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    • March 4, 2012 at 8:36 pm
    Jan in OC
    Participant

      Hi everyone, 

      I am struggling to find the words to tell you that Dirk's battle with this horrible cancer is now over.  He passed away in the early morning hours yesterday, 3/3/12.  He was a wonderful husband and father. He was such a good man.  He maintained his sense of humor through every treatment, but at the end, he was just so tired. I  know he is mountain biking up in heaven, but those of us he left behind are very sad.  We have had 25 wonderful years together and I will miss him!

      Hi everyone, 

      I am struggling to find the words to tell you that Dirk's battle with this horrible cancer is now over.  He passed away in the early morning hours yesterday, 3/3/12.  He was a wonderful husband and father. He was such a good man.  He maintained his sense of humor through every treatment, but at the end, he was just so tired. I  know he is mountain biking up in heaven, but those of us he left behind are very sad.  We have had 25 wonderful years together and I will miss him!

      Thank you all for your advice and support during this journey.

      Jan and Stephanie, loving wife and daughter

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        • March 4, 2012 at 8:40 pm
        Gene_S
        Participant

          Dear Jan and Stephanie,

          I am so sorry to hear about Dirk.  He was a warrior and fought so hard.  You were such a loving caregiver and gave so much in this horrible fight. 

          We are sending our deepest sympathy to you and the family at this time.

          Judy and Gene

          • March 4, 2012 at 8:40 pm
          Gene_S
          Participant

            Dear Jan and Stephanie,

            I am so sorry to hear about Dirk.  He was a warrior and fought so hard.  You were such a loving caregiver and gave so much in this horrible fight. 

            We are sending our deepest sympathy to you and the family at this time.

            Judy and Gene

            • March 4, 2012 at 8:40 pm
            Gene_S
            Participant

              Dear Jan and Stephanie,

              I am so sorry to hear about Dirk.  He was a warrior and fought so hard.  You were such a loving caregiver and gave so much in this horrible fight. 

              We are sending our deepest sympathy to you and the family at this time.

              Judy and Gene

              • March 4, 2012 at 8:48 pm
              hope4cure1
              Participant

                Jan and Stephanie,

                I just wish I could hug you both.  You have been such wonderful support for Dirk, and that is such a testament to your strength, determination and courage.  I hope these qualities help you as you grieve your great loss. I hold you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

                Much love,

                Hope

                • March 4, 2012 at 8:48 pm
                hope4cure1
                Participant

                  Jan and Stephanie,

                  I just wish I could hug you both.  You have been such wonderful support for Dirk, and that is such a testament to your strength, determination and courage.  I hope these qualities help you as you grieve your great loss. I hold you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

                  Much love,

                  Hope

                  • March 4, 2012 at 8:48 pm
                  hope4cure1
                  Participant

                    Jan and Stephanie,

                    I just wish I could hug you both.  You have been such wonderful support for Dirk, and that is such a testament to your strength, determination and courage.  I hope these qualities help you as you grieve your great loss. I hold you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

                    Much love,

                    Hope

                    • March 4, 2012 at 8:53 pm
                    WendyPam
                    Participant

                      All of my love and condolences to you and your daughter.  I'm happy for you that you had 25 wonderful years together. I too am a caregiver to my Mom and have always admired your strength and dedication to your husband, thank you Jan!

                      Warm regards,

                      Wendy

                      • March 4, 2012 at 8:53 pm
                      WendyPam
                      Participant

                        All of my love and condolences to you and your daughter.  I'm happy for you that you had 25 wonderful years together. I too am a caregiver to my Mom and have always admired your strength and dedication to your husband, thank you Jan!

                        Warm regards,

                        Wendy

                        • March 4, 2012 at 8:53 pm
                        WendyPam
                        Participant

                          All of my love and condolences to you and your daughter.  I'm happy for you that you had 25 wonderful years together. I too am a caregiver to my Mom and have always admired your strength and dedication to your husband, thank you Jan!

                          Warm regards,

                          Wendy

                          • March 4, 2012 at 9:18 pm
                          washoegal
                          Participant

                            Jan and Stephanie,

                            My heart breaks for you.  You and Dirk gave up so much to battle this disease but now Dirk has found peace.  I pray that you also find peace.

                            Mary

                            Stage 3

                            • March 4, 2012 at 9:18 pm
                            washoegal
                            Participant

                              Jan and Stephanie,

                              My heart breaks for you.  You and Dirk gave up so much to battle this disease but now Dirk has found peace.  I pray that you also find peace.

                              Mary

                              Stage 3

                              • March 4, 2012 at 9:18 pm
                              washoegal
                              Participant

                                Jan and Stephanie,

                                My heart breaks for you.  You and Dirk gave up so much to battle this disease but now Dirk has found peace.  I pray that you also find peace.

                                Mary

                                Stage 3

                                • March 4, 2012 at 9:30 pm
                                MaryD
                                Participant

                                  Dear Jan and Stephanie,

                                  I am so sorry that you have to endure this sad loss but hope that you find comfort in knowing that Dirk couldn't have had more wonderful loving support during his journey.   He will be guiding you through this sad time from heaven and remaining in your hearts always.

                                  Love and prayers,

                                  Mary

                                  • March 4, 2012 at 9:30 pm
                                  MaryD
                                  Participant

                                    Dear Jan and Stephanie,

                                    I am so sorry that you have to endure this sad loss but hope that you find comfort in knowing that Dirk couldn't have had more wonderful loving support during his journey.   He will be guiding you through this sad time from heaven and remaining in your hearts always.

                                    Love and prayers,

                                    Mary

                                    • March 4, 2012 at 9:30 pm
                                    MaryD
                                    Participant

                                      Dear Jan and Stephanie,

                                      I am so sorry that you have to endure this sad loss but hope that you find comfort in knowing that Dirk couldn't have had more wonderful loving support during his journey.   He will be guiding you through this sad time from heaven and remaining in your hearts always.

                                      Love and prayers,

                                      Mary

                                      • March 4, 2012 at 10:41 pm
                                      scots
                                      Participant
                                        I’m sorry to hear about Dirk. You and your family will be in my prayers. Rest in peace Dirk.

                                        Scot

                                        • March 4, 2012 at 10:41 pm
                                        scots
                                        Participant
                                          I’m sorry to hear about Dirk. You and your family will be in my prayers. Rest in peace Dirk.

                                          Scot

                                          • March 4, 2012 at 10:41 pm
                                          scots
                                          Participant
                                            I’m sorry to hear about Dirk. You and your family will be in my prayers. Rest in peace Dirk.

                                            Scot

                                            • March 4, 2012 at 11:23 pm
                                            Linny
                                            Participant

                                              I am so sorry to hear of Dirk's passing. May the good Lord give you all the strength to get you through these difficult times.

                                              Linda

                                              • March 4, 2012 at 11:23 pm
                                              Linny
                                              Participant

                                                I am so sorry to hear of Dirk's passing. May the good Lord give you all the strength to get you through these difficult times.

                                                Linda

                                                • March 4, 2012 at 11:23 pm
                                                Linny
                                                Participant

                                                  I am so sorry to hear of Dirk's passing. May the good Lord give you all the strength to get you through these difficult times.

                                                  Linda

                                                  • March 4, 2012 at 11:40 pm
                                                  Fen
                                                  Participant

                                                    Deepest sympathy to both of you, Jan.  You were truely blessed to have known such a wonderful man.  Feb

                                                    • March 4, 2012 at 11:40 pm
                                                    Fen
                                                    Participant

                                                      Deepest sympathy to both of you, Jan.  You were truely blessed to have known such a wonderful man.  Feb

                                                      • March 4, 2012 at 11:40 pm
                                                      Fen
                                                      Participant

                                                        Deepest sympathy to both of you, Jan.  You were truely blessed to have known such a wonderful man.  Feb

                                                        • March 5, 2012 at 1:26 am
                                                        Jewel
                                                        Participant

                                                          I have always admired you both for your determination and your wit. I truly was in awe of your strength.

                                                          My Thoughts and Prayers are with you and your daughter.

                                                          Hope he is enjoying the mountain biking:-)

                                                          God Bless

                                                          • March 5, 2012 at 1:26 am
                                                          Jewel
                                                          Participant

                                                            I have always admired you both for your determination and your wit. I truly was in awe of your strength.

                                                            My Thoughts and Prayers are with you and your daughter.

                                                            Hope he is enjoying the mountain biking:-)

                                                            God Bless

                                                            • March 5, 2012 at 1:26 am
                                                            Jewel
                                                            Participant

                                                              I have always admired you both for your determination and your wit. I truly was in awe of your strength.

                                                              My Thoughts and Prayers are with you and your daughter.

                                                              Hope he is enjoying the mountain biking:-)

                                                              God Bless

                                                              • March 5, 2012 at 2:22 am
                                                              Phil S
                                                              Participant
                                                                Jan, You are amazing, I remember when you posted about your move to Texas, and I thought she is one hell of a woman taking on relocating, meeting new doctors, trying a different treatment plan, and appearing hopeful, upbeat, and cheerful for Dirk. He sounds like a wonderful man, and I hope you get peace knowing he is in a better place! You are an inspiration to me! God bless you and your daughter, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                • March 5, 2012 at 2:22 am
                                                                Phil S
                                                                Participant
                                                                  Jan, You are amazing, I remember when you posted about your move to Texas, and I thought she is one hell of a woman taking on relocating, meeting new doctors, trying a different treatment plan, and appearing hopeful, upbeat, and cheerful for Dirk. He sounds like a wonderful man, and I hope you get peace knowing he is in a better place! You are an inspiration to me! God bless you and your daughter, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                  • March 5, 2012 at 2:22 am
                                                                  Phil S
                                                                  Participant
                                                                    Jan, You are amazing, I remember when you posted about your move to Texas, and I thought she is one hell of a woman taking on relocating, meeting new doctors, trying a different treatment plan, and appearing hopeful, upbeat, and cheerful for Dirk. He sounds like a wonderful man, and I hope you get peace knowing he is in a better place! You are an inspiration to me! God bless you and your daughter, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                                                    • March 5, 2012 at 2:33 am
                                                                    BethA in VA
                                                                    Participant

                                                                      I am so sorry for your loss.  He was lucky to have such wonderful caregivers and a family that loved him.  My prayers are with you and your family.  Beth 3/B

                                                                      • March 5, 2012 at 2:33 am
                                                                      BethA in VA
                                                                      Participant

                                                                        I am so sorry for your loss.  He was lucky to have such wonderful caregivers and a family that loved him.  My prayers are with you and your family.  Beth 3/B

                                                                        • March 5, 2012 at 2:33 am
                                                                        BethA in VA
                                                                        Participant

                                                                          I am so sorry for your loss.  He was lucky to have such wonderful caregivers and a family that loved him.  My prayers are with you and your family.  Beth 3/B

                                                                          • March 5, 2012 at 3:30 am
                                                                          King
                                                                          Participant

                                                                            Jan,

                                                                            I offer my sincere sympathy to you and your family.  You were right by Dirk's side every step of the way.  In time, hopefully many happy memories will replace the sad ones that you are probably experiencing now.

                                                                            Stay Strong
                                                                            King

                                                                            Stage IV  7/05 Liver mets

                                                                            • March 5, 2012 at 3:30 am
                                                                            King
                                                                            Participant

                                                                              Jan,

                                                                              I offer my sincere sympathy to you and your family.  You were right by Dirk's side every step of the way.  In time, hopefully many happy memories will replace the sad ones that you are probably experiencing now.

                                                                              Stay Strong
                                                                              King

                                                                              Stage IV  7/05 Liver mets

                                                                              • March 5, 2012 at 3:30 am
                                                                              King
                                                                              Participant

                                                                                Jan,

                                                                                I offer my sincere sympathy to you and your family.  You were right by Dirk's side every step of the way.  In time, hopefully many happy memories will replace the sad ones that you are probably experiencing now.

                                                                                Stay Strong
                                                                                King

                                                                                Stage IV  7/05 Liver mets

                                                                                • March 5, 2012 at 3:50 am
                                                                                FormerCaregiver
                                                                                Participant

                                                                                  Jan and Stephanie, please accept my sincere condolences. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                                                  Take care

                                                                                  Frank from Australia

                                                                                  • March 5, 2012 at 3:50 am
                                                                                  FormerCaregiver
                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                    Jan and Stephanie, please accept my sincere condolences. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                                                    Take care

                                                                                    Frank from Australia

                                                                                    • March 5, 2012 at 3:50 am
                                                                                    FormerCaregiver
                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                      Jan and Stephanie, please accept my sincere condolences. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                                                      Take care

                                                                                      Frank from Australia

                                                                                        • March 5, 2012 at 8:37 am
                                                                                        deardad
                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                          Im very sad to hear that Dirk has passed. I can only share my hope of a time when God will "wipe every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away". John 21:3-4.

                                                                                          My heart goes out to you both.

                                                                                          Nahmi

                                                                                          • March 5, 2012 at 8:37 am
                                                                                          deardad
                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                            Im very sad to hear that Dirk has passed. I can only share my hope of a time when God will "wipe every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away". John 21:3-4.

                                                                                            My heart goes out to you both.

                                                                                            Nahmi

                                                                                            • March 5, 2012 at 8:37 am
                                                                                            deardad
                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                              Im very sad to hear that Dirk has passed. I can only share my hope of a time when God will "wipe every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away". John 21:3-4.

                                                                                              My heart goes out to you both.

                                                                                              Nahmi

                                                                                              • March 5, 2012 at 11:51 am
                                                                                              Laurie from maine
                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                I am so sorry.  You were both truly courageous and inspirational as you fought this battle together.  He was a true fighter and sounded like a wonderful man.  I hope you and your daughter are together during this sad time.

                                                                                                laurie from maine

                                                                                                • March 5, 2012 at 11:51 am
                                                                                                Laurie from maine
                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                  I am so sorry.  You were both truly courageous and inspirational as you fought this battle together.  He was a true fighter and sounded like a wonderful man.  I hope you and your daughter are together during this sad time.

                                                                                                  laurie from maine

                                                                                                  • March 5, 2012 at 11:51 am
                                                                                                  Laurie from maine
                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                    I am so sorry.  You were both truly courageous and inspirational as you fought this battle together.  He was a true fighter and sounded like a wonderful man.  I hope you and your daughter are together during this sad time.

                                                                                                    laurie from maine

                                                                                                  • March 5, 2012 at 11:51 am
                                                                                                  davidfromsingapore
                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                    Dear Jan and Stephanie

                                                                                                     

                                                                                                    I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  I know that you are going through a difficut time right now.  There are many people who care for you and want to help ease the pain.  Prayers and good thoughs abound.  

                                                                                                     

                                                                                                    David 

                                                                                                    • March 5, 2012 at 11:51 am
                                                                                                    davidfromsingapore
                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                      Dear Jan and Stephanie

                                                                                                       

                                                                                                      I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  I know that you are going through a difficut time right now.  There are many people who care for you and want to help ease the pain.  Prayers and good thoughs abound.  

                                                                                                       

                                                                                                      David 

                                                                                                      • March 5, 2012 at 11:51 am
                                                                                                      davidfromsingapore
                                                                                                      Participant

                                                                                                        Dear Jan and Stephanie

                                                                                                         

                                                                                                        I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  I know that you are going through a difficut time right now.  There are many people who care for you and want to help ease the pain.  Prayers and good thoughs abound.  

                                                                                                         

                                                                                                        David 

                                                                                                        • March 5, 2012 at 12:01 pm
                                                                                                        MeNDave
                                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                                          Jan,

                                                                                                          I am so sorry to hear of Dirk's loss.  I wish I had words to help ease the pain.  You are such an inspiration to so many of us on this board.  I hope you and your daughter find some peace in the coming days.

                                                                                                          Many, many hugs to you.

                                                                                                          Maria

                                                                                                          • March 5, 2012 at 12:01 pm
                                                                                                          MeNDave
                                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                                            Jan,

                                                                                                            I am so sorry to hear of Dirk's loss.  I wish I had words to help ease the pain.  You are such an inspiration to so many of us on this board.  I hope you and your daughter find some peace in the coming days.

                                                                                                            Many, many hugs to you.

                                                                                                            Maria

                                                                                                            • March 5, 2012 at 12:01 pm
                                                                                                            MeNDave
                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                              Jan,

                                                                                                              I am so sorry to hear of Dirk's loss.  I wish I had words to help ease the pain.  You are such an inspiration to so many of us on this board.  I hope you and your daughter find some peace in the coming days.

                                                                                                              Many, many hugs to you.

                                                                                                              Maria

                                                                                                              • March 5, 2012 at 2:09 pm
                                                                                                              Kelli100299
                                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                                I am fairly new to the forum and didn't know Dirk as well as others, however, I do get the sense of how much he was loved and will be missed. So sorry and may the 25 years of happy memories carry you on.

                                                                                                                Kelli

                                                                                                                • March 5, 2012 at 2:09 pm
                                                                                                                Kelli100299
                                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                                  I am fairly new to the forum and didn't know Dirk as well as others, however, I do get the sense of how much he was loved and will be missed. So sorry and may the 25 years of happy memories carry you on.

                                                                                                                  Kelli

                                                                                                                  • March 5, 2012 at 2:09 pm
                                                                                                                  Kelli100299
                                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                                    I am fairly new to the forum and didn't know Dirk as well as others, however, I do get the sense of how much he was loved and will be missed. So sorry and may the 25 years of happy memories carry you on.

                                                                                                                    Kelli

                                                                                                                    • March 5, 2012 at 2:12 pm
                                                                                                                    jim Breitfeller
                                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                                      Dirk was a fighter to the end. My deepest sympathy to you and the family ..

                                                                                                                      Jimmy b

                                                                                                                        • March 5, 2012 at 9:27 pm
                                                                                                                        boot2aboot
                                                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                                                          I am so sorry about this…i just don't know what else to say, but that everytime we lose someone on the board, i just….it's hard to take…it just is…

                                                                                                                          boots

                                                                                                                          • March 5, 2012 at 9:27 pm
                                                                                                                          boot2aboot
                                                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                                                            I am so sorry about this…i just don't know what else to say, but that everytime we lose someone on the board, i just….it's hard to take…it just is…

                                                                                                                            boots

                                                                                                                            • March 5, 2012 at 9:27 pm
                                                                                                                            boot2aboot
                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                              I am so sorry about this…i just don't know what else to say, but that everytime we lose someone on the board, i just….it's hard to take…it just is…

                                                                                                                              boots

                                                                                                                            • March 5, 2012 at 2:12 pm
                                                                                                                            jim Breitfeller
                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                              Dirk was a fighter to the end. My deepest sympathy to you and the family ..

                                                                                                                              Jimmy b

                                                                                                                              • March 5, 2012 at 2:12 pm
                                                                                                                              jim Breitfeller
                                                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                                                Dirk was a fighter to the end. My deepest sympathy to you and the family ..

                                                                                                                                Jimmy b

                                                                                                                                • March 5, 2012 at 10:48 pm
                                                                                                                                JerryfromFauq
                                                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                                                  Jan,  I am so sorry to hear of Dirks passing, but so happy that he had you at his side for this rough journey.

                                                                                                                                  • March 5, 2012 at 10:48 pm
                                                                                                                                  JerryfromFauq
                                                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                                                    Jan,  I am so sorry to hear of Dirks passing, but so happy that he had you at his side for this rough journey.

                                                                                                                                    • March 5, 2012 at 10:48 pm
                                                                                                                                    JerryfromFauq
                                                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                                                      Jan,  I am so sorry to hear of Dirks passing, but so happy that he had you at his side for this rough journey.

                                                                                                                                        • March 5, 2012 at 11:38 pm
                                                                                                                                        Karin L
                                                                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                                                                          Jan…Stephanie….my deepest sympathy and huge hugs.  Dirk was such a fighter and you both were an inspiration to others battling this wicked beast.  Godspeed.

                                                                                                                                          Karin

                                                                                                                                          • March 5, 2012 at 11:38 pm
                                                                                                                                          Karin L
                                                                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                                                                            Jan…Stephanie….my deepest sympathy and huge hugs.  Dirk was such a fighter and you both were an inspiration to others battling this wicked beast.  Godspeed.

                                                                                                                                            Karin

                                                                                                                                            • March 5, 2012 at 11:38 pm
                                                                                                                                            Karin L
                                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                                              Jan…Stephanie….my deepest sympathy and huge hugs.  Dirk was such a fighter and you both were an inspiration to others battling this wicked beast.  Godspeed.

                                                                                                                                              Karin

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