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- July 2, 2012 at 7:23 am
So that was a downer again! The Temador for two months has done nothing. The WBR also has done nothing. One lesion is causing weakness in his foot and they're not offering anything other than cortisone for it. What's been offered? Well Carbo/Taxol or Fortismusine, both he did not recommend and personally would not take vs quality of life. So we don't know if there are any new lesions but I'm going to get the MRI disk to see whether gamma knife is an option, he said it wasn't. He also said that we need to get palliative care involved for down the track.
So that was a downer again! The Temador for two months has done nothing. The WBR also has done nothing. One lesion is causing weakness in his foot and they're not offering anything other than cortisone for it. What's been offered? Well Carbo/Taxol or Fortismusine, both he did not recommend and personally would not take vs quality of life. So we don't know if there are any new lesions but I'm going to get the MRI disk to see whether gamma knife is an option, he said it wasn't. He also said that we need to get palliative care involved for down the track.
What do we do now, just sit and wait for the bomb to go off? The onc said we can go out fighting with chemo or have quality?
Its all too much, please what do you think warriors, I need some info quick.
Nahmi from Melbourne
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- July 2, 2012 at 10:43 am
Nahmi, I am really sorry to read this. I don't have any medical info for you, but would like to say that I have some idea of how you might be feeling at the moment.
I remember being in a similar situation in 2009 when my late wife was struggling with liver mets. Unfortunately, she passed away a few months later while participating in a clinical trial of P276-00 (a cyclin-dependent inhibitor). Although this experimental drug did little to prolong her life, I still feel that she made the right choice in fighting melanoma until the very end.
Take care
Frank from Australia
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- July 2, 2012 at 10:43 am
Nahmi, I am really sorry to read this. I don't have any medical info for you, but would like to say that I have some idea of how you might be feeling at the moment.
I remember being in a similar situation in 2009 when my late wife was struggling with liver mets. Unfortunately, she passed away a few months later while participating in a clinical trial of P276-00 (a cyclin-dependent inhibitor). Although this experimental drug did little to prolong her life, I still feel that she made the right choice in fighting melanoma until the very end.
Take care
Frank from Australia
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- July 2, 2012 at 10:53 am
Im sorry Frank, you have been through so much, I can't imagine loosing my husband let alone to such a nasty cancer. I wish there was a clinical trial available to my dad but they're only offering chemo. I don't think he wants to spend the time left knowing that only 10% respond to chemo. If it were me I think I would fight, but that's not my decision at the end of the day. The oncologist did not give us scan results other than telling us WBR and temador did not work, my dad did not ask anymore questions and wasn't game to ask in front of them. I am going to investigate gamma knife and for the moment and do a bit more research on carbo/taxol.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Nahmi from Melbourne
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- July 2, 2012 at 10:53 am
Im sorry Frank, you have been through so much, I can't imagine loosing my husband let alone to such a nasty cancer. I wish there was a clinical trial available to my dad but they're only offering chemo. I don't think he wants to spend the time left knowing that only 10% respond to chemo. If it were me I think I would fight, but that's not my decision at the end of the day. The oncologist did not give us scan results other than telling us WBR and temador did not work, my dad did not ask anymore questions and wasn't game to ask in front of them. I am going to investigate gamma knife and for the moment and do a bit more research on carbo/taxol.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Nahmi from Melbourne
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- July 2, 2012 at 10:53 am
Im sorry Frank, you have been through so much, I can't imagine loosing my husband let alone to such a nasty cancer. I wish there was a clinical trial available to my dad but they're only offering chemo. I don't think he wants to spend the time left knowing that only 10% respond to chemo. If it were me I think I would fight, but that's not my decision at the end of the day. The oncologist did not give us scan results other than telling us WBR and temador did not work, my dad did not ask anymore questions and wasn't game to ask in front of them. I am going to investigate gamma knife and for the moment and do a bit more research on carbo/taxol.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Nahmi from Melbourne
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- July 2, 2012 at 10:43 am
Nahmi, I am really sorry to read this. I don't have any medical info for you, but would like to say that I have some idea of how you might be feeling at the moment.
I remember being in a similar situation in 2009 when my late wife was struggling with liver mets. Unfortunately, she passed away a few months later while participating in a clinical trial of P276-00 (a cyclin-dependent inhibitor). Although this experimental drug did little to prolong her life, I still feel that she made the right choice in fighting melanoma until the very end.
Take care
Frank from Australia
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- July 2, 2012 at 11:52 am
Hi Nahmi,
I'm so sorry that you are at these crossroads. I can give you some input on the Carbo/Taxol – Dave received his first dose in April. He did 3 rounds before we found out (last Thursday) that it was no longer working. I can tell you that his quality of life while on the Chemo has been good (where prior to treatment, it wasn't). We went camping, he stood up as best man in a wedding, life as usual. When he started not feeling well, we knew it was due to the cancer, and not the chemo. Dave is still fighting – he starts IPI on Thursday.
I would strongly suggest that you get the pain/palliative people in place now. I think anybody fighting a stage IV diagnosis would benefit from it. We got in touch with them back in April, and they have been wonderful. They can help with the pain/quality of life issues, and from a caregiver aspect, a lot of support for you.
It's not an easy decision, and in the end, it really has to be his. And please remember to take time for yourself. I know it's easier said than done, but so important.
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers,
Maria
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- July 2, 2012 at 11:53 pm
Maria I'm sorry to hear that the chemo has stopped working on Dave. My dad fortunately has had a good quality of life in this journey so far. Really the only thing that really knocked him around was the WBR and temador (for a week). I know that my dad has already made the decision not to go with chemo. He still feels ok, he can walk and he has no pain.
I can't help wondering if gamma knife is something we could consider?
I'm sad for everyone on this road. My dad is very special to me and part of me doesn't want to give up, but I know that I have to be realistic too at this point. I think my mum also needs the support of palliative care, as a couple they have only spent 6 nights away from each other in 40 years together and there is some fear that she will take her own life.
I have a young family and although I am only around the corner, I cannot watch someone 24/7.
My heart goes out to you all.
Nahmi from Melbourne
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- July 2, 2012 at 11:53 pm
Maria I'm sorry to hear that the chemo has stopped working on Dave. My dad fortunately has had a good quality of life in this journey so far. Really the only thing that really knocked him around was the WBR and temador (for a week). I know that my dad has already made the decision not to go with chemo. He still feels ok, he can walk and he has no pain.
I can't help wondering if gamma knife is something we could consider?
I'm sad for everyone on this road. My dad is very special to me and part of me doesn't want to give up, but I know that I have to be realistic too at this point. I think my mum also needs the support of palliative care, as a couple they have only spent 6 nights away from each other in 40 years together and there is some fear that she will take her own life.
I have a young family and although I am only around the corner, I cannot watch someone 24/7.
My heart goes out to you all.
Nahmi from Melbourne
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- July 2, 2012 at 11:53 pm
Maria I'm sorry to hear that the chemo has stopped working on Dave. My dad fortunately has had a good quality of life in this journey so far. Really the only thing that really knocked him around was the WBR and temador (for a week). I know that my dad has already made the decision not to go with chemo. He still feels ok, he can walk and he has no pain.
I can't help wondering if gamma knife is something we could consider?
I'm sad for everyone on this road. My dad is very special to me and part of me doesn't want to give up, but I know that I have to be realistic too at this point. I think my mum also needs the support of palliative care, as a couple they have only spent 6 nights away from each other in 40 years together and there is some fear that she will take her own life.
I have a young family and although I am only around the corner, I cannot watch someone 24/7.
My heart goes out to you all.
Nahmi from Melbourne
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- July 2, 2012 at 11:52 am
Hi Nahmi,
I'm so sorry that you are at these crossroads. I can give you some input on the Carbo/Taxol – Dave received his first dose in April. He did 3 rounds before we found out (last Thursday) that it was no longer working. I can tell you that his quality of life while on the Chemo has been good (where prior to treatment, it wasn't). We went camping, he stood up as best man in a wedding, life as usual. When he started not feeling well, we knew it was due to the cancer, and not the chemo. Dave is still fighting – he starts IPI on Thursday.
I would strongly suggest that you get the pain/palliative people in place now. I think anybody fighting a stage IV diagnosis would benefit from it. We got in touch with them back in April, and they have been wonderful. They can help with the pain/quality of life issues, and from a caregiver aspect, a lot of support for you.
It's not an easy decision, and in the end, it really has to be his. And please remember to take time for yourself. I know it's easier said than done, but so important.
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers,
Maria
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- July 2, 2012 at 11:52 am
Hi Nahmi,
I'm so sorry that you are at these crossroads. I can give you some input on the Carbo/Taxol – Dave received his first dose in April. He did 3 rounds before we found out (last Thursday) that it was no longer working. I can tell you that his quality of life while on the Chemo has been good (where prior to treatment, it wasn't). We went camping, he stood up as best man in a wedding, life as usual. When he started not feeling well, we knew it was due to the cancer, and not the chemo. Dave is still fighting – he starts IPI on Thursday.
I would strongly suggest that you get the pain/palliative people in place now. I think anybody fighting a stage IV diagnosis would benefit from it. We got in touch with them back in April, and they have been wonderful. They can help with the pain/quality of life issues, and from a caregiver aspect, a lot of support for you.
It's not an easy decision, and in the end, it really has to be his. And please remember to take time for yourself. I know it's easier said than done, but so important.
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers,
Maria
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- July 4, 2012 at 2:40 am
Hi Nahmi,
I am very sorry to hear about your father's condition and I can certainly relate as our family went through the same thing a few months ago. My dad's last treatment was Yervoy (IPI) and he had alot of complications when he got his last dose in November 2011. He was hospitalized for about 10 days and he was very confused and delirious, wasnt able to speak and didnt recognize us. Yervoy caused some swelling in his brain which caused all these symptoms. Fortunately he recovered and we decided as a family to stop treatment after that. He has a mixed response to Yervoy and his lesions are still progressing but as fast. He has many lesions on his leg some which are bleeding continuously. and his leg has to be wrapped. So he is certainly suffering alot and definitely does not have the quality of life that he had before he got sick. It is very hard for me to accept that there is nothing out there that can help him but we also dont want to put him through another drug/ treatment that would make him weaker or cause other problems especially since these drugs are so new and their side effects vary from person to person.
I am sorry I couldnt be much help, I just wanted to let you know that I know what you are going through and there is no right or wrong answer.
Chau
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- July 4, 2012 at 2:40 am
Hi Nahmi,
I am very sorry to hear about your father's condition and I can certainly relate as our family went through the same thing a few months ago. My dad's last treatment was Yervoy (IPI) and he had alot of complications when he got his last dose in November 2011. He was hospitalized for about 10 days and he was very confused and delirious, wasnt able to speak and didnt recognize us. Yervoy caused some swelling in his brain which caused all these symptoms. Fortunately he recovered and we decided as a family to stop treatment after that. He has a mixed response to Yervoy and his lesions are still progressing but as fast. He has many lesions on his leg some which are bleeding continuously. and his leg has to be wrapped. So he is certainly suffering alot and definitely does not have the quality of life that he had before he got sick. It is very hard for me to accept that there is nothing out there that can help him but we also dont want to put him through another drug/ treatment that would make him weaker or cause other problems especially since these drugs are so new and their side effects vary from person to person.
I am sorry I couldnt be much help, I just wanted to let you know that I know what you are going through and there is no right or wrong answer.
Chau
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- July 4, 2012 at 2:40 am
Hi Nahmi,
I am very sorry to hear about your father's condition and I can certainly relate as our family went through the same thing a few months ago. My dad's last treatment was Yervoy (IPI) and he had alot of complications when he got his last dose in November 2011. He was hospitalized for about 10 days and he was very confused and delirious, wasnt able to speak and didnt recognize us. Yervoy caused some swelling in his brain which caused all these symptoms. Fortunately he recovered and we decided as a family to stop treatment after that. He has a mixed response to Yervoy and his lesions are still progressing but as fast. He has many lesions on his leg some which are bleeding continuously. and his leg has to be wrapped. So he is certainly suffering alot and definitely does not have the quality of life that he had before he got sick. It is very hard for me to accept that there is nothing out there that can help him but we also dont want to put him through another drug/ treatment that would make him weaker or cause other problems especially since these drugs are so new and their side effects vary from person to person.
I am sorry I couldnt be much help, I just wanted to let you know that I know what you are going through and there is no right or wrong answer.
Chau
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- February 2, 2013 at 9:53 pm
Chau,
My father finished his yervoy treatments in December. We just put him in the hospital. He is almost non-responsive, delirious, and very confused. Babbles and doesn't seem to be able to track us or know who we are. All his scans, vitals are normal. This is the 1st response that I have seen that is similar to him. Bristol Meyers(drug company) did tell us that there have been reports of mind alterations but it was not in the literature. Can you give me any more info on your father. How long did it last, what did they treat him with.
Thank you,
Lisa
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- February 2, 2013 at 9:53 pm
Chau,
My father finished his yervoy treatments in December. We just put him in the hospital. He is almost non-responsive, delirious, and very confused. Babbles and doesn't seem to be able to track us or know who we are. All his scans, vitals are normal. This is the 1st response that I have seen that is similar to him. Bristol Meyers(drug company) did tell us that there have been reports of mind alterations but it was not in the literature. Can you give me any more info on your father. How long did it last, what did they treat him with.
Thank you,
Lisa
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- February 2, 2013 at 9:53 pm
Chau,
My father finished his yervoy treatments in December. We just put him in the hospital. He is almost non-responsive, delirious, and very confused. Babbles and doesn't seem to be able to track us or know who we are. All his scans, vitals are normal. This is the 1st response that I have seen that is similar to him. Bristol Meyers(drug company) did tell us that there have been reports of mind alterations but it was not in the literature. Can you give me any more info on your father. How long did it last, what did they treat him with.
Thank you,
Lisa
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