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How to say goodbye, relieved of pain taken away but us earthlings…

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    • March 11, 2017 at 3:12 am
    Rita and Charles
    Participant

      Charles died at home on February 1st, If I hadn't wanted to give him more time to snooze before readying for his last, one of 10, full brain radiation treatments. The next day was to be advancement to Keytruda, or even perhaps a new clinical drug.  In lucid moments, I am sure he understood that discussions of health aide workers and in home hospice was fast approaching the horizong…………..I believe he reached through a window and climbed away, to be at peace, pain free – never to have his worst nightmare of dying in a hospital reallized.  It's been 38 days, and it's still so hard to breathe………………I will work to fight against this disease, but with a heart so bruised and hurting, making my way through a world that is empty for now, filled with lonliness and yearnings for one last hug………….

      Please all fight on, kick butt, or at the end cling with love………….for those left behind now suffer in a different way,

      I will still visit the site, this forum helped me so much, it sustained me and educated me.  For all those that went before him, hold each other tighht and shine down on us to let us know your spirit still surrounds us.

      Please all take care, I love you all like family.

      Rita

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        • March 11, 2017 at 3:48 am
        Becky
        Participant

          Rita

          I don't post here often but, like you this forum has educated me and sustaned me. I am so sorry…I cannot tell you how much I hate melanoma. I love love your profile pic with Charles..

          Becky

          • March 11, 2017 at 3:53 am
          snow white
          Participant

            Oh goodness Rita, I am so very very sorry for your loss.  I imagine that Charles was just ready to go to sleep and ready to be done with this beast we know as Melanoma.  My heart just breaks at the loss of those on this forum that have fought to hard to live.  You did a fantastic job at taking care of your beloved husband.  I am glad to know that you will continue to come around the forum to offer your input for those that are still fighting.

            May you find peace in the coming days.

            Jen

            • March 11, 2017 at 4:20 am
            Bubbles
            Participant

              Oh, Rita.  I am so sorry for your hurt and sadness.  Charles was as blessed to have you in his life as you were to have him in yours.  That is an amazing and beautiful thing.  May your memories soon become filled more often with joy than with pain.  Take care of you.  I wish you peace.  Love, celeste

              • March 11, 2017 at 6:02 am
              Marksa2570
              Participant

                I'm sorry for your loss.   I don't think most people understand the toll that melanoma can take on those diagnosed as well as their loved ones.     I pray for you and your husband and appreciate the contributions you have both made.   

                • March 11, 2017 at 6:19 am
                kimmyl
                Participant
                  I’m sorry to hear of your loss. I just joined this forum the other day and I’ve read so much that has helped me. Prayers to you and your family!
                  • March 11, 2017 at 1:05 pm
                  maperny
                  Participant

                    Hi Rita,

                    My heart goes out to you.  I know what it feels like to watch the suffering but I do not know what it feels like "afterwards" and I know that time is coming for us.

                    You mentioned that you believe that Charles took control and reached out for his own peace and maybe, although not what you are feeling now, he was also reaching out for peace for you.  You have been through so much and you made his time with you so happy as he did for you. 

                    I am praying for peace for you.

                    Maria

                     

                     

                    • March 11, 2017 at 1:13 pm
                    Terrified
                    Participant

                      Rita

                       

                      i am so sorry. Vince lost his fight January 1, so I understand. 

                       

                      Judy

                      • March 11, 2017 at 10:55 pm
                      debwray
                      Participant

                        Rita,

                        I am so sorry you have lost Charles. I hope you can find some comfort from the fact there is no more pain and that he died at home. I will remember to hold my dear ones as tight as I can in a difficult week whilst I still have time.

                        May god bless you and guide you through the hard dark days to come..I can't find the right words but am weeping with you at another loss…

                        Best wishes from another bit of the worldwide Melanoma family..

                        Deb

                        xx

                         

                        • March 12, 2017 at 1:21 am
                        Cathy M
                        Participant
                          Hugs and peace to you Rita
                          • March 12, 2017 at 3:07 am
                          jennunicorn
                          Participant

                            Rita, I am so so very sorry. Charles was incredibly blessed to have you in his life. Sending love and prayers to you and your family.

                            • March 13, 2017 at 2:47 am
                            Momofjake
                            Participant

                              I was heartbroken to hear this Rita. Love to you. It's just so hard. 

                              Prayers for strength and peace.

                              Kerri

                              • March 13, 2017 at 3:10 am
                              tschmith
                              Participant

                                I'm so sorry for your loss, Rita.  I hope someday a cure will be found for all warriors.  Until then we will keep fighting. My prayers for you.

                                Terrie

                                • March 14, 2017 at 2:53 am
                                CHD
                                Participant

                                  Rita, I am so sad to hear this.  I have followed your posts and I am so sorry for your loss.  Words fail.  Hugs to you.

                                   

                                  Cheri

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