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    • June 7, 2017 at 10:28 pm
    Shaneswife
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      I'm so devastated. Shane had a DNR put in place. I understand why but it's so very painful to live through this. Knowing I can't call 911 for him if he stops breathing during a seizure breaks me inside. We now have a hospice doctor coming to the house to treat Shane and nurses daily providing care along with myself and family. Shane kicked the psw's out of his treatment plan as he was too uncomfortable with them. 

      I lay awake at night and just wonder if we'll get through another day together. His PPS is 50% so I doubt there is much time left. 

       

      Janis

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        • June 7, 2017 at 11:01 pm
        Ridingaroundwith27Jennifers
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          I'm sorry to hear of your news.  I hope you can find some peace during the time you do have together.  You are strong and your husband is truly blessed to have you.  There are no words to comfort you during this painful time.

          Jennifer

          • June 7, 2017 at 11:13 pm
          Coragirl
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            I am so sorry, I know there are no words that can bring you comfort at this time. I just wanted you to know that prayers are being sent up for you and your family.

            • June 7, 2017 at 11:33 pm
            Michelle820
            Participant

              (((Hugs))) I am so sorry this is happening. Sending prayers your way. 

              • June 8, 2017 at 1:06 am
              jenny22
              Participant

                janis- as others have said, there are just no words at a time like this. I am so sorry ……hold him tight!!!!!!

                • June 8, 2017 at 2:24 am
                Bubbles
                Participant

                  I can't imagine how difficult.  So very sorry.  Shane is so lucky to have you.  C

                  • June 8, 2017 at 5:01 am
                  adriana cooper
                  Participant

                    Janis, Adriana and my thoughts are with you. We were down that road, thankfully not as far and have been blessed to be able to step back from the edge a few steps. Hold him tight as he will allow, and tight as you can in your sprit.  Even though his body may leave you, the love the two of you have will last forever. Use all the resorces available to you now and in the future.

                    Rob

                    • June 8, 2017 at 5:31 am
                    sgreenberg
                    Participant

                      Thinking of you, and hoping you both find peace soon.

                      • June 8, 2017 at 5:34 am
                      sgreenberg
                      Participant

                        Thinking of you, and hoping you both find peace soon.

                        • June 8, 2017 at 10:21 am
                        maperny
                        Participant

                          Janis, you are amazing, he knows that, he can feel that.  Just keep telling him you love him, he can hear you, you are bringing him such comfort, let your love wash over him.

                          I admire you so much

                          Maria

                          • June 8, 2017 at 5:15 pm
                          Patrisa
                          Participant

                            Dear Janis,

                            praying for you and your dear Shane… don't let the fear overwhelm you and take away from the precious moments you have left with him… you are so brave and strong….

                            Love,

                            Patrisa

                            • June 8, 2017 at 7:39 pm
                            MikeW
                            Participant

                              Thinking positive thoughts for you in the toughest of times. Do try to take care of yourself….

                              • June 8, 2017 at 7:46 pm
                              JustJaren
                              Participant

                                May you and your family and friends have peace during this transition. xoxo

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