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- August 4, 2011 at 12:29 am
Jill,
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. There are really no words to say to you that will heal your pain right now. Just know that many people love you and admire both your's and Eric's courage and strength. Try to take care of yourself during this difficult time. Find your good friend and lean on her/him for strength. I would be lost without my dear friend.
Peace and prayers for you and your family.
Kim
Mother to Erik who set aside his battle with melanoma 5/22/2011 age 26
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- August 4, 2011 at 12:29 am
Jill,
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. There are really no words to say to you that will heal your pain right now. Just know that many people love you and admire both your's and Eric's courage and strength. Try to take care of yourself during this difficult time. Find your good friend and lean on her/him for strength. I would be lost without my dear friend.
Peace and prayers for you and your family.
Kim
Mother to Erik who set aside his battle with melanoma 5/22/2011 age 26
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- July 17, 2011 at 1:07 am
Thank you James…I am so sorry to hear that you are walking in these same shoes. I have never lost someone close to me and for it to be my son, and watch this disease take over his body, watch the fear, and pain and be unable to do anything about it was horrible beyond words, as you well know.
Initially, I tried to stay "busy" so I didn't have to feel the pain..doesn't work well. Now, I am in a place that I feel the pain all day and cry for him. My therapist, that I have had for some time says you have to "feel" it to walk through it and that it takes a long time, sometimes years when it is your child that you lost.
I am fortunate in that I have 3 other boys, one of which is still at home, and a few amazing friends that are always available.
Peace and blessings to you and your wife James.
Kim
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- July 17, 2011 at 1:07 am
Thank you James…I am so sorry to hear that you are walking in these same shoes. I have never lost someone close to me and for it to be my son, and watch this disease take over his body, watch the fear, and pain and be unable to do anything about it was horrible beyond words, as you well know.
Initially, I tried to stay "busy" so I didn't have to feel the pain..doesn't work well. Now, I am in a place that I feel the pain all day and cry for him. My therapist, that I have had for some time says you have to "feel" it to walk through it and that it takes a long time, sometimes years when it is your child that you lost.
I am fortunate in that I have 3 other boys, one of which is still at home, and a few amazing friends that are always available.
Peace and blessings to you and your wife James.
Kim
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- July 17, 2011 at 12:54 am
Carol,
Your support and kind words touch me. I have a couple great friends that are walking with me on this horrible journey, and I thank God for that everyday. One of my closest friends, Jeanne, was at the hospital to see Erik quite a bit. The week before his passing he had called everyone in the room to say some things to each of us. He pulled Jeanne close and asked her to please take care of me that I would need someone. (she later told me this) She has been my rock. As time passes people go "away" but she has not left my side.
You're exactly right about Erik being a part of all our lives and touching the lives of so many people, we are all better for having known him.
I still have 3 wonderful boys with me and they are some of the best…
I am sorry to hear that your son was so troubled, but happy to hear he is well and with you. I sense that you are a great support for him and a wonderful mother.
Peace and blessings to you and your family.
Kim
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- July 17, 2011 at 12:54 am
Carol,
Your support and kind words touch me. I have a couple great friends that are walking with me on this horrible journey, and I thank God for that everyday. One of my closest friends, Jeanne, was at the hospital to see Erik quite a bit. The week before his passing he had called everyone in the room to say some things to each of us. He pulled Jeanne close and asked her to please take care of me that I would need someone. (she later told me this) She has been my rock. As time passes people go "away" but she has not left my side.
You're exactly right about Erik being a part of all our lives and touching the lives of so many people, we are all better for having known him.
I still have 3 wonderful boys with me and they are some of the best…
I am sorry to hear that your son was so troubled, but happy to hear he is well and with you. I sense that you are a great support for him and a wonderful mother.
Peace and blessings to you and your family.
Kim
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