davidfromsingapore

Hello

I hope this message finds you well.  Let e start by saying that since I found out about my disease (I am stage 4 with brain mets), my wife has done and said some incredibly cruel things – things that others may not forgive.  These have been extremely difficult years for us.  But if you ever were a solid couple and if there have been slivers of light, I think you can and will make it through this.  For me, it was realising that I could not change the situation.  Things happened.  I said I forgave her, but I really didn't.  I wasn't until I truly forgave her – decided that there was nothing i could do to change the past, that things started getting better.  These events are super stressful for everyone and when you are in the hot seat, even if you are pretty realistic, it is still very difficult to see what is happening, to objectively view your reactions, and to know what to do.  Since my original dx in 2008, there have been at least a dozen times that I wanted to call it quits (as did she).  But I took a few steps back, I tried hard to withhold judgement, I just let a few things go, and it worked.  I know not everyone can achieve this, but maybe try taking a step back – for a good long while.  Don't judge, and try really hard not to let anything he says hurt you.  Just let it roll off for now.  One thing for sure, in the end, it doesn't matter who is to blame.  For me the best advice was – "Regardless of what is done or said, don't take it personally."  I can still make my life better, and if need be I can become independant.  I would prefer to have her here with me – to support me, but I could also be destroyed waiting.  My kids need me for sure, so I will be a little selfish these days in my emotional needs so I am able to help them.  If things work out, she will understand what appears to be selfishness is really love.

Sincerely, David 

Hello

I hope this message finds you well.  Let e start by saying that since I found out about my disease (I am stage 4 with brain mets), my wife has done and said some incredibly cruel things – things that others may not forgive.  These have been extremely difficult years for us.  But if you ever were a solid couple and if there have been slivers of light, I think you can and will make it through this.  For me, it was realising that I could not change the situation.  Things happened.  I said I forgave her, but I really didn't.  I wasn't until I truly forgave her – decided that there was nothing i could do to change the past, that things started getting better.  These events are super stressful for everyone and when you are in the hot seat, even if you are pretty realistic, it is still very difficult to see what is happening, to objectively view your reactions, and to know what to do.  Since my original dx in 2008, there have been at least a dozen times that I wanted to call it quits (as did she).  But I took a few steps back, I tried hard to withhold judgement, I just let a few things go, and it worked.  I know not everyone can achieve this, but maybe try taking a step back – for a good long while.  Don't judge, and try really hard not to let anything he says hurt you.  Just let it roll off for now.  One thing for sure, in the end, it doesn't matter who is to blame.  For me the best advice was – "Regardless of what is done or said, don't take it personally."  I can still make my life better, and if need be I can become independant.  I would prefer to have her here with me – to support me, but I could also be destroyed waiting.  My kids need me for sure, so I will be a little selfish these days in my emotional needs so I am able to help them.  If things work out, she will understand what appears to be selfishness is really love.

Sincerely, David 

Hello

I hope this message finds you well.  Let e start by saying that since I found out about my disease (I am stage 4 with brain mets), my wife has done and said some incredibly cruel things – things that others may not forgive.  These have been extremely difficult years for us.  But if you ever were a solid couple and if there have been slivers of light, I think you can and will make it through this.  For me, it was realising that I could not change the situation.  Things happened.  I said I forgave her, but I really didn't.  I wasn't until I truly forgave her – decided that there was nothing i could do to change the past, that things started getting better.  These events are super stressful for everyone and when you are in the hot seat, even if you are pretty realistic, it is still very difficult to see what is happening, to objectively view your reactions, and to know what to do.  Since my original dx in 2008, there have been at least a dozen times that I wanted to call it quits (as did she).  But I took a few steps back, I tried hard to withhold judgement, I just let a few things go, and it worked.  I know not everyone can achieve this, but maybe try taking a step back – for a good long while.  Don't judge, and try really hard not to let anything he says hurt you.  Just let it roll off for now.  One thing for sure, in the end, it doesn't matter who is to blame.  For me the best advice was – "Regardless of what is done or said, don't take it personally."  I can still make my life better, and if need be I can become independant.  I would prefer to have her here with me – to support me, but I could also be destroyed waiting.  My kids need me for sure, so I will be a little selfish these days in my emotional needs so I am able to help them.  If things work out, she will understand what appears to be selfishness is really love.

Sincerely, David 

Hi Kellie

Been on Zelboraf since November 2011.  My main side effect is fatigue.  I'm tired all the time – which is very unlike the old me.  Also – I've been having a fair number of headaches and a bit of numbness in my hands and feet.  Worst of all – the drug is not working for me.  I found out that my brain mets have returned and now I will need to try a new chemo drug.  Not trying to depress you – I've read that Zelboraf is having Amazing results in most patients.  Sending positive thoughts your way. 

David

Hi Kellie

Been on Zelboraf since November 2011.  My main side effect is fatigue.  I'm tired all the time – which is very unlike the old me.  Also – I've been having a fair number of headaches and a bit of numbness in my hands and feet.  Worst of all – the drug is not working for me.  I found out that my brain mets have returned and now I will need to try a new chemo drug.  Not trying to depress you – I've read that Zelboraf is having Amazing results in most patients.  Sending positive thoughts your way. 

David

Hi Kellie

Been on Zelboraf since November 2011.  My main side effect is fatigue.  I'm tired all the time – which is very unlike the old me.  Also – I've been having a fair number of headaches and a bit of numbness in my hands and feet.  Worst of all – the drug is not working for me.  I found out that my brain mets have returned and now I will need to try a new chemo drug.  Not trying to depress you – I've read that Zelboraf is having Amazing results in most patients.  Sending positive thoughts your way. 

David

Claire

I am so sory for your loss, but I am so happy that you had the opportunity to know this wonderful man and partner.  I am thinking about you and sending strength and prayers your way.  "Better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all."  

David

Claire

I am so sory for your loss, but I am so happy that you had the opportunity to know this wonderful man and partner.  I am thinking about you and sending strength and prayers your way.  "Better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all."  

David

Claire

I am so sory for your loss, but I am so happy that you had the opportunity to know this wonderful man and partner.  I am thinking about you and sending strength and prayers your way.  "Better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all."  

David

Awesome news dude.  Carry on!

Awesome news dude.  Carry on!

Awesome news dude.  Carry on!