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The end of the road

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    • April 21, 2017 at 1:35 am
    maperny
    Participant

      Yesterday, I lost my soulmate, Juan, and my son lost his Papa.  After 4 years fighting this awful disease, he reached the end of the line.

      The pain is raw and recovering from both losing him after 30 years of marriage and the toll of being a caregiver for such a long period will not be easy. But it was my pleasure to care for him over these years through multiple surgeries, radiation, chemotherapy, immunotherapy and TIL.   If I made it a little less painful and easier for him to cope with in any small way then my job was done.

      I would like to thank everyone for the advice and encouragement.  I see so much hope for the future with new treatments and progress every day, just too late for us.

      good luck and god bless

      Maria

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        • April 21, 2017 at 1:58 am
        momof4boys
        Participant
          So sorry… it seems lately this beast has taken several people on this board and Im at a loss for you, except to pray to God for strength. You have to be so tired. As hard as it is to go on, take some time for yourself and in time you will remember the old Juan, not the sick one. And someday you will meet again.
          • April 21, 2017 at 2:09 am
          jennunicorn
          Participant

            So very sorry Maria. My thoughts are with you and your son.

            • April 21, 2017 at 2:55 pm
            Fen
            Participant

              I'm so sorry, Maria.  I think you did a lot more than make it 'a little less painful and easier for him to cope'. Deepest sympathy to you and your son.     

              Fen

              • April 21, 2017 at 4:29 pm
              Cindyco
              Participant

                So sorry to hear this.  Much love and prayers to you and your family.  You have been such an amazingly informed and inspirational caregiver throughout this.  I hate this disease.

                • April 21, 2017 at 4:37 pm
                Julie in SoCal
                Participant

                  Oh Maria!

                  My heart goes out to you and your family.  If only hating this disease were enough to rid the earth of it….

                  May your heart find it's rest in Juan's love. 

                  God Bless,

                  Julie

                  • April 21, 2017 at 5:39 pm
                  Scooby123
                  Participant

                    So sorry Maria for your loss, sending hug and strength to you and your son. God bless❤️

                    Scooby

                    • April 21, 2017 at 7:36 pm
                    tschmith
                    Participant

                      I'm so sorry to hear this.  May Juan rest in peace.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.

                      Terrie

                      • April 21, 2017 at 11:26 pm
                      Maria C
                      Participant

                        So very sorry to hear this news, Maria, for you, your son, and every weary warrior on this board. My heart and prayers are with you and your family.

                        • April 22, 2017 at 12:26 am
                        Bubbles
                        Participant

                          Oh, Maria.  So sorry for your loss.  Jaun was blessed to have you.  I wish you healing and peace.  Yours, celeste

                          • April 22, 2017 at 1:37 am
                          Shaneswife
                          Participant

                            My condolences for your family's loss. 

                             

                            Janis

                            • April 22, 2017 at 4:16 am
                            snow white
                            Participant

                              Thinking of you at this most difficult time.

                              xo Jen

                              • April 22, 2017 at 4:48 am
                              adriana cooper
                              Participant

                                Maria, We are sorry  to hear this. It hits us especially hard. Please give yourself and your son a hug from us. 

                                Rob and Adriana

                                  • April 22, 2017 at 9:58 am
                                  maperny
                                  Participant

                                    Hi Rob, 

                                    sorry I haven't replied to your email yet.  I was so pleased to get it.  Things just got away from me……

                                    Maria

                                  • April 22, 2017 at 7:27 pm
                                  Patrisa
                                  Participant

                                    Dear Maria,

                                    Iam so sorry for your loss… Prayers for both you and your son…

                                    Love,

                                    Patrisa

                                    • April 25, 2017 at 6:52 pm
                                    jbronicki
                                    Participant

                                      I'm so very sorry to hear this Maria, you and Juan have my deepest sympathy.  You were a tremendous caregiver to Juan and that says a lot about you, that's one of the hardest roles and you did it selflessly.  Many many hugs.

                                      • April 27, 2017 at 1:54 pm
                                      Momofjake
                                      Participant

                                        Maria, 

                                        Just wanted to say thank you for sharing through all this. So sorry. I think your friends here understand better than most the heartache of melanoma. Praying for comfort for you and your son. 

                                        With affection,

                                        Kerri

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