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    Cathy M
    Participant

    John Moore       9/12/1960 – 2/4/2017

    It is with a heavy (and sometimes angry) heart that I share my husband's passing on the board. After 3+ years of battling Stage IV, his fight is over. He held on to his fighting spirit to the very end. He died with me holding his hand, playing his Eagles World Tour DVD and with me telling him it was ok to go, I would be fine, and how I dearly loved him and the time we had been able to spend together. 

    Melanoma is a horrible disease.  I watched it break down his body but never his spirit. I watched it over 3+ years take from me my lifetime companion little by little. But what it can never take from me are my memories. Mountain biking, ATV racing, Jeep exploring, walking our Great Dane, moving cross country because it was my dream to "live in the west".

    When diagnosed Stage IV, his goal became to raise awareness. He participated in news interviews. I made awareness packets every year and distributed them at the cancer center where I worked and with friends and neighbors. He was interviewed for a documentary about genomic sequencing that was made into a DVD by the students at Dixie State Univeristy in St. George, Utah.

    So…I will continue his fight. I will continue to participate in 5K's. I will continue with my information packets. I will volunteer for skin cancer checks at the dermatologist's office.  Melanoma may have taken the love of my life physically from me but it cannot take his fighting spirit and our determination to educate others about it's silent deadliness. 

     

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      Patrisa
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so sorry for your loss… It just breaks my heart to come here and read another beautiful soul has left us…

      It's so unfair, but we have to be strong and continue this journey, until we meet again… 

      Love,

      Patrisa

      Patrisa
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so sorry for your loss… It just breaks my heart to come here and read another beautiful soul has left us…

      It's so unfair, but we have to be strong and continue this journey, until we meet again… 

      Love,

      Patrisa

      Patrisa
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so sorry for your loss… It just breaks my heart to come here and read another beautiful soul has left us…

      It's so unfair, but we have to be strong and continue this journey, until we meet again… 

      Love,

      Patrisa

      Bubbles
      Participant

      Oh, Cathy.  So sorry for your loss of dear John.  So glad for your sweet memories of the life you shared. Hang in there.  Celeste

      Bubbles
      Participant

      Oh, Cathy.  So sorry for your loss of dear John.  So glad for your sweet memories of the life you shared. Hang in there.  Celeste

      Bubbles
      Participant

      Oh, Cathy.  So sorry for your loss of dear John.  So glad for your sweet memories of the life you shared. Hang in there.  Celeste

      Marksa2570
      Participant

      I am sorry for your loss.   It sounds like he put up a very brave fight.     Please keep doing the work you are doing.   Fight on!   

      Marksa2570
      Participant

      I am sorry for your loss.   It sounds like he put up a very brave fight.     Please keep doing the work you are doing.   Fight on!   

      Marksa2570
      Participant

      I am sorry for your loss.   It sounds like he put up a very brave fight.     Please keep doing the work you are doing.   Fight on!   

      UBContributor
      Participant

      Very proud of you! Keep on his spirit. 

      UBContributor
      Participant

      Very proud of you! Keep on his spirit. 

      UBContributor
      Participant

      Very proud of you! Keep on his spirit. 

      Scooby123
      Participant

      I am so sorry Cathy of your loss. I hate this disease so much sadness lately . Prayer to you and family.

      scooby ❤️

      Scooby123
      Participant

      I am so sorry Cathy of your loss. I hate this disease so much sadness lately . Prayer to you and family.

      scooby ❤️

      Scooby123
      Participant

      I am so sorry Cathy of your loss. I hate this disease so much sadness lately . Prayer to you and family.

      scooby ❤️

      jpg
      Participant

      Cathy,

         What a wonderful carer you were and your husband so lucky to have you by his side!  You should come join us (although a bit far) at the biggest 5k for melanoma, http://www.safefromthesun.org  It is a wonderful event and you will not be alone but with many others who have fought this battle.

      jpg
      Participant

      Cathy,

         What a wonderful carer you were and your husband so lucky to have you by his side!  You should come join us (although a bit far) at the biggest 5k for melanoma, http://www.safefromthesun.org  It is a wonderful event and you will not be alone but with many others who have fought this battle.

      jpg
      Participant

      Cathy,

         What a wonderful carer you were and your husband so lucky to have you by his side!  You should come join us (although a bit far) at the biggest 5k for melanoma, http://www.safefromthesun.org  It is a wonderful event and you will not be alone but with many others who have fought this battle.

      youngann
      Participant

      Please accept my most sincere condolences on the loss of your dear husband.

      Ann

      youngann
      Participant

      Please accept my most sincere condolences on the loss of your dear husband.

      Ann

      youngann
      Participant

      Please accept my most sincere condolences on the loss of your dear husband.

      Ann

      debwray
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so very sorry to hear your news. I will say a little prayer for you both tonight. This horrible disease takes so much. You and your husbands dignity and courage in facing this is inspirational.

      Have an internet hug from another walking the stage 4 tightrope and thank you for the awareness work you have both been doing. It is so important.

      Best wishes

      Deb

       

      debwray
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so very sorry to hear your news. I will say a little prayer for you both tonight. This horrible disease takes so much. You and your husbands dignity and courage in facing this is inspirational.

      Have an internet hug from another walking the stage 4 tightrope and thank you for the awareness work you have both been doing. It is so important.

      Best wishes

      Deb

       

      debwray
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so very sorry to hear your news. I will say a little prayer for you both tonight. This horrible disease takes so much. You and your husbands dignity and courage in facing this is inspirational.

      Have an internet hug from another walking the stage 4 tightrope and thank you for the awareness work you have both been doing. It is so important.

      Best wishes

      Deb

       

      debwray
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so very sorry to hear your news. I will say a little prayer for you both tonight. This horrible disease takes so much. You and your husbands dignity and courage in facing this is inspirational.

      Have an internet hug from another walking the stage 4 tightrope and thank you for the awareness work you have both been doing. It is so important.

      Best wishes

      Deb

       

      debwray
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so very sorry to hear your news. I will say a little prayer for you both tonight. This horrible disease takes so much. You and your husbands dignity and courage in facing this is inspirational.

      Have an internet hug from another walking the stage 4 tightrope and thank you for the awareness work you have both been doing. It is so important.

      Best wishes

      Deb

       

      debwray
      Participant

      Dear Cathy,

      I am so very sorry to hear your news. I will say a little prayer for you both tonight. This horrible disease takes so much. You and your husbands dignity and courage in facing this is inspirational.

      Have an internet hug from another walking the stage 4 tightrope and thank you for the awareness work you have both been doing. It is so important.

      Best wishes

      Deb

       

      maperny
      Participant

      Hi Cathy,

      So sorry for the loss of your dear husband.  You are in my prayers.

      Maria

      maperny
      Participant

      Hi Cathy,

      So sorry for the loss of your dear husband.  You are in my prayers.

      Maria

      maperny
      Participant

      Hi Cathy,

      So sorry for the loss of your dear husband.  You are in my prayers.

      Maria

      Fen
      Participant

      I'm so very sorry for your loss, Cathy.  Bless those wonderful memories as you go through this awful time.

      Fen
      Participant

      I'm so very sorry for your loss, Cathy.  Bless those wonderful memories as you go through this awful time.

      Fen
      Participant

      I'm so very sorry for your loss, Cathy.  Bless those wonderful memories as you go through this awful time.

      tschmith
      Participant

      I'm saddened to read this post.  Prayers for John, you, and your family.  We are grateful that you will continue in our fight to end this horrible cancer.  

      Terrie

      tschmith
      Participant

      I'm saddened to read this post.  Prayers for John, you, and your family.  We are grateful that you will continue in our fight to end this horrible cancer.  

      Terrie

      tschmith
      Participant

      I'm saddened to read this post.  Prayers for John, you, and your family.  We are grateful that you will continue in our fight to end this horrible cancer.  

      Terrie

      Mark_DC
      Participant

      Dear Cathy, my words are not good enough, but am very sad amd sorry. Admire your spirit. Will be praying for you and John, and for the many other fighters on this board. Mark

      Mark_DC
      Participant

      Dear Cathy, my words are not good enough, but am very sad amd sorry. Admire your spirit. Will be praying for you and John, and for the many other fighters on this board. Mark

      Mark_DC
      Participant

      Dear Cathy, my words are not good enough, but am very sad amd sorry. Admire your spirit. Will be praying for you and John, and for the many other fighters on this board. Mark

      Buddy0513
      Participant

      Cathy,

      I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. 

      Melissa

      Buddy0513
      Participant

      Cathy,

      I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. 

      Melissa

      Buddy0513
      Participant

      Cathy,

      I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. 

      Melissa

      adriana cooper
      Participant
      Cathy, thanks for your strength to post and for you and John’s advocacy efforts to help us all and prevent others from having to go through this. I admire your strength and can only hope that I can follow your example. Your first paragraphs brought me to tears as I was waiting for my wife to finish her second radiation session, it echoed my feelings for her. Feel him holding your hand forever.
      Rob
      adriana cooper
      Participant
      Cathy, thanks for your strength to post and for you and John’s advocacy efforts to help us all and prevent others from having to go through this. I admire your strength and can only hope that I can follow your example. Your first paragraphs brought me to tears as I was waiting for my wife to finish her second radiation session, it echoed my feelings for her. Feel him holding your hand forever.
      Rob
      adriana cooper
      Participant
      Cathy, thanks for your strength to post and for you and John’s advocacy efforts to help us all and prevent others from having to go through this. I admire your strength and can only hope that I can follow your example. Your first paragraphs brought me to tears as I was waiting for my wife to finish her second radiation session, it echoed my feelings for her. Feel him holding your hand forever.
      Rob
      sister of patient
      Participant

      Oh Cathy … I am so, so sorry to learn about John's passing. May I say though that the strength you are demonstrating right now is astounding and yes, this demon can never diminish the spirit of this lovely man you describe. May peace now quickly find its way to your heart!!!

      Barb

      sister of patient
      Participant

      Oh Cathy … I am so, so sorry to learn about John's passing. May I say though that the strength you are demonstrating right now is astounding and yes, this demon can never diminish the spirit of this lovely man you describe. May peace now quickly find its way to your heart!!!

      Barb

      sister of patient
      Participant

      Oh Cathy … I am so, so sorry to learn about John's passing. May I say though that the strength you are demonstrating right now is astounding and yes, this demon can never diminish the spirit of this lovely man you describe. May peace now quickly find its way to your heart!!!

      Barb

      Shaneswife
      Participant
      So sorry for your loss Cathy.
      Shaneswife
      Participant
      So sorry for your loss Cathy.
      Shaneswife
      Participant
      So sorry for your loss Cathy.
      rosa1
      Participant

      I'm so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

      Rosa

      rosa1
      Participant

      I'm so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

      Rosa

        jbronicki
        Participant

        Cathy, I'm so very sorry for both you and your husband.  I can say I'm angry on your behalf as well, it's just incomprehensible at times.  I'm so very sorry, many hugs.

        jbronicki
        Participant

        Cathy, I'm so very sorry for both you and your husband.  I can say I'm angry on your behalf as well, it's just incomprehensible at times.  I'm so very sorry, many hugs.

        jbronicki
        Participant

        Cathy, I'm so very sorry for both you and your husband.  I can say I'm angry on your behalf as well, it's just incomprehensible at times.  I'm so very sorry, many hugs.

      rosa1
      Participant

      I'm so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

      Rosa

      Cathy M
      Participant
      Thanks all for the kind words and support. Best wishes to each of you as you continue your battles against the disease.
      Cathy M
      Participant
      Thanks all for the kind words and support. Best wishes to each of you as you continue your battles against the disease.
      Cathy M
      Participant
      Thanks all for the kind words and support. Best wishes to each of you as you continue your battles against the disease.
      snow white
      Participant

      Dear Cathy.  i am so very sorry to hear of your beloved husbands passing.   

      Jen

      snow white
      Participant

      Dear Cathy.  i am so very sorry to hear of your beloved husbands passing.   

      Jen

      snow white
      Participant

      Dear Cathy.  i am so very sorry to hear of your beloved husbands passing.   

      Jen

      _Paul_
      Participant

      Cathy,

      thank you very much for finding the courage to post this. Thanks I just found out today that I'm in Johns shoes. Up until now I have spent my time battling this disease.  But now it's time to shift my focus and I think what John was doing is what I want to do.

      Putting out knowledge of this disease is very important. It's very important people catch it early.  That sounds like a great thing for me to do.

      I am so so sorry that you lost John.  He sounds like he was a great man.  The fact that you are going to keep continuing to fight for him brings tears to my eyes.  He was very lucky to have you as his wife.

      – Paul

        Cathy M
        Participant
        Tears are pouring … Nothing else I can say except my heart goes out to Paul’s family.
      _Paul_
      Participant

      Cathy,

      thank you very much for finding the courage to post this. Thanks I just found out today that I'm in Johns shoes. Up until now I have spent my time battling this disease.  But now it's time to shift my focus and I think what John was doing is what I want to do.

      Putting out knowledge of this disease is very important. It's very important people catch it early.  That sounds like a great thing for me to do.

      I am so so sorry that you lost John.  He sounds like he was a great man.  The fact that you are going to keep continuing to fight for him brings tears to my eyes.  He was very lucky to have you as his wife.

      – Paul

      Momofjake
      Participant

      So sorry! We are also in Utah. My son is 19 and has been fighting this for 27 months. It's beyond hard! Thank you for sharing. Love and prayers for you now❤️

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