
      • August 12, 2012 at 2:10 am
      awillett1991
      Participant
      So sorry for your loss. Be comforted knowing he suffers no more. I lost my dad to Mel 2.5 yrs ago and I am know stage 4 myself. I Hate this awful disease!
      • August 12, 2012 at 7:06 am
      James from Sydney
      Participant

      Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1

       

      best wishes

      James

        • August 12, 2012 at 11:24 am
        deardad
        Participant

        Thank you for all your kind words.

        I will continue to check in to support all you fighters, carers and loved ones who have lost also.

        Love Nahmi

        • August 12, 2012 at 11:24 am
        deardad
        Participant

        Thank you for all your kind words.

        I will continue to check in to support all you fighters, carers and loved ones who have lost also.

        Love Nahmi

        • August 12, 2012 at 11:24 am
        deardad
        Participant

        Thank you for all your kind words.

        I will continue to check in to support all you fighters, carers and loved ones who have lost also.

        Love Nahmi

      • August 12, 2012 at 7:06 am
      James from Sydney
      Participant

      Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1

       

      best wishes

      James

      • August 12, 2012 at 7:06 am
      James from Sydney
      Participant

      Nahmi my condolences to all your family, we have never met your father but if he was anything like you then he must have been a great man, i know he would have been so proud of you standing by him from day 1

       

      best wishes

      James

      • August 12, 2012 at 1:51 pm
      Richard_K
      Participant

      Nahmi

      I am so sorry to read this news. I hope the time comes quickly to you where all you can remember the good times and laughs you must have shared.

      Dick

      • August 12, 2012 at 1:51 pm
      Richard_K
      Participant

      Nahmi

      I am so sorry to read this news. I hope the time comes quickly to you where all you can remember the good times and laughs you must have shared.

      Dick

      • August 12, 2012 at 1:51 pm
      Richard_K
      Participant

      Nahmi

      I am so sorry to read this news. I hope the time comes quickly to you where all you can remember the good times and laughs you must have shared.

      Dick

      • August 12, 2012 at 1:52 pm
      aldakota22
      Participant

      Another  good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast.    Al

        • August 12, 2012 at 6:05 pm
        Snickers60
        Participant

        Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story !   I know your hearts are broken !   You were such a good caregiver !   I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time !   DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !  

        • August 12, 2012 at 6:05 pm
        Snickers60
        Participant

        Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story !   I know your hearts are broken !   You were such a good caregiver !   I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time !   DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !  

        • August 12, 2012 at 6:05 pm
        Snickers60
        Participant

        Soooo sorry Nahmi – I have been following your story !   I know your hearts are broken !   You were such a good caregiver !   I pray for peace and healing of your hearts in time !   DEEPEST CONDOLENCES TO YOU !  

      • August 12, 2012 at 1:52 pm
      aldakota22
      Participant

      Another  good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast.    Al

      • August 12, 2012 at 1:52 pm
      aldakota22
      Participant

      Another  good person gone to early to this awful disese.Very sorry for your loss.Will be in my prayers .Know he had a loving daughter.Blessed in that respect .Beat the Beast.    Al

      • August 13, 2012 at 2:05 am
      kristine
      Participant

      Thank you for all of your posts, just want you to know that your input has touched my life.  May God comfort you and your family now and always.  You are a special person.  God Bless

        • August 13, 2012 at 2:15 am
        NYKaren
        Participant
        Dear Nahmi,
        I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m glad your dad was surrounded by his loving family. You are a wonderful daughter and I too wish I could hug you.
        Karen
        • August 13, 2012 at 2:15 am
        NYKaren
        Participant
        Dear Nahmi,
        I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m glad your dad was surrounded by his loving family. You are a wonderful daughter and I too wish I could hug you.
        Karen
        • August 13, 2012 at 2:15 am
        NYKaren
        Participant
        Dear Nahmi,
        I am so very sorry for your loss. I’m glad your dad was surrounded by his loving family. You are a wonderful daughter and I too wish I could hug you.
        Karen
      • August 13, 2012 at 2:05 am
      kristine
      Participant

      Thank you for all of your posts, just want you to know that your input has touched my life.  May God comfort you and your family now and always.  You are a special person.  God Bless

      • August 13, 2012 at 2:05 am
      kristine
      Participant

      Thank you for all of your posts, just want you to know that your input has touched my life.  May God comfort you and your family now and always.  You are a special person.  God Bless

      • August 13, 2012 at 3:21 am
      susanr
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry.  I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered.  Your dad is at peace and free from pain.  I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place.  My prayers are with you.

      Susan

      • August 13, 2012 at 3:21 am
      susanr
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry.  I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered.  Your dad is at peace and free from pain.  I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place.  My prayers are with you.

      Susan

      • August 13, 2012 at 3:21 am
      susanr
      Participant

      Nahmi,

      I am so sorry.  I have read most of your posts and know how you both have suffered.  Your dad is at peace and free from pain.  I do believe that this is a temporary seperation for your family. You will all see your dad some day in a better place.  My prayers are with you.

      Susan

      • August 13, 2012 at 4:17 am
      AllyNTAus
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You did everything possible to try and find answers for your Dad.

      Sending you lots of virtual hugs,

      Allison in Darwin NT

      • August 13, 2012 at 4:17 am
      AllyNTAus
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You did everything possible to try and find answers for your Dad.

      Sending you lots of virtual hugs,

      Allison in Darwin NT

      • August 13, 2012 at 4:17 am
      AllyNTAus
      Participant

      Dear Nahmi,

      I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You did everything possible to try and find answers for your Dad.

      Sending you lots of virtual hugs,

      Allison in Darwin NT

      • August 13, 2012 at 11:41 pm
      Ashykay
      Participant

      Dearest Nahmi,

      I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.

      I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together. 

      I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.

      I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.

      Thinking of you.

      • August 13, 2012 at 11:41 pm
      Ashykay
      Participant

      Dearest Nahmi,

      I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.

      I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together. 

      I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.

      I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.

      Thinking of you.

      • August 13, 2012 at 11:41 pm
      Ashykay
      Participant

      Dearest Nahmi,

      I am truly sorry to hear about your Dad – he was obviously a fighter. Although they tell you (in one way or another) that the time is near, I don't think anything can prepare you for that moment, or even the moments beforehand when they are unwell.

      I'm going on 3 months without my Mum (who passed away in May from melanoma of unknown primary). I think I have been in the "denial" stage for pretty much the entire 3 months, and it's only just starting to hit me now. I can't explain how much I miss her….and now I am really starting to feel that. I hope that I can help you by saying that nothing is normal right now – you just need to do what is best for you, and not to worry about anyone else, or the expectations that people have about your grieving process. Your Dad will be with you every step of the way, and you will probably be surprised as to the strength that you have which will come from your Dad and the life you've had together. 

      I'm getting on the melanoma advocacy bandwagon big time here in Australia (well, as best as I can) – I'm from Brisbane. I'm in touch with a fellow "melanoma warrier" called Jay Allen – you may have heard of him (he was on RPA years ago), trying to raise awareness as well as funds into research. I really think that's what has kept me going these past few months.

      I wish for your benefit that your fellow family members and friends gather around to support each other as best you can during this difficult time. I hope that you are able to find solace and comfort in time.

      Thinking of you.

      • August 14, 2012 at 8:43 am
      Lisa – Aust
      Participant

      So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.

      Lisa

      • August 14, 2012 at 8:43 am
      Lisa – Aust
      Participant

      So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.

      Lisa

      • August 14, 2012 at 8:43 am
      Lisa – Aust
      Participant

      So sorry to hear this news. You were such a wonderful support to him – he was lucky to have you.

      Lisa

      • August 16, 2012 at 12:13 am
      cwu
      Participant
      Nahmi,

      I am incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. Please know that he is no longer in pain and that he will always be by your side.

      Chau

      • August 16, 2012 at 12:13 am
      cwu
      Participant
      Nahmi,

      I am incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. Please know that he is no longer in pain and that he will always be by your side.

      Chau

      • August 16, 2012 at 12:13 am
      cwu
      Participant
      Nahmi,

      I am incredibly sad and sorry for your loss. Please know that he is no longer in pain and that he will always be by your side.

      Chau

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