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- September 27, 2012 at 4:19 pm
Hi Kathy,
I saw your post and had to reply, I thought this is me! My husband is the one with the disease but i have the stress.
He is like you, stage 3A, diagnosed last year and actually Set 15th marked one year NED for us! He has had 2 clean scans and our last visit to the oncologist we were told no more scans unless he becomes symptomatic. I know alot of people would not be thrilled with the idea with no scans but we definately were. I have read so many stories of people stressed beyond belief over something showing up on a scan only to be told later it is nothing. I really believe that if, god forbid, it returns he will know and we will go from there.
That being said there is no end to the stress and the fear for me. I still cry, and while cancer isn't my first thought upon waking it is now my second or third.
I hope you find someone or something to help with your stress, it can be so debilitating, but please know you are not alone in how you feel. I may not have melanoma but knowing that the person who is my best friend, the father of my boys, and the love of my life does have it is crippling at times.
i wish you well and that both you and my husband will always be 3A warriors!
Samantha
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- September 27, 2012 at 4:19 pm
Hi Kathy,
I saw your post and had to reply, I thought this is me! My husband is the one with the disease but i have the stress.
He is like you, stage 3A, diagnosed last year and actually Set 15th marked one year NED for us! He has had 2 clean scans and our last visit to the oncologist we were told no more scans unless he becomes symptomatic. I know alot of people would not be thrilled with the idea with no scans but we definately were. I have read so many stories of people stressed beyond belief over something showing up on a scan only to be told later it is nothing. I really believe that if, god forbid, it returns he will know and we will go from there.
That being said there is no end to the stress and the fear for me. I still cry, and while cancer isn't my first thought upon waking it is now my second or third.
I hope you find someone or something to help with your stress, it can be so debilitating, but please know you are not alone in how you feel. I may not have melanoma but knowing that the person who is my best friend, the father of my boys, and the love of my life does have it is crippling at times.
i wish you well and that both you and my husband will always be 3A warriors!
Samantha
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- September 27, 2012 at 4:19 pm
Hi Kathy,
I saw your post and had to reply, I thought this is me! My husband is the one with the disease but i have the stress.
He is like you, stage 3A, diagnosed last year and actually Set 15th marked one year NED for us! He has had 2 clean scans and our last visit to the oncologist we were told no more scans unless he becomes symptomatic. I know alot of people would not be thrilled with the idea with no scans but we definately were. I have read so many stories of people stressed beyond belief over something showing up on a scan only to be told later it is nothing. I really believe that if, god forbid, it returns he will know and we will go from there.
That being said there is no end to the stress and the fear for me. I still cry, and while cancer isn't my first thought upon waking it is now my second or third.
I hope you find someone or something to help with your stress, it can be so debilitating, but please know you are not alone in how you feel. I may not have melanoma but knowing that the person who is my best friend, the father of my boys, and the love of my life does have it is crippling at times.
i wish you well and that both you and my husband will always be 3A warriors!
Samantha
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- July 10, 2012 at 11:11 pm
Maria,
I am so sorry to hear of Dave's condition. You were one of the first people to reach out to me when my husband was first diagnosed and you helped me feel not so alone. Please know that there will be so many of us praying for you and your family, that you all find peace. You truely are an amazing person.
Samantha
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- July 10, 2012 at 11:11 pm
Maria,
I am so sorry to hear of Dave's condition. You were one of the first people to reach out to me when my husband was first diagnosed and you helped me feel not so alone. Please know that there will be so many of us praying for you and your family, that you all find peace. You truely are an amazing person.
Samantha
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- July 10, 2012 at 11:11 pm
Maria,
I am so sorry to hear of Dave's condition. You were one of the first people to reach out to me when my husband was first diagnosed and you helped me feel not so alone. Please know that there will be so many of us praying for you and your family, that you all find peace. You truely are an amazing person.
Samantha
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- December 3, 2012 at 11:24 pm
Hi Mary and thank you for your response. I apologize for not being specific enough, my husband had his surgery last year, Nov 2011 and it was the superficial nodes that were taken. I have been on the lookout for a recurrence since then but admit I have been focusing on the surgery site itself and the WLE and I am pretty sure I have been all but ignoring the drain area. Since the drain (according to my husband) was quite long when it came out I assumed there might be some scar tissue but since I have not read any posts about it I was concerned. Any time you feel something different it is so scary.
I know filling out the profile is helpful but in a strange way it would make all this more real for me. I know that doesn't make much sense but this has been so very hard for me and I think I am taking baby steps (even asking this question was hard for me).
Thankyou for taking the time to answer, I really appreciate it.
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- December 3, 2012 at 11:24 pm
Hi Mary and thank you for your response. I apologize for not being specific enough, my husband had his surgery last year, Nov 2011 and it was the superficial nodes that were taken. I have been on the lookout for a recurrence since then but admit I have been focusing on the surgery site itself and the WLE and I am pretty sure I have been all but ignoring the drain area. Since the drain (according to my husband) was quite long when it came out I assumed there might be some scar tissue but since I have not read any posts about it I was concerned. Any time you feel something different it is so scary.
I know filling out the profile is helpful but in a strange way it would make all this more real for me. I know that doesn't make much sense but this has been so very hard for me and I think I am taking baby steps (even asking this question was hard for me).
Thankyou for taking the time to answer, I really appreciate it.
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- December 3, 2012 at 11:24 pm
Hi Mary and thank you for your response. I apologize for not being specific enough, my husband had his surgery last year, Nov 2011 and it was the superficial nodes that were taken. I have been on the lookout for a recurrence since then but admit I have been focusing on the surgery site itself and the WLE and I am pretty sure I have been all but ignoring the drain area. Since the drain (according to my husband) was quite long when it came out I assumed there might be some scar tissue but since I have not read any posts about it I was concerned. Any time you feel something different it is so scary.
I know filling out the profile is helpful but in a strange way it would make all this more real for me. I know that doesn't make much sense but this has been so very hard for me and I think I am taking baby steps (even asking this question was hard for me).
Thankyou for taking the time to answer, I really appreciate it.
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