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My husband Howard passed away

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    • March 5, 2012 at 9:30 pm
    Cspan
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      On February 4, 2012 my husband passes away from melanoma. Although I never posted much I did read you posts every single day. The support I received from all of you was a life line. Howard was diagnosed with a scalp melanoma in February 2011
      He has a radical neck dissection and high dose radiation over the summer. On Labor Day weekend we walked 5 miles. He came home and coughed up blood. He had 4 rounds of advanced biochemo during the fall and one dose of high dose IL 2.
      On February 4 th I came home to him talking jibberise. It spread to his brain, he had a massive stroke and died 4 days later. He has a peaceful passing surrounded by our 2 sons and myself. I held his hand and told him it was Ok to go, he took one last breath and died.
      He had worked up until 4 days before he died. Howard was a young energetic 62 years old.
      The grief is very hard, we had a very good marriage of 32 years
      Thank you all for sharing all the ups and downs…you are all an inspiration
      Claire
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        • March 5, 2012 at 9:34 pm
        Jewel
        Participant

          Claire and family

          My thoughts and prayers are with you

          Jewel

          • March 5, 2012 at 9:34 pm
          Jewel
          Participant

            Claire and family

            My thoughts and prayers are with you

            Jewel

            • March 5, 2012 at 9:34 pm
            Jewel
            Participant

              Claire and family

              My thoughts and prayers are with you

              Jewel

              • March 5, 2012 at 9:58 pm
              JerryfromFauq
              Participant

                Glad that the passing was as well as it was.  I know what a hole can be left, but being surrounded by love and not having extended pain means so much.  Remember the great times he had with you and the boys.

                • March 5, 2012 at 9:58 pm
                JerryfromFauq
                Participant

                  Glad that the passing was as well as it was.  I know what a hole can be left, but being surrounded by love and not having extended pain means so much.  Remember the great times he had with you and the boys.

                  • March 5, 2012 at 9:58 pm
                  JerryfromFauq
                  Participant

                    Glad that the passing was as well as it was.  I know what a hole can be left, but being surrounded by love and not having extended pain means so much.  Remember the great times he had with you and the boys.

                    • March 5, 2012 at 10:01 pm
                    aldakota22
                    Participant

                      Very sorry to hear of his passing.Died way too young.Try to remember only the good times you shared .God bless.  Al

                      • March 5, 2012 at 10:01 pm
                      aldakota22
                      Participant

                        Very sorry to hear of his passing.Died way too young.Try to remember only the good times you shared .God bless.  Al

                          • March 5, 2012 at 10:12 pm
                          deardad
                          Participant

                            Im sorry to hear you lost your husband. My condolences to you and your family.

                            You are in my thoughts.

                            Nahmi

                            • March 5, 2012 at 10:12 pm
                            deardad
                            Participant

                              Im sorry to hear you lost your husband. My condolences to you and your family.

                              You are in my thoughts.

                              Nahmi

                              • March 5, 2012 at 10:12 pm
                              deardad
                              Participant

                                Im sorry to hear you lost your husband. My condolences to you and your family.

                                You are in my thoughts.

                                Nahmi

                              • March 5, 2012 at 10:01 pm
                              aldakota22
                              Participant

                                Very sorry to hear of his passing.Died way too young.Try to remember only the good times you shared .God bless.  Al

                                • March 5, 2012 at 10:19 pm
                                hope4cure1
                                Participant

                                  Claire,

                                  I am so sorry to hear of Howard's passing.  It sounds like he was determined to stay active for as long as possible, and in that he was successful.  Thank you so much for letting us know.  You lovingly gave him the freedom to rest.  Our prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

                                  Hope

                                  • March 5, 2012 at 10:19 pm
                                  hope4cure1
                                  Participant

                                    Claire,

                                    I am so sorry to hear of Howard's passing.  It sounds like he was determined to stay active for as long as possible, and in that he was successful.  Thank you so much for letting us know.  You lovingly gave him the freedom to rest.  Our prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

                                    Hope

                                    • March 5, 2012 at 10:19 pm
                                    hope4cure1
                                    Participant

                                      Claire,

                                      I am so sorry to hear of Howard's passing.  It sounds like he was determined to stay active for as long as possible, and in that he was successful.  Thank you so much for letting us know.  You lovingly gave him the freedom to rest.  Our prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

                                      Hope

                                      • March 6, 2012 at 12:14 am
                                      lhaley
                                      Participant

                                        Claire,

                                        I'm so sorry to hear that Howard passed well before his time. Unbeleivable that he was able to work till just 4 days before he passed away. 

                                        Remember your wonderful 32 years.

                                        Linda

                                        • March 6, 2012 at 12:14 am
                                        lhaley
                                        Participant

                                          Claire,

                                          I'm so sorry to hear that Howard passed well before his time. Unbeleivable that he was able to work till just 4 days before he passed away. 

                                          Remember your wonderful 32 years.

                                          Linda

                                          • March 6, 2012 at 12:14 am
                                          lhaley
                                          Participant

                                            Claire,

                                            I'm so sorry to hear that Howard passed well before his time. Unbeleivable that he was able to work till just 4 days before he passed away. 

                                            Remember your wonderful 32 years.

                                            Linda

                                            • March 6, 2012 at 12:17 am
                                            Mrsgkr
                                            Participant

                                              Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

                                              • March 6, 2012 at 12:17 am
                                              Mrsgkr
                                              Participant

                                                Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

                                                • March 6, 2012 at 12:17 am
                                                Mrsgkr
                                                Participant

                                                  Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

                                                  • March 6, 2012 at 11:57 am
                                                  MeNDave
                                                  Participant

                                                    Dear Claire,

                                                    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  I hope that as time passes, your grief lessens and your happy memories become clearer.  Hold him close to your heart, he'll always be with you.

                                                    Hugs,

                                                    Maria

                                                    • March 6, 2012 at 11:57 am
                                                    MeNDave
                                                    Participant

                                                      Dear Claire,

                                                      I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  I hope that as time passes, your grief lessens and your happy memories become clearer.  Hold him close to your heart, he'll always be with you.

                                                      Hugs,

                                                      Maria

                                                      • March 6, 2012 at 11:57 am
                                                      MeNDave
                                                      Participant

                                                        Dear Claire,

                                                        I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  I hope that as time passes, your grief lessens and your happy memories become clearer.  Hold him close to your heart, he'll always be with you.

                                                        Hugs,

                                                        Maria

                                                        • March 6, 2012 at 2:15 pm
                                                        Gene_S
                                                        Participant

                                                          Claire,

                                                          sorry to hear of Howards passing.  You and the family are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                          Judy (loving wife and caregiver of Gene Stage IV)

                                                          • March 6, 2012 at 2:15 pm
                                                          Gene_S
                                                          Participant

                                                            Claire,

                                                            sorry to hear of Howards passing.  You and the family are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                            Judy (loving wife and caregiver of Gene Stage IV)

                                                            • March 6, 2012 at 2:15 pm
                                                            Gene_S
                                                            Participant

                                                              Claire,

                                                              sorry to hear of Howards passing.  You and the family are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                              Judy (loving wife and caregiver of Gene Stage IV)

                                                              • March 6, 2012 at 3:31 pm
                                                              davidfromsingapore
                                                              Participant

                                                                Claire

                                                                 

                                                                I am so sory for your loss, but I am so happy that you had the opportunity to know this wonderful man and partner.  I am thinking about you and sending strength and prayers your way.  "Better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all."  

                                                                 

                                                                David

                                                                • March 6, 2012 at 3:31 pm
                                                                davidfromsingapore
                                                                Participant

                                                                  Claire

                                                                   

                                                                  I am so sory for your loss, but I am so happy that you had the opportunity to know this wonderful man and partner.  I am thinking about you and sending strength and prayers your way.  "Better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all."  

                                                                   

                                                                  David

                                                                  • March 6, 2012 at 3:31 pm
                                                                  davidfromsingapore
                                                                  Participant

                                                                    Claire

                                                                     

                                                                    I am so sory for your loss, but I am so happy that you had the opportunity to know this wonderful man and partner.  I am thinking about you and sending strength and prayers your way.  "Better to have love and lost, then never to have loved at all."  

                                                                     

                                                                    David

                                                                    • March 6, 2012 at 4:57 pm
                                                                    Phil S
                                                                    Participant
                                                                      Claire, Our thoughts are with you and your sons during this difficult time. Hold your good memories tight and they will bring you comfort. God bless you, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                      • March 6, 2012 at 4:57 pm
                                                                      Phil S
                                                                      Participant
                                                                        Claire, Our thoughts are with you and your sons during this difficult time. Hold your good memories tight and they will bring you comfort. God bless you, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                        • March 6, 2012 at 4:57 pm
                                                                        Phil S
                                                                        Participant
                                                                          Claire, Our thoughts are with you and your sons during this difficult time. Hold your good memories tight and they will bring you comfort. God bless you, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                          • March 7, 2012 at 1:51 am
                                                                          FormerCaregiver
                                                                          Participant

                                                                            Claire, I am truly saddened to read of your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.

                                                                            My thoughts are with you and your family.

                                                                            Take care

                                                                            Frank from Australia

                                                                            • March 7, 2012 at 1:51 am
                                                                            FormerCaregiver
                                                                            Participant

                                                                              Claire, I am truly saddened to read of your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.

                                                                              My thoughts are with you and your family.

                                                                              Take care

                                                                              Frank from Australia

                                                                              • March 7, 2012 at 1:51 am
                                                                              FormerCaregiver
                                                                              Participant

                                                                                Claire, I am truly saddened to read of your loss. Please accept my sincere condolences.

                                                                                My thoughts are with you and your family.

                                                                                Take care

                                                                                Frank from Australia

                                                                                • March 8, 2012 at 6:31 pm
                                                                                Sherron
                                                                                Participant

                                                                                  Claire, I am so sorry for your recent loss.  The pain is unbearable, I know.  My husband, Jim, was diagnosed with Nodular Melonoma of the Scalp in July 2006.  My husband was all about QUALITY LIFE rather than QUANITY LIFE…so his choice were not to do the WLE, no SNB, no drugs, no chemo.  Jim lived for 4 years and 4 and passed away on Nov 30, 2010.  He did fight, and was a warrior, just fought with alternative measures.  He felt great until Sept 2010, and worked 6 day that month, 1 day in October…Before that never went thru any problems at all….It metazied to many places, the worst being his intestines..he had 13 tumors there alone.  He was fully cohert talking, great sense of humor, even up to hours before his death.  I feel sad today, hearing of still other still passing from this ugly disease.  My husband was 64.  He passed away 4 days before our 43rd wedding anniversary.  Our husbands won the battle, they are pain free, and Mel can no longer invade their bodies.  I wish you peace, comfort, and pray you have a great faith in God.  It will help through this journey.  I don't come here often anymore, but saw you post and felt an impulse to reach out.

                                                                                  Take Care,

                                                                                  Sherron, wife to Jim FOREVER

                                                                                  you can read his story uder the profile name Sherron.

                                                                                  • March 8, 2012 at 6:31 pm
                                                                                  Sherron
                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                    Claire, I am so sorry for your recent loss.  The pain is unbearable, I know.  My husband, Jim, was diagnosed with Nodular Melonoma of the Scalp in July 2006.  My husband was all about QUALITY LIFE rather than QUANITY LIFE…so his choice were not to do the WLE, no SNB, no drugs, no chemo.  Jim lived for 4 years and 4 and passed away on Nov 30, 2010.  He did fight, and was a warrior, just fought with alternative measures.  He felt great until Sept 2010, and worked 6 day that month, 1 day in October…Before that never went thru any problems at all….It metazied to many places, the worst being his intestines..he had 13 tumors there alone.  He was fully cohert talking, great sense of humor, even up to hours before his death.  I feel sad today, hearing of still other still passing from this ugly disease.  My husband was 64.  He passed away 4 days before our 43rd wedding anniversary.  Our husbands won the battle, they are pain free, and Mel can no longer invade their bodies.  I wish you peace, comfort, and pray you have a great faith in God.  It will help through this journey.  I don't come here often anymore, but saw you post and felt an impulse to reach out.

                                                                                    Take Care,

                                                                                    Sherron, wife to Jim FOREVER

                                                                                    you can read his story uder the profile name Sherron.

                                                                                    • March 8, 2012 at 6:31 pm
                                                                                    Sherron
                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                      Claire, I am so sorry for your recent loss.  The pain is unbearable, I know.  My husband, Jim, was diagnosed with Nodular Melonoma of the Scalp in July 2006.  My husband was all about QUALITY LIFE rather than QUANITY LIFE…so his choice were not to do the WLE, no SNB, no drugs, no chemo.  Jim lived for 4 years and 4 and passed away on Nov 30, 2010.  He did fight, and was a warrior, just fought with alternative measures.  He felt great until Sept 2010, and worked 6 day that month, 1 day in October…Before that never went thru any problems at all….It metazied to many places, the worst being his intestines..he had 13 tumors there alone.  He was fully cohert talking, great sense of humor, even up to hours before his death.  I feel sad today, hearing of still other still passing from this ugly disease.  My husband was 64.  He passed away 4 days before our 43rd wedding anniversary.  Our husbands won the battle, they are pain free, and Mel can no longer invade their bodies.  I wish you peace, comfort, and pray you have a great faith in God.  It will help through this journey.  I don't come here often anymore, but saw you post and felt an impulse to reach out.

                                                                                      Take Care,

                                                                                      Sherron, wife to Jim FOREVER

                                                                                      you can read his story uder the profile name Sherron.

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