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Update on my story

Forums General Melanoma Community Update on my story

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    Happygal
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      Ok, well my Oncologist let me know that I should be getting more symptoms from my brain lesions. They can’t do anymore immunotherapy. My body can’t handle it. I had Ipi, then the ipi/nivo. My liver was going down.
      Then it masticized to my brain. I had Whole Brain radiation. The MRI showed several lesions that grew, they can’t do anymore with that. I am currently on Decadron to help with the swelling.
      That’s it. That’s all they can offer me.
      I am on CBD/THC to help with the anxiety of it all.
      I am scared, but still plugging along

      What do you say to people who offer you the “the ultimate cure”; “drink your pee; ” ” I know this person who beat it by just letting it run its course”. I don’t want to be rude. But I don’t need an opinion of every person who sees me and feels they know what I should do.
      Ok rant done.
      I am blessed to be here, very confused, but know this is where I can get informed answers. If I can just understand them.

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        Bubbles
        Participant
          I hear you, Tyais!!! I’ve written repeatedly about the things folks say to cancer peeps that they absolutely totally shouldn’t!!! As you note, some are well meaning. Others….well, what can you say?

          You are an amazing light to all of us. Hang in there. Hoping the decadron will help improve your situation with a decrease in the swelling. Wish we could share a cup of tea and a big hug!! Hang in there. love, c

          MelanomaMike
          Participant
            HappyGal! Well thats not what we wanna hear! Well, deep breath, youll only read REAL advice or remarks here at MRF, i may have a cure: “You Put the Lime in the Coconut & drink it all up, you put the Lime in the Coconut & drink it all up…Said “doctor, ain’t there nothing’ I can take?”
            I said, “doctor, to relieve this belly ache”
            I said “doctor, ain’t there nothin’ I can take?’
            I said, “doctor, to relieve this belly ache”….
            Not sure if you remember this song from the 60’s!!??
            But seriously, only thing i can say is gettin a referral to another Specialist?? There might be something else, read my latest post whats being offered to me, im at the end of the line, its time to throw the Kitchen sink at it!…
              jbronicki
              Participant
                Hi Tyais,

                I’ve been off the board for several weeks and just came back and saw this. Just know Tyais, from one human to another and from the depth of our hearts, this board wants nothing but the best for you. It hurts to know you are hurting and what you are facing and I’m sorry that on top of everything else, you also have to deal with people being insensitive (sometimes with good intent, sometimes just idiots). I know my husband would just tell them to shut up (and might add a swear word in the middle). I’m sorry, wish we could physically be there to run interference for you. I don’t have any words of wisdom for you, just a virtual hug. All our hearts hurt knowing what you are going through.

              gopher38
              Participant
                My god, who wouldn’t be scared? This is beyond me, but hope there are still things to try after immunotherapy. Keeping you in my thoughts.
                Lucygoose
                Participant
                  Damn. Sorry to hear this update, but I know you are staying strong. I’m praying and sending hugs.

                  The goof ball cures people throw at us are frustrating. I was captive while the guy cutting my hair was telling me all the ways banana peels can be ingested and cure cancer. Read it on the internet so it must be true.

                  People are idiots sometimes. Well intentioned, but idiotic. Do they really feel a $&@@&$ banana peel is going to cure all cancers.

                  I wish you all the best and hope your CBD and THC help with the anxiety.

                  Lucy

                  lkb
                  Participant
                    I’m always in favor of a second/third/fourth opinion, but possibly, you’ve been there and done that. I wish this weren’t happening to you, but I’m very glad you posted. I had someone tell me I could beat cancer by removing everything alkaline from my diet. Wow. I guess all those specialists who work on nothing but melanoma every day of their lives for decades and decades somehow missed that one? Sending you hugs instead.
                      MelanomaMike
                      Participant
                        Serious??!! Thsts dude/chick was an idiot!.. I had an understanding Alkaloids where great to starve tumors!
                      casagrayson
                      Participant
                        Tyais, are you considering going somewhere else for a 3rd/4th opinion? Maybe something your local docs haven’t thought of? Many cyberhugs coming your way right now!
                        guynamedbilly
                        Participant
                          I know what you mean. For family or people I’m close with, I straight up tell them I don’t want to hear about any more alternative treatments. For the well meaning dunces, I just bite my tongue and try to appreciate that they want to help. It’s hard to do sometimes.
                          Linny
                          Participant
                            I’m so sorry to hear of this development. Regarding those people offering you “ultimate cure” stories, just a “thanks, I’ll look into it” or “I need something a bit more potent” usually quiets them down. Generally they mean well, even though what they’re telling you is anecdotal and a bit dodgy. You’ve got a handle on the the anxiety part. I pray the decadron takes care of the swelling.

                            Getting a second opinion definitely can’t hurt. Some people have had success with brain mets with a drug called Temodar. Don’t know if you’ve been offered that. There also may be a trial for which you can qualify. So, seeking a second opinion is definitely worthwhile.

                            Tracyyy
                            Participant
                              Hi Happygal, sorry to hear about your update. Hang in there. I was going to suggest the same as Linny – maybe it is worth asking for another opinion and the chemo drug Temodar for brain mets, I have read some success stories of people on it. Good luck!
                                Happygal
                                Participant
                                  Tha6you for the infotainment. It is greatly appreciated
                                  Happygal
                                  Participant
                                    Tha6you for the infotainment. It is greatly appreciated
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