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We lost the fight

Forums General Melanoma Community We lost the fight

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    JimsWife
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      My husband passed away on September 18th, just 9 months after his diagnosis. A brief history: primary mole diagnosed melanoma in situ in 2007, became symptomatic and discovered on December 23, 2014 that it had metastized to his brain, lungs, and spine. He did WBR, SRS, Temodar, and the tafinlar/mekinist combo.

      He entered the hospital on Tuesday September 8th (1 day after our 2 year anniversary) and came home to pass away 10 days later. When he entered the hospital, he displayed stroke like symptoms, which was actually a focal seziure and continued to have massive seziures that left him immobile and unable to speak by the time he got home. We always knew the combo would stop working at some point and when it did, we had plans to do more radiation and Keytruda. However, the cancer progressed too fast once we realized and the seziures were too frequent. We didn't have time to react.

      He leaves behind his 3 month old daughter and myself (along with 4 brothers and his parents). The world truly lost a great man. He was 35.

      I visited these boards regularly and am thankful for all of you who continue to fight the good fight. Keep fighting. I will pray that all of you that are plagued by this awful beast of a disease can one day live melanoma free.

      With love,

      Kristin

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        Gene_S
        Participant

          Hello Kirstin,

          I am very sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with all the family.

          Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)

          Gene_S
          Participant

            Hello Kirstin,

            I am very sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with all the family.

            Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)

            Gene_S
            Participant

              Hello Kirstin,

              I am very sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with all the family.

              Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)

              jbronicki
              Participant

                Hi Kristin,

                My deepest condolences, can't even imagine what you are going through and many hugs for you, your daughter and the rest of the family.  I feel anger just thinking about losing such a special person and a new dad at such a young age to this horrible disease.  I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm sure he felt joy to have you and his daughter in his life and was thankful for your advocacy.

                Many hugs,

                Jackie

                  JimsWife
                  Participant

                    I'm pretty angry too. I hate this for anyone who has to deal with this disease.

                    Thank you for the kind words.

                    JimsWife
                    Participant

                      I'm pretty angry too. I hate this for anyone who has to deal with this disease.

                      Thank you for the kind words.

                      JimsWife
                      Participant

                        I'm pretty angry too. I hate this for anyone who has to deal with this disease.

                        Thank you for the kind words.

                      jbronicki
                      Participant

                        Hi Kristin,

                        My deepest condolences, can't even imagine what you are going through and many hugs for you, your daughter and the rest of the family.  I feel anger just thinking about losing such a special person and a new dad at such a young age to this horrible disease.  I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm sure he felt joy to have you and his daughter in his life and was thankful for your advocacy.

                        Many hugs,

                        Jackie

                        jbronicki
                        Participant

                          Hi Kristin,

                          My deepest condolences, can't even imagine what you are going through and many hugs for you, your daughter and the rest of the family.  I feel anger just thinking about losing such a special person and a new dad at such a young age to this horrible disease.  I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm sure he felt joy to have you and his daughter in his life and was thankful for your advocacy.

                          Many hugs,

                          Jackie

                          Patina
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                            I'm so sorry to hear that Jim lost his fight with this deadly disease.  It takes far too many now, but far fewer that it use to.

                            I hope the two of you were able to enjoy looking forward to and sharing some time with your new baby. It is bitter sweet, but I'm sure her birth was one of the highlights of his life and I'm glad he was able to share that with you.

                            My thoughts are with you both.

                              JimsWife
                              Participant

                                Thank you. We did enjoy looking forward to our life and I'm glad he got to see her.

                                JimsWife
                                Participant

                                  Thank you. We did enjoy looking forward to our life and I'm glad he got to see her.

                                  JimsWife
                                  Participant

                                    Thank you. We did enjoy looking forward to our life and I'm glad he got to see her.

                                  Patina
                                  Participant

                                    I'm so sorry to hear that Jim lost his fight with this deadly disease.  It takes far too many now, but far fewer that it use to.

                                    I hope the two of you were able to enjoy looking forward to and sharing some time with your new baby. It is bitter sweet, but I'm sure her birth was one of the highlights of his life and I'm glad he was able to share that with you.

                                    My thoughts are with you both.

                                    Patina
                                    Participant

                                      I'm so sorry to hear that Jim lost his fight with this deadly disease.  It takes far too many now, but far fewer that it use to.

                                      I hope the two of you were able to enjoy looking forward to and sharing some time with your new baby. It is bitter sweet, but I'm sure her birth was one of the highlights of his life and I'm glad he was able to share that with you.

                                      My thoughts are with you both.

                                      Fen
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                                        Oh, Kristin, my heart breaks for you and your family.  Sending prayers that you are surrounded by love and support during this awful time.   Fen

                                          JimsWife
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                                            Thank you.

                                            JimsWife
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                                              Thank you.

                                              JimsWife
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                                                Thank you.

                                              Fen
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                                                Oh, Kristin, my heart breaks for you and your family.  Sending prayers that you are surrounded by love and support during this awful time.   Fen

                                                Fen
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                                                  Oh, Kristin, my heart breaks for you and your family.  Sending prayers that you are surrounded by love and support during this awful time.   Fen

                                                  jamieth29
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                                                    These posts are crushing…I’m so sorry.
                                                    jamieth29
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                                                      These posts are crushing…I’m so sorry.
                                                      jamieth29
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                                                        These posts are crushing…I’m so sorry.
                                                          tschmith
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                                                            Kristin,

                                                            I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.  You and your family have my sympathy and prayers.

                                                            Terrie

                                                            tschmith
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                                                              Kristin,

                                                              I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.  You and your family have my sympathy and prayers.

                                                              Terrie

                                                              tschmith
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                                                                Kristin,

                                                                I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.  You and your family have my sympathy and prayers.

                                                                Terrie

                                                                JimsWife
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                                                                  Thank you.

                                                                  JimsWife
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                                                                    Thank you.

                                                                    JimsWife
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                                                                      Thank you.

                                                                    khubes
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                                                                      Kristin,

                                                                      I am so, so sorry for your loss.  35 is far too young.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. 

                                                                      With love,

                                                                      Katie 

                                                                        JimsWife
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                                                                          Thank you.

                                                                          JimsWife
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                                                                            Thank you.

                                                                            JimsWife
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                                                                              Thank you.

                                                                            khubes
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                                                                              Kristin,

                                                                              I am so, so sorry for your loss.  35 is far too young.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. 

                                                                              With love,

                                                                              Katie 

                                                                              khubes
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                                                                                Kristin,

                                                                                I am so, so sorry for your loss.  35 is far too young.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. 

                                                                                With love,

                                                                                Katie 

                                                                                Mat
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                                                                                  Kristin, I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

                                                                                  Mat
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                                                                                    Kristin, I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

                                                                                      JimsWife
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                                                                                        Thank you.

                                                                                        JimsWife
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                                                                                          Thank you.

                                                                                          JimsWife
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                                                                                            Thank you.

                                                                                          Mat
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                                                                                            Kristin, I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

                                                                                            CHD
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                                                                                              Kristin, I am so sad to hear this and so sorry for your loss.

                                                                                              Cheri

                                                                                              CHD
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                                                                                                Kristin, I am so sad to hear this and so sorry for your loss.

                                                                                                Cheri

                                                                                                  JimsWife
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                                                                                                    Thank you.

                                                                                                    JimsWife
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                                                                                                      Thank you.

                                                                                                      JimsWife
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                                                                                                        Thank you.

                                                                                                      CHD
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                                                                                                        Kristin, I am so sad to hear this and so sorry for your loss.

                                                                                                        Cheri

                                                                                                        BrianP
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                                                                                                          I'm so sorry Kristin.  I'll be praying for you and your daughter.

                                                                                                          Brian

                                                                                                          BrianP
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                                                                                                            I'm so sorry Kristin.  I'll be praying for you and your daughter.

                                                                                                            Brian

                                                                                                              JimsWife
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                                                                                                                Thank you.

                                                                                                                JimsWife
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                                                                                                                  Thank you.

                                                                                                                  JimsWife
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                                                                                                                    Thank you.

                                                                                                                  BrianP
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                                                                                                                    I'm so sorry Kristin.  I'll be praying for you and your daughter.

                                                                                                                    Brian

                                                                                                                    JoshF
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                                                                                                                      Sorry for your loss. Just heartbreaking to hear. All the best.

                                                                                                                      Josh

                                                                                                                        Debbieamccoy
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                                                                                                                          I'm so sorry please stay strong for your daughter , my prayers are with you

                                                                                                                          Debbieamccoy
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                                                                                                                            I'm so sorry please stay strong for your daughter , my prayers are with you

                                                                                                                            Debbieamccoy
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                                                                                                                              I'm so sorry please stay strong for your daughter , my prayers are with you

                                                                                                                              JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                Thank you.

                                                                                                                                JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                  Thank you.

                                                                                                                                  JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                    Thank you.

                                                                                                                                  JoshF
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                                                                                                                                    Sorry for your loss. Just heartbreaking to hear. All the best.

                                                                                                                                    Josh

                                                                                                                                    JoshF
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                                                                                                                                      Sorry for your loss. Just heartbreaking to hear. All the best.

                                                                                                                                      Josh

                                                                                                                                      stars
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                                                                                                                                        Very sad news, Kristin. My heart goes out to you.

                                                                                                                                        Stars

                                                                                                                                          JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                            Thank you.

                                                                                                                                            JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                              Thank you.

                                                                                                                                              JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                Thank you.

                                                                                                                                              stars
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                                                                                                                                                Very sad news, Kristin. My heart goes out to you.

                                                                                                                                                Stars

                                                                                                                                                stars
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                                                                                                                                                  Very sad news, Kristin. My heart goes out to you.

                                                                                                                                                  Stars

                                                                                                                                                  rosa1
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                                                                                                                                                    Kristin,

                                                                                                                                                    I'm deeply sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. Wishing you both the best. Stay strong!

                                                                                                                                                    Love,

                                                                                                                                                    Rosa

                                                                                                                                                      JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                        Thank you. I'm trying to stay strong.

                                                                                                                                                        JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                          Thank you. I'm trying to stay strong.

                                                                                                                                                          JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                            Thank you. I'm trying to stay strong.

                                                                                                                                                          rosa1
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                                                                                                                                                            Kristin,

                                                                                                                                                            I'm deeply sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. Wishing you both the best. Stay strong!

                                                                                                                                                            Love,

                                                                                                                                                            Rosa

                                                                                                                                                            rosa1
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                                                                                                                                                              Kristin,

                                                                                                                                                              I'm deeply sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. Wishing you both the best. Stay strong!

                                                                                                                                                              Love,

                                                                                                                                                              Rosa

                                                                                                                                                              yazziemac
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                                                                                                                                                                I'm so sorry, Kristin.  I lost my husband, Pete, on May 29/15.  I'm sure you are in shock right now and will have many difficult days of mourning ahead of you.  If you ever want to reach out for some support, feel free to email me.

                                                                                                                                                                 

                                                                                                                                                                Yasmin

                                                                                                                                                                  JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                                    Thank you Yasmin. And I am very sorry to hear you lost Pete. It's just so unfair.

                                                                                                                                                                    JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                                      Thank you Yasmin. And I am very sorry to hear you lost Pete. It's just so unfair.

                                                                                                                                                                      JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                                        Thank you Yasmin. And I am very sorry to hear you lost Pete. It's just so unfair.

                                                                                                                                                                      yazziemac
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                                                                                                                                                                        I'm so sorry, Kristin.  I lost my husband, Pete, on May 29/15.  I'm sure you are in shock right now and will have many difficult days of mourning ahead of you.  If you ever want to reach out for some support, feel free to email me.

                                                                                                                                                                         

                                                                                                                                                                        Yasmin

                                                                                                                                                                        yazziemac
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                                                                                                                                                                          I'm so sorry, Kristin.  I lost my husband, Pete, on May 29/15.  I'm sure you are in shock right now and will have many difficult days of mourning ahead of you.  If you ever want to reach out for some support, feel free to email me.

                                                                                                                                                                           

                                                                                                                                                                          Yasmin

                                                                                                                                                                          mdoh
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                                                                                                                                                                            Kristin – I am so sorry for your loss.  35 is too young; so unfair.

                                                                                                                                                                            *A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again. ~Maya Angelou

                                                                                                                                                                              JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                                                Thank you.

                                                                                                                                                                                JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                                                  Thank you.

                                                                                                                                                                                  JimsWife
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                                                                                                                                                                                    Thank you.

                                                                                                                                                                                  mdoh
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                                                                                                                                                                                    Kristin – I am so sorry for your loss.  35 is too young; so unfair.

                                                                                                                                                                                    *A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again. ~Maya Angelou

                                                                                                                                                                                    mdoh
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                                                                                                                                                                                      Kristin – I am so sorry for your loss.  35 is too young; so unfair.

                                                                                                                                                                                      *A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again. ~Maya Angelou

                                                                                                                                                                                      Scooby123
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                                                                                                                                                                                        so sorry for your loss.

                                                                                                                                                                                        scooby

                                                                                                                                                                                        Scooby123
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                                                                                                                                                                                          so sorry for your loss.

                                                                                                                                                                                          scooby

                                                                                                                                                                                          Scooby123
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                                                                                                                                                                                            so sorry for your loss.

                                                                                                                                                                                            scooby

                                                                                                                                                                                            AshleyS
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                                                                                                                                                                                              Hi Kristin. I am so sorry. Your post hit close to home – I was diagnosed Stage IV on December 11, 2014. I currently have an almost 3 year old and a 10 month old. I'm so sorry you're going through this. 

                                                                                                                                                                                              Lots of love,

                                                                                                                                                                                              Ashley 

                                                                                                                                                                                              AshleyS
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                                                                                                                                                                                                Hi Kristin. I am so sorry. Your post hit close to home – I was diagnosed Stage IV on December 11, 2014. I currently have an almost 3 year old and a 10 month old. I'm so sorry you're going through this. 

                                                                                                                                                                                                Lots of love,

                                                                                                                                                                                                Ashley 

                                                                                                                                                                                                AshleyS
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                                                                                                                                                                                                  Hi Kristin. I am so sorry. Your post hit close to home – I was diagnosed Stage IV on December 11, 2014. I currently have an almost 3 year old and a 10 month old. I'm so sorry you're going through this. 

                                                                                                                                                                                                  Lots of love,

                                                                                                                                                                                                  Ashley 

                                                                                                                                                                                                  _Paul_
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                                                                                                                                                                                                    Oh Kristen ,

                                                                                                                                                                                                    I am so sorry for you. It's not fair.

                                                                                                                                                                                                    You may find some a grief support group may  help. You can google them. Here is a link I found for Louisville http://www.griefshare.org/countries/us/states/ky/cities/louisville, even though I can't vouch for it.

                                                                                                                                                                                                    – Paul 

                                                                                                                                                                                                    _Paul_
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                                                                                                                                                                                                      Oh Kristen ,

                                                                                                                                                                                                      I am so sorry for you. It's not fair.

                                                                                                                                                                                                      You may find some a grief support group may  help. You can google them. Here is a link I found for Louisville http://www.griefshare.org/countries/us/states/ky/cities/louisville, even though I can't vouch for it.

                                                                                                                                                                                                      – Paul 

                                                                                                                                                                                                      _Paul_
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                                                                                                                                                                                                        Oh Kristen ,

                                                                                                                                                                                                        I am so sorry for you. It's not fair.

                                                                                                                                                                                                        You may find some a grief support group may  help. You can google them. Here is a link I found for Louisville http://www.griefshare.org/countries/us/states/ky/cities/louisville, even though I can't vouch for it.

                                                                                                                                                                                                        – Paul 

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