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Update on My Jim

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  • This topic has 32 replies, 14 voices, and was last updated 14 years ago by Niki.
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    • November 22, 2010 at 3:41 pm
    Sherron
    Participant

      It has been a roller coaster lately.  Jim as some of you know has been in and out of VA ER for several weeks.  They did emergency surgery on Friday around noon.(he had only about 36 hrs left)  No time even for scans…they could see the hole.  They did a resection.  They were hoping to do further work but he was very unstable during the surgery,  His stomach was filled with blood and bile.  There are still 12 to 13 tumors which will most likely do the same thing.  They were hoping to remove more and give him a bag….but at this point that does not lo

      It has been a roller coaster lately.  Jim as some of you know has been in and out of VA ER for several weeks.  They did emergency surgery on Friday around noon.(he had only about 36 hrs left)  No time even for scans…they could see the hole.  They did a resection.  They were hoping to do further work but he was very unstable during the surgery,  His stomach was filled with blood and bile.  There are still 12 to 13 tumors which will most likely do the same thing.  They were hoping to remove more and give him a bag….but at this point that does not look likely;  His stomach is open with gauze over it.  It has to heal from the inside out…He will be here for 7 to 20 days…then they will send Home Health Care out to chnage and clean the area.  The doctor will set him up on some good medications for pain and break thru pain.  And we will try to give him the best QUALITY AND PAIN FREE TIME LEFT FOR HIM.  Jim had 4 years 2 months of great quality time, which is what he wanted, ..I don't think the doctor has told him about the other tumors, nor have I since he has been in ICU….but I think he probably know there are more.  We pray and ask for your prayers for a pain free holiday season, seeing many family members, making some few final joyous memories…

      I will keep everyone one informed on things as it happens.  Thank you for being here for me.

      Take Care,

      Sherron, wife to Jim

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        • November 22, 2010 at 4:11 pm
        Rebecca and Bob
        Participant

          Sherron,

           

          So sorry to hear this, I pray that Jim has no pain during this time. That is terrible news and so close to home for me. It's good that Jim had so much quality time before. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

          Rebecca

            • November 24, 2010 at 6:07 pm
            Sherron
            Participant

              i KNOW IT CLOSE TO HOME FOR YOU REBECCA,  I PRAY ALL IS WELL WITH BOB AND IT'S NOT BACK IN THE INTESTINES.  MY PRAYERS ARAE WITH YOU.

               

              TAKE CARE,

              SSHERRON, WIFE TO JIM

              • November 24, 2010 at 6:07 pm
              Sherron
              Participant

                i KNOW IT CLOSE TO HOME FOR YOU REBECCA,  I PRAY ALL IS WELL WITH BOB AND IT'S NOT BACK IN THE INTESTINES.  MY PRAYERS ARAE WITH YOU.

                 

                TAKE CARE,

                SSHERRON, WIFE TO JIM

              • November 22, 2010 at 4:11 pm
              Rebecca and Bob
              Participant

                Sherron,

                 

                So sorry to hear this, I pray that Jim has no pain during this time. That is terrible news and so close to home for me. It's good that Jim had so much quality time before. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

                Rebecca

                • November 22, 2010 at 4:33 pm
                JohnHen
                Participant

                  Sherron,

                  I pray that you and Jim will be carried through this most difficult time and that peace, joy and love will be rained down upon you both.

                  John

                  • November 22, 2010 at 4:33 pm
                  JohnHen
                  Participant

                    Sherron,

                    I pray that you and Jim will be carried through this most difficult time and that peace, joy and love will be rained down upon you both.

                    John

                    • November 22, 2010 at 4:37 pm
                    Janner
                    Participant

                      Thoughts are with you and Jim, Sherron.  Best wishes for good pain control as well!

                      Best wishes,

                      Janner

                      • November 22, 2010 at 4:37 pm
                      Janner
                      Participant

                        Thoughts are with you and Jim, Sherron.  Best wishes for good pain control as well!

                        Best wishes,

                        Janner

                        • November 22, 2010 at 9:23 pm
                        MichaelFL
                        Participant

                          As you yourself said- "Jim had 4 years 2 months of great quality time, which is what he wanted", That is waht counts.

                          Sending you both best wishes that everything goes as pain free as possible from here on out.

                          Michael

                          • November 22, 2010 at 9:23 pm
                          MichaelFL
                          Participant

                            As you yourself said- "Jim had 4 years 2 months of great quality time, which is what he wanted", That is waht counts.

                            Sending you both best wishes that everything goes as pain free as possible from here on out.

                            Michael

                            • November 22, 2010 at 9:53 pm
                            James from Sydney
                            Participant

                              Sherron it pains me to read this but i do know it gets to a point where we do not want to see our loved ones suffer. I know it pains them to see us suffer as well. They will give him Meds that will make him comfortable. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

                              James

                              • November 22, 2010 at 9:53 pm
                              James from Sydney
                              Participant

                                Sherron it pains me to read this but i do know it gets to a point where we do not want to see our loved ones suffer. I know it pains them to see us suffer as well. They will give him Meds that will make him comfortable. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

                                James

                                • November 22, 2010 at 10:35 pm
                                Cate
                                Participant

                                  Thinking of you and your family.  I hope Jim can be pain free and you can have new holiday memories to cherish.

                                  • November 22, 2010 at 10:35 pm
                                  Cate
                                  Participant

                                    Thinking of you and your family.  I hope Jim can be pain free and you can have new holiday memories to cherish.

                                    • November 22, 2010 at 10:55 pm
                                    Linda/Kentucky
                                    Participant

                                      I am so sorry to hear this news.  I know there are no words to help with the grieving but please know there are prayers being said and that is better than kind words.  I pray you find peace throughout this final stage and yes make memories.  My husband and I kind of have this running joke by saying " were making memories aren't we" and yes we certainly are.  Time is precious so enjoy every single second God gives him.

                                       

                                      Linda/Kentucky

                                      • November 22, 2010 at 10:55 pm
                                      Linda/Kentucky
                                      Participant

                                        I am so sorry to hear this news.  I know there are no words to help with the grieving but please know there are prayers being said and that is better than kind words.  I pray you find peace throughout this final stage and yes make memories.  My husband and I kind of have this running joke by saying " were making memories aren't we" and yes we certainly are.  Time is precious so enjoy every single second God gives him.

                                         

                                        Linda/Kentucky

                                        • November 22, 2010 at 11:28 pm
                                        Laurie from maine
                                        Participant

                                          Hi,

                                          My heart goes out to you both.  You are in my prayers.

                                          laurie from maine

                                          • November 22, 2010 at 11:28 pm
                                          Laurie from maine
                                          Participant

                                            Hi,

                                            My heart goes out to you both.  You are in my prayers.

                                            laurie from maine

                                            • November 23, 2010 at 4:34 am
                                            jag
                                            Participant

                                              Sherron, I am very sorry to hear this news.  

                                              Prayers for a pain free holiday season have been said.

                                              John

                                              • November 23, 2010 at 4:34 am
                                              jag
                                              Participant

                                                Sherron, I am very sorry to hear this news.  

                                                Prayers for a pain free holiday season have been said.

                                                John

                                                • November 23, 2010 at 7:31 am
                                                JenC
                                                Participant
                                                  I will pray for peace for Jim and your family!
                                                  • November 23, 2010 at 7:31 am
                                                  JenC
                                                  Participant
                                                    I will pray for peace for Jim and your family!
                                                    • November 23, 2010 at 12:31 pm
                                                    Fen
                                                    Participant

                                                       

                                                      Sending you good thoughts for lots of family at the holidays.  Keeping you both in my prayers.

                                                      Fen

                                                      • November 23, 2010 at 12:31 pm
                                                      Fen
                                                      Participant

                                                         

                                                        Sending you good thoughts for lots of family at the holidays.  Keeping you both in my prayers.

                                                        Fen

                                                        • November 23, 2010 at 4:33 pm
                                                        JuleFL
                                                        Participant

                                                          Sherron,

                                                          I am so sorry to hear of Jim's recent ordeal.  I'm glad you were able to spend the quality time with him and wish you two peace and joy with your family this holiday season.  Prayers are coming your way.  God Bless.

                                                          Jule

                                                            • November 24, 2010 at 6:01 pm
                                                            Sherron
                                                            Participant

                                                              Thank you Jule….I know your pain in fresh. 

                                                               

                                                              Take  c are of yourself.

                                                               

                                                              ssssherron, wife to JIm

                                                              • November 24, 2010 at 6:01 pm
                                                              Sherron
                                                              Participant

                                                                Thank you Jule….I know your pain in fresh. 

                                                                 

                                                                Take  c are of yourself.

                                                                 

                                                                ssssherron, wife to JIm

                                                              • November 23, 2010 at 4:33 pm
                                                              JuleFL
                                                              Participant

                                                                Sherron,

                                                                I am so sorry to hear of Jim's recent ordeal.  I'm glad you were able to spend the quality time with him and wish you two peace and joy with your family this holiday season.  Prayers are coming your way.  God Bless.

                                                                Jule

                                                                • November 24, 2010 at 6:05 pm
                                                                Sherron
                                                                Participant

                                                                  Thank you all for your prayers.   It means a great deal to me.  I am almost sick from lack of sleep….He is stable for now

                                                                  The kids have made me come home to rest, so I can start fresh tomorrow.  This is so hard.  I feel like the air is being sucked out of my lungs, like I can't    breathe.  Later- my friends, and thank you ALL.

                                                                  TAKE CARE,

                                                                   

                                                                  SHERRON, WIFE TO JIM

                                                                  • November 24, 2010 at 6:05 pm
                                                                  Sherron
                                                                  Participant

                                                                    Thank you all for your prayers.   It means a great deal to me.  I am almost sick from lack of sleep….He is stable for now

                                                                    The kids have made me come home to rest, so I can start fresh tomorrow.  This is so hard.  I feel like the air is being sucked out of my lungs, like I can't    breathe.  Later- my friends, and thank you ALL.

                                                                    TAKE CARE,

                                                                     

                                                                    SHERRON, WIFE TO JIM

                                                                    • November 25, 2010 at 2:20 am
                                                                    Niki
                                                                    Participant

                                                                      Thinking of you and Jim, Sherron.

                                                                      Niki (Wife of Joe)

                                                                      • November 25, 2010 at 2:20 am
                                                                      Niki
                                                                      Participant

                                                                        Thinking of you and Jim, Sherron.

                                                                        Niki (Wife of Joe)

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