Diana W

Hi Monica,

Your post and the subsequent discussion prompted me to respond.  I appreciate the many thoughts expressed here with this question.  I have come to the point with my MM along the lines of what Katy said.  Basically, most people know that everyone dies but it seems some sort of 1 dimensional idea ie; not facing ones own death just thinking of others that are sick or dying…others….  Suddenly living with cancer it forces one to get really 3 dimensional with death.  Everyone is terminal.  I could be surviving mm and die from something else altogether.  We just dont know where life will take us so what is important is where we go, what road we choose to travel. 

It took me a long time to fully embrace that concept.  For me it is a much more comfortable place to be, the other option is to live in fear.  Living in fear detracts from my ablility to enjoy life…so I had to break through to another place…another focus.

I was terrified the first time they told me..I was only 25 and I had stage 2.  25 years later it came back at stage 3c..once again I was initially terrified, that was 21 months ago.  I believe that if I have to deal with it again and most likely I will have to..I will  be able to recapture my focus on life and joy in the face of it much quicker than I did the first 2 times. 

So, we all have to keep thanking God for each healthy day we enjoy and keep praying for those in treatment and praying for a cure for this awful disease.

I found this poem recently and I think it says it all.

Death is not the end
Death can never be the end.

Death is the road.
Life is the traveller.
The Soul is the Guide

…

Our mind thinks of death.
Our heart thinks of life
Our soul thinks of Immortality. 

– By: Sri Chinmoy

Hi Monica,

Your post and the subsequent discussion prompted me to respond.  I appreciate the many thoughts expressed here with this question.  I have come to the point with my MM along the lines of what Katy said.  Basically, most people know that everyone dies but it seems some sort of 1 dimensional idea ie; not facing ones own death just thinking of others that are sick or dying…others….  Suddenly living with cancer it forces one to get really 3 dimensional with death.  Everyone is terminal.  I could be surviving mm and die from something else altogether.  We just dont know where life will take us so what is important is where we go, what road we choose to travel. 

It took me a long time to fully embrace that concept.  For me it is a much more comfortable place to be, the other option is to live in fear.  Living in fear detracts from my ablility to enjoy life…so I had to break through to another place…another focus.

I was terrified the first time they told me..I was only 25 and I had stage 2.  25 years later it came back at stage 3c..once again I was initially terrified, that was 21 months ago.  I believe that if I have to deal with it again and most likely I will have to..I will  be able to recapture my focus on life and joy in the face of it much quicker than I did the first 2 times. 

So, we all have to keep thanking God for each healthy day we enjoy and keep praying for those in treatment and praying for a cure for this awful disease.

I found this poem recently and I think it says it all.

Death is not the end
Death can never be the end.

Death is the road.
Life is the traveller.
The Soul is the Guide

…

Our mind thinks of death.
Our heart thinks of life
Our soul thinks of Immortality. 

– By: Sri Chinmoy

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very sorry to hear this news

Diana W

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very sorry to hear this news

Diana W

That's great news Charlie.  You are quite the team mate!  We all need a Charlie or two on our team!

Go AMY Go!! and God Bless you.

That's great news Charlie.  You are quite the team mate!  We all need a Charlie or two on our team!

Go AMY Go!! and God Bless you.

hi Chris & CG21,

I am with Dian on this…you definitely got the idea that you had mm stage 2 from somewhere, I would try to track that down a bit…maybe they were looking at the wrong patients chart? the fact that he had to go back for more surgery says that they thought something as well because (I am not a doc) my experience is that with an atypical mole there is no further removal..  it just all sounds odd.  For me, I would be happy with a diagnosis of atypical mole but on the other hand get the path report and ask all the questions you need to until you have a full understanding

hi Chris & CG21,

I am with Dian on this…you definitely got the idea that you had mm stage 2 from somewhere, I would try to track that down a bit…maybe they were looking at the wrong patients chart? the fact that he had to go back for more surgery says that they thought something as well because (I am not a doc) my experience is that with an atypical mole there is no further removal..  it just all sounds odd.  For me, I would be happy with a diagnosis of atypical mole but on the other hand get the path report and ask all the questions you need to until you have a full understanding