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Goodbye Mom

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    Kell
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    My Mom was diagnosed with melanoma in April. She had it removed in May and had 5 high doses of radiation. Everything was supposed to be ok or so we thought. Fast forward to Sept. 1st when I got a call that she had severe abdominal pain. Rushed her to the hospital where they did a cat scan and said they saw tumors in her intestines. She continued in pain until 9 days and so many tests later she went for another cat scan where a doctor saw that she had a hole and if she didn't have emergency surgery the toxins would go through her body and she would die.

    My Mom was diagnosed with melanoma in April. She had it removed in May and had 5 high doses of radiation. Everything was supposed to be ok or so we thought. Fast forward to Sept. 1st when I got a call that she had severe abdominal pain. Rushed her to the hospital where they did a cat scan and said they saw tumors in her intestines. She continued in pain until 9 days and so many tests later she went for another cat scan where a doctor saw that she had a hole and if she didn't have emergency surgery the toxins would go through her body and she would die. Preceded with the surgery where they repaired the hole and removed one of the tumors but weren't able to get to the other one. At first she seemed to be recovering then she got an infection and needed to have a drain put in. Last week I could see that melanoma was winning this battle and was about to take another persons life. Just watching her there in so much pain yet trying to hold on for her family was heartbreaking. On this past Saturday the doctor told us it's not good and if there was anyone that needed to see her they should come. Watching my Mom die when she had so much life and love left to give makes me so sad. For those of you that are dealing with this disease I hope the best for you.

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      lhaley
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      I am so sorry for your loss. This disease makes absolutely no sense. Your mom is now at peace and no longer in pain. With time you will be able to remember the good times, cherish those memories.

      My heart goes out to you,

      Linda

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      lhaley
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      I am so sorry for your loss. This disease makes absolutely no sense. Your mom is now at peace and no longer in pain. With time you will be able to remember the good times, cherish those memories.

      My heart goes out to you,

      Linda

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      ValinMtl
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      My deepest sympathies. This disease is a monster, I pray that we will be able to stomp on it some day soon.   I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom.  Val xx

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      ValinMtl
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      My deepest sympathies. This disease is a monster, I pray that we will be able to stomp on it some day soon.   I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom.  Val xx

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      Jaime.30
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      I am so sorry that this beast has taken your mother away from you.  My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Jaime

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      Jaime.30
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      I am so sorry that this beast has taken your mother away from you.  My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Jaime

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      KellieSue
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      I'm so sorry for your loss.  That must have been so difficult to see your mom suffering.

      Kellie(from Iowa) Stage IV

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      KellieSue
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      I'm so sorry for your loss.  That must have been so difficult to see your mom suffering.

      Kellie(from Iowa) Stage IV

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        Kell
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        Thank you. I just read your profile and I must say I admire your strength and positive attitude. I  will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. 

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        Kell
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        Thank you. I just read your profile and I must say I admire your strength and positive attitude. I  will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. 

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      Fen
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      Deepest sympathy to you and your family.  It's an awful disease and I'm so sorry it touched you.

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      Fen
      Participant

      Deepest sympathy to you and your family.  It's an awful disease and I'm so sorry it touched you.

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      jag
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      I am very sorry for your loss.  The one thing you can hold on to is the fact that you were there for her when she needed you the most.

      God Bless

      John

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      jag
      Participant

      I am very sorry for your loss.  The one thing you can hold on to is the fact that you were there for her when she needed you the most.

      God Bless

      John

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      Lori C
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      I am so sorry to hear this.  I am lighting candles tonight – I will light one for your mom.

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      Lori C
      Participant

      I am so sorry to hear this.  I am lighting candles tonight – I will light one for your mom.

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      King
      Participant

      Kell,

       

      I offer my sincere sympathy in the loss of your mother.  I hope in time that happy memories will replace the sadness that you are now experiencing.

       

      Stay Strong

      King

      Stage IV 7/05 Liver mets

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      King
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      Kell,

       

      I offer my sincere sympathy in the loss of your mother.  I hope in time that happy memories will replace the sadness that you are now experiencing.

       

      Stay Strong

      King

      Stage IV 7/05 Liver mets

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      Jill and Eric in Fl
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      I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I hope one day the memories will all make you smile and you will have peace in your heart. Prayers for you and your family

      Jill and Eric in Fl

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      Jill and Eric in Fl
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      I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I hope one day the memories will all make you smile and you will have peace in your heart. Prayers for you and your family

      Jill and Eric in Fl

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      JuleFL
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      My deepest condolences.  You and your family are in my prayers.

      Jule (wife of Cal)

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      JuleFL
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      My deepest condolences.  You and your family are in my prayers.

      Jule (wife of Cal)

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      Sharyn
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      What  a sad experience for you, watching your Mom die, but I'm sure she was glad to have you there in her last moments. I am so sorry  for your loss, and hope that you will draw from your Mom's courage and learn to move forward from this. My thoughts and parayers are with you and your family.

      Warm comforting hugs

      Sharyn

      Stage IV

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      Sharyn
      Participant

      What  a sad experience for you, watching your Mom die, but I'm sure she was glad to have you there in her last moments. I am so sorry  for your loss, and hope that you will draw from your Mom's courage and learn to move forward from this. My thoughts and parayers are with you and your family.

      Warm comforting hugs

      Sharyn

      Stage IV

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      PSD
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      Kell,

      I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

      Pamela

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      PSD
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      Kell,

      I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

      Pamela

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