We lost the fight
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We lost the fight

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    • October 20, 2015 at 7:11 pm
    JimsWife
    Participant

    My husband passed away on September 18th, just 9 months after his diagnosis. A brief history: primary mole diagnosed melanoma in situ in 2007, became symptomatic and discovered on December 23, 2014 that it had metastized to his brain, lungs, and spine. He did WBR, SRS, Temodar, and the tafinlar/mekinist combo.

    He entered the hospital on Tuesday September 8th (1 day after our 2 year anniversary) and came home to pass away 10 days later. When he entered the hospital, he displayed stroke like symptoms, which was actually a focal seziure and continued to have massive seziures that left him immobile and unable to speak by the time he got home. We always knew the combo would stop working at some point and when it did, we had plans to do more radiation and Keytruda. However, the cancer progressed too fast once we realized and the seziures were too frequent. We didn't have time to react.

    He leaves behind his 3 month old daughter and myself (along with 4 brothers and his parents). The world truly lost a great man. He was 35.

    I visited these boards regularly and am thankful for all of you who continue to fight the good fight. Keep fighting. I will pray that all of you that are plagued by this awful beast of a disease can one day live melanoma free.

    With love,

    Kristin

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      • October 20, 2015 at 7:33 pm
      Gene_S
      Participant

      Hello Kirstin,

      I am very sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with all the family.

      Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)

      • October 20, 2015 at 7:33 pm
      Gene_S
      Participant

      Hello Kirstin,

      I am very sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with all the family.

      Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)

      • October 20, 2015 at 7:33 pm
      Gene_S
      Participant

      Hello Kirstin,

      I am very sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with all the family.

      Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)

      • October 20, 2015 at 7:42 pm
      jbronicki
      Participant

      Hi Kristin,

      My deepest condolences, can't even imagine what you are going through and many hugs for you, your daughter and the rest of the family.  I feel anger just thinking about losing such a special person and a new dad at such a young age to this horrible disease.  I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm sure he felt joy to have you and his daughter in his life and was thankful for your advocacy.

      Many hugs,

      Jackie

      • October 20, 2015 at 7:42 pm
      jbronicki
      Participant

      Hi Kristin,

      My deepest condolences, can't even imagine what you are going through and many hugs for you, your daughter and the rest of the family.  I feel anger just thinking about losing such a special person and a new dad at such a young age to this horrible disease.  I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm sure he felt joy to have you and his daughter in his life and was thankful for your advocacy.

      Many hugs,

      Jackie

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:01 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        I'm pretty angry too. I hate this for anyone who has to deal with this disease.

        Thank you for the kind words.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:01 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        I'm pretty angry too. I hate this for anyone who has to deal with this disease.

        Thank you for the kind words.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:01 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        I'm pretty angry too. I hate this for anyone who has to deal with this disease.

        Thank you for the kind words.

      • October 20, 2015 at 7:42 pm
      jbronicki
      Participant

      Hi Kristin,

      My deepest condolences, can't even imagine what you are going through and many hugs for you, your daughter and the rest of the family.  I feel anger just thinking about losing such a special person and a new dad at such a young age to this horrible disease.  I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm sure he felt joy to have you and his daughter in his life and was thankful for your advocacy.

      Many hugs,

      Jackie

      • October 20, 2015 at 9:14 pm
      Patina
      Participant

      I'm so sorry to hear that Jim lost his fight with this deadly disease.  It takes far too many now, but far fewer that it use to.

      I hope the two of you were able to enjoy looking forward to and sharing some time with your new baby. It is bitter sweet, but I'm sure her birth was one of the highlights of his life and I'm glad he was able to share that with you.

      My thoughts are with you both.

      • October 20, 2015 at 9:14 pm
      Patina
      Participant

      I'm so sorry to hear that Jim lost his fight with this deadly disease.  It takes far too many now, but far fewer that it use to.

      I hope the two of you were able to enjoy looking forward to and sharing some time with your new baby. It is bitter sweet, but I'm sure her birth was one of the highlights of his life and I'm glad he was able to share that with you.

      My thoughts are with you both.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:02 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you. We did enjoy looking forward to our life and I'm glad he got to see her.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:02 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you. We did enjoy looking forward to our life and I'm glad he got to see her.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:02 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you. We did enjoy looking forward to our life and I'm glad he got to see her.

      • October 20, 2015 at 9:14 pm
      Patina
      Participant

      I'm so sorry to hear that Jim lost his fight with this deadly disease.  It takes far too many now, but far fewer that it use to.

      I hope the two of you were able to enjoy looking forward to and sharing some time with your new baby. It is bitter sweet, but I'm sure her birth was one of the highlights of his life and I'm glad he was able to share that with you.

      My thoughts are with you both.

      • October 20, 2015 at 10:34 pm
      Fen
      Participant

      Oh, Kristin, my heart breaks for you and your family.  Sending prayers that you are surrounded by love and support during this awful time.   Fen

      • October 20, 2015 at 10:34 pm
      Fen
      Participant

      Oh, Kristin, my heart breaks for you and your family.  Sending prayers that you are surrounded by love and support during this awful time.   Fen

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 20, 2015 at 10:34 pm
      Fen
      Participant

      Oh, Kristin, my heart breaks for you and your family.  Sending prayers that you are surrounded by love and support during this awful time.   Fen

      • October 20, 2015 at 10:42 pm
      jamieth29
      Participant
      These posts are crushing…I’m so sorry.
      • October 20, 2015 at 10:42 pm
      jamieth29
      Participant
      These posts are crushing…I’m so sorry.
        • October 20, 2015 at 11:50 pm
        tschmith
        Participant

        Kristin,

        I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.  You and your family have my sympathy and prayers.

        Terrie

        • October 20, 2015 at 11:50 pm
        tschmith
        Participant

        Kristin,

        I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.  You and your family have my sympathy and prayers.

        Terrie

        • October 20, 2015 at 11:50 pm
        tschmith
        Participant

        Kristin,

        I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.  You and your family have my sympathy and prayers.

        Terrie

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 20, 2015 at 10:42 pm
      jamieth29
      Participant
      These posts are crushing…I’m so sorry.
      • October 21, 2015 at 12:00 am
      khubes
      Participant

      Kristin,

      I am so, so sorry for your loss.  35 is far too young.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. 

      With love,

      Katie 

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:03 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 21, 2015 at 12:00 am
      khubes
      Participant

      Kristin,

      I am so, so sorry for your loss.  35 is far too young.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. 

      With love,

      Katie 

      • October 21, 2015 at 12:00 am
      khubes
      Participant

      Kristin,

      I am so, so sorry for your loss.  35 is far too young.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. 

      With love,

      Katie 

      • October 21, 2015 at 12:31 am
      Mat
      Participant

      Kristin, I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 21, 2015 at 12:31 am
      Mat
      Participant

      Kristin, I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

      • October 21, 2015 at 12:31 am
      Mat
      Participant

      Kristin, I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:16 am
      CHD
      Participant

      Kristin, I am so sad to hear this and so sorry for your loss.

      Cheri

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:16 am
      CHD
      Participant

      Kristin, I am so sad to hear this and so sorry for your loss.

      Cheri

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:16 am
      CHD
      Participant

      Kristin, I am so sad to hear this and so sorry for your loss.

      Cheri

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:34 am
      BrianP
      Participant

      I'm so sorry Kristin.  I'll be praying for you and your daughter.

      Brian

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:04 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:34 am
      BrianP
      Participant

      I'm so sorry Kristin.  I'll be praying for you and your daughter.

      Brian

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:34 am
      BrianP
      Participant

      I'm so sorry Kristin.  I'll be praying for you and your daughter.

      Brian

      • October 21, 2015 at 2:53 am
      JoshF
      Participant

      Sorry for your loss. Just heartbreaking to hear. All the best.

      Josh

        • October 21, 2015 at 4:26 am
        Debbieamccoy
        Participant

        I'm so sorry please stay strong for your daughter , my prayers are with you

        • October 21, 2015 at 4:26 am
        Debbieamccoy
        Participant

        I'm so sorry please stay strong for your daughter , my prayers are with you

        • October 21, 2015 at 4:26 am
        Debbieamccoy
        Participant

        I'm so sorry please stay strong for your daughter , my prayers are with you

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 21, 2015 at 2:53 am
      JoshF
      Participant

      Sorry for your loss. Just heartbreaking to hear. All the best.

      Josh

      • October 21, 2015 at 2:53 am
      JoshF
      Participant

      Sorry for your loss. Just heartbreaking to hear. All the best.

      Josh

      • October 21, 2015 at 10:45 am
      stars
      Participant

      Very sad news, Kristin. My heart goes out to you.

      Stars

      • October 21, 2015 at 10:45 am
      stars
      Participant

      Very sad news, Kristin. My heart goes out to you.

      Stars

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 21, 2015 at 10:45 am
      stars
      Participant

      Very sad news, Kristin. My heart goes out to you.

      Stars

      • October 21, 2015 at 11:51 am
      rosa1
      Participant

      Kristin,

      I'm deeply sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. Wishing you both the best. Stay strong!

      Love,

      Rosa

      • October 21, 2015 at 11:51 am
      rosa1
      Participant

      Kristin,

      I'm deeply sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. Wishing you both the best. Stay strong!

      Love,

      Rosa

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you. I'm trying to stay strong.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you. I'm trying to stay strong.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:05 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you. I'm trying to stay strong.

      • October 21, 2015 at 11:51 am
      rosa1
      Participant

      Kristin,

      I'm deeply sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter. Wishing you both the best. Stay strong!

      Love,

      Rosa

      • October 21, 2015 at 12:20 pm
      yazziemac
      Participant

      I'm so sorry, Kristin.  I lost my husband, Pete, on May 29/15.  I'm sure you are in shock right now and will have many difficult days of mourning ahead of you.  If you ever want to reach out for some support, feel free to email me.

       

      Yasmin

      • October 21, 2015 at 12:20 pm
      yazziemac
      Participant

      I'm so sorry, Kristin.  I lost my husband, Pete, on May 29/15.  I'm sure you are in shock right now and will have many difficult days of mourning ahead of you.  If you ever want to reach out for some support, feel free to email me.

       

      Yasmin

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:09 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you Yasmin. And I am very sorry to hear you lost Pete. It's just so unfair.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:09 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you Yasmin. And I am very sorry to hear you lost Pete. It's just so unfair.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:09 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you Yasmin. And I am very sorry to hear you lost Pete. It's just so unfair.

      • October 21, 2015 at 12:20 pm
      yazziemac
      Participant

      I'm so sorry, Kristin.  I lost my husband, Pete, on May 29/15.  I'm sure you are in shock right now and will have many difficult days of mourning ahead of you.  If you ever want to reach out for some support, feel free to email me.

       

      Yasmin

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:59 pm
      mdoh
      Participant

      Kristin – I am so sorry for your loss.  35 is too young; so unfair.

      *A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again. ~Maya Angelou

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:59 pm
      mdoh
      Participant

      Kristin – I am so sorry for your loss.  35 is too young; so unfair.

      *A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again. ~Maya Angelou

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:10 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:10 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

        • October 21, 2015 at 2:10 pm
        JimsWife
        Participant

        Thank you.

      • October 21, 2015 at 1:59 pm
      mdoh
      Participant

      Kristin – I am so sorry for your loss.  35 is too young; so unfair.

      *A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again. ~Maya Angelou

      • October 22, 2015 at 11:01 am
      Scooby123
      Participant

      so sorry for your loss.

      scooby

      • October 22, 2015 at 11:01 am
      Scooby123
      Participant

      so sorry for your loss.

      scooby

      • October 22, 2015 at 11:01 am
      Scooby123
      Participant

      so sorry for your loss.

      scooby

      • October 24, 2015 at 4:51 am
      AshleyS
      Participant

      Hi Kristin. I am so sorry. Your post hit close to home – I was diagnosed Stage IV on December 11, 2014. I currently have an almost 3 year old and a 10 month old. I'm so sorry you're going through this. 

      Lots of love,

      Ashley 

      • October 24, 2015 at 4:51 am
      AshleyS
      Participant

      Hi Kristin. I am so sorry. Your post hit close to home – I was diagnosed Stage IV on December 11, 2014. I currently have an almost 3 year old and a 10 month old. I'm so sorry you're going through this. 

      Lots of love,

      Ashley 

      • October 24, 2015 at 4:51 am
      AshleyS
      Participant

      Hi Kristin. I am so sorry. Your post hit close to home – I was diagnosed Stage IV on December 11, 2014. I currently have an almost 3 year old and a 10 month old. I'm so sorry you're going through this. 

      Lots of love,

      Ashley 

      • October 30, 2015 at 1:29 am
      _Paul_
      Participant

      Oh Kristen ,

      I am so sorry for you. It's not fair.

      You may find some a grief support group may  help. You can google them. Here is a link I found for Louisville http://www.griefshare.org/countries/us/states/ky/cities/louisville, even though I can't vouch for it.

      – Paul 

      • October 30, 2015 at 1:29 am
      _Paul_
      Participant

      Oh Kristen ,

      I am so sorry for you. It's not fair.

      You may find some a grief support group may  help. You can google them. Here is a link I found for Louisville http://www.griefshare.org/countries/us/states/ky/cities/louisville, even though I can't vouch for it.

      – Paul 

      • October 30, 2015 at 1:29 am
      _Paul_
      Participant

      Oh Kristen ,

      I am so sorry for you. It's not fair.

      You may find some a grief support group may  help. You can google them. Here is a link I found for Louisville http://www.griefshare.org/countries/us/states/ky/cities/louisville, even though I can't vouch for it.

      – Paul 

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