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The loss of my husband, Mike
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The loss of my husband, Mike

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    • May 10, 2012 at 11:12 pm
    laurieformike
    Participant

      It has taken me many weeks to be able to post on the board.

      He was going to have more radition on March 7th, but before the went to do Cyber Knife Surgery they wanted to do another MRI. After the MRI they enformed us that he was much worse that the week before, so they felt it would only make him even more worse. So instead he left the hospital to come home for the end of life. Although there was a slight possibility that the Zelboraf would still work, it was hard to realize that it wasn't helping the brain, because it had helped so much in the liver, lung,and limp nodes!

      It has taken me many weeks to be able to post on the board.

      He was going to have more radition on March 7th, but before the went to do Cyber Knife Surgery they wanted to do another MRI. After the MRI they enformed us that he was much worse that the week before, so they felt it would only make him even more worse. So instead he left the hospital to come home for the end of life. Although there was a slight possibility that the Zelboraf would still work, it was hard to realize that it wasn't helping the brain, because it had helped so much in the liver, lung,and limp nodes!

      RIP Cigar Mike 4-3-2012. He made it to his 55 Birthday, 3-25-1957. LOVE YOU FOREVER,

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        • May 10, 2012 at 11:19 pm
        deardad
        Participant

          Dear Laurie,

          Im so sad to hear you've lost Mike. Thank you for letting us all know, it must have been very difficult typing those words, I'm very sorry. It  seems we are loosing many at the moment, it's such an aggressive disease. Mike is now pain free.

          Look after yourself.

          Nahmi from Melbourne

            • May 11, 2012 at 3:10 am
            laurieformike
            Participant

              Thanks Nahmi,

              It is so hard, I'm talking about Melanoma as much as I can. It helps to make people more aware of what Melanoma can do. How it spreads, that the skin is a warning sign for what might be happening inside!

              • May 11, 2012 at 6:49 am
              deardad
              Participant

                I am too Laurie, I tell everyone including GPs about this cancer. My dad's MM mimicked an old age spot so it was almost impossible to diagnose. In fact it was missed 3 times, now he is stage 4 mets to all organs including the brain. He is not symptomatic at the moment but I know things will spiral. It's such a misunderstood disease, even here in Australia where the sun is so strong and a tan is still beautiful. I am going to make it my mission to teach others what I have learned on this website. 

                I am so sad for everyone who is touched by this disease, especially those that have lost loved ones.

                Take care.

                • May 11, 2012 at 6:49 am
                deardad
                Participant

                  I am too Laurie, I tell everyone including GPs about this cancer. My dad's MM mimicked an old age spot so it was almost impossible to diagnose. In fact it was missed 3 times, now he is stage 4 mets to all organs including the brain. He is not symptomatic at the moment but I know things will spiral. It's such a misunderstood disease, even here in Australia where the sun is so strong and a tan is still beautiful. I am going to make it my mission to teach others what I have learned on this website. 

                  I am so sad for everyone who is touched by this disease, especially those that have lost loved ones.

                  Take care.

                  • May 11, 2012 at 6:49 am
                  deardad
                  Participant

                    I am too Laurie, I tell everyone including GPs about this cancer. My dad's MM mimicked an old age spot so it was almost impossible to diagnose. In fact it was missed 3 times, now he is stage 4 mets to all organs including the brain. He is not symptomatic at the moment but I know things will spiral. It's such a misunderstood disease, even here in Australia where the sun is so strong and a tan is still beautiful. I am going to make it my mission to teach others what I have learned on this website. 

                    I am so sad for everyone who is touched by this disease, especially those that have lost loved ones.

                    Take care.

                    • May 11, 2012 at 3:10 am
                    laurieformike
                    Participant

                      Thanks Nahmi,

                      It is so hard, I'm talking about Melanoma as much as I can. It helps to make people more aware of what Melanoma can do. How it spreads, that the skin is a warning sign for what might be happening inside!

                      • May 11, 2012 at 3:10 am
                      laurieformike
                      Participant

                        Thanks Nahmi,

                        It is so hard, I'm talking about Melanoma as much as I can. It helps to make people more aware of what Melanoma can do. How it spreads, that the skin is a warning sign for what might be happening inside!

                      • May 10, 2012 at 11:19 pm
                      deardad
                      Participant

                        Dear Laurie,

                        Im so sad to hear you've lost Mike. Thank you for letting us all know, it must have been very difficult typing those words, I'm very sorry. It  seems we are loosing many at the moment, it's such an aggressive disease. Mike is now pain free.

                        Look after yourself.

                        Nahmi from Melbourne

                        • May 10, 2012 at 11:19 pm
                        deardad
                        Participant

                          Dear Laurie,

                          Im so sad to hear you've lost Mike. Thank you for letting us all know, it must have been very difficult typing those words, I'm very sorry. It  seems we are loosing many at the moment, it's such an aggressive disease. Mike is now pain free.

                          Look after yourself.

                          Nahmi from Melbourne

                          • May 11, 2012 at 12:42 am
                          s Mom
                          Participant

                            So sorry to hear about Mike – I hate this disease.  I'll be praying for you and your family.

                            Bridgette (Jeff's Mom)

                              • May 11, 2012 at 3:04 am
                              laurieformike
                              Participant

                                Thanks Bridgette,

                                Read profile, way to go after it Jeff, back in the day that's what they did wait and watch. That was what happened with Mike.

                                • May 11, 2012 at 3:04 am
                                laurieformike
                                Participant

                                  Thanks Bridgette,

                                  Read profile, way to go after it Jeff, back in the day that's what they did wait and watch. That was what happened with Mike.

                                  • May 11, 2012 at 3:04 am
                                  laurieformike
                                  Participant

                                    Thanks Bridgette,

                                    Read profile, way to go after it Jeff, back in the day that's what they did wait and watch. That was what happened with Mike.

                                  • May 11, 2012 at 12:42 am
                                  s Mom
                                  Participant

                                    So sorry to hear about Mike – I hate this disease.  I'll be praying for you and your family.

                                    Bridgette (Jeff's Mom)

                                    • May 11, 2012 at 12:42 am
                                    s Mom
                                    Participant

                                      So sorry to hear about Mike – I hate this disease.  I'll be praying for you and your family.

                                      Bridgette (Jeff's Mom)

                                      • May 11, 2012 at 2:59 am
                                      Phil S
                                      Participant
                                        Laurie, I am so sorry for your loss, it sounds like Mike gave it the best fight, and now he is at peace! Please know that we are thinking of you and hope your wonderful memories provide healing in the tough months ahead! God Bless and take good care of yourself, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                        • May 11, 2012 at 2:59 am
                                        Phil S
                                        Participant
                                          Laurie, I am so sorry for your loss, it sounds like Mike gave it the best fight, and now he is at peace! Please know that we are thinking of you and hope your wonderful memories provide healing in the tough months ahead! God Bless and take good care of yourself, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                          • May 11, 2012 at 2:59 am
                                          Phil S
                                          Participant
                                            Laurie, I am so sorry for your loss, it sounds like Mike gave it the best fight, and now he is at peace! Please know that we are thinking of you and hope your wonderful memories provide healing in the tough months ahead! God Bless and take good care of yourself, Valerie (Phil’s wife)
                                            • May 11, 2012 at 3:13 am
                                            hope4cure1
                                            Participant

                                              Laurie, I am sorry to hear of Mike's passing.  You guys did all you could and  I know you supported him every step of the way.   You'll be in my prayers as you walk with your grief to a new peace.

                                              Hope

                                              • May 11, 2012 at 3:13 am
                                              hope4cure1
                                              Participant

                                                Laurie, I am sorry to hear of Mike's passing.  You guys did all you could and  I know you supported him every step of the way.   You'll be in my prayers as you walk with your grief to a new peace.

                                                Hope

                                                  • May 11, 2012 at 3:58 am
                                                  laurieformike
                                                  Participant

                                                    Valerie and hope4cure1,

                                                    Keep up the good fight for all of us that had loved ones who didn't make it. God Bless!

                                                    Thanks you for your post!

                                                    • May 11, 2012 at 3:58 am
                                                    laurieformike
                                                    Participant

                                                      Valerie and hope4cure1,

                                                      Keep up the good fight for all of us that had loved ones who didn't make it. God Bless!

                                                      Thanks you for your post!

                                                      • May 11, 2012 at 3:58 am
                                                      laurieformike
                                                      Participant

                                                        Valerie and hope4cure1,

                                                        Keep up the good fight for all of us that had loved ones who didn't make it. God Bless!

                                                        Thanks you for your post!

                                                      • May 11, 2012 at 3:13 am
                                                      hope4cure1
                                                      Participant

                                                        Laurie, I am sorry to hear of Mike's passing.  You guys did all you could and  I know you supported him every step of the way.   You'll be in my prayers as you walk with your grief to a new peace.

                                                        Hope

                                                        • May 11, 2012 at 10:08 am
                                                        aldakota22
                                                        Participant

                                                          Very sorry for your loss.Always a bummer to read such news.Prayers go out to you.  Al

                                                          • May 11, 2012 at 10:08 am
                                                          aldakota22
                                                          Participant

                                                            Very sorry for your loss.Always a bummer to read such news.Prayers go out to you.  Al

                                                            • May 11, 2012 at 10:08 am
                                                            aldakota22
                                                            Participant

                                                              Very sorry for your loss.Always a bummer to read such news.Prayers go out to you.  Al

                                                              • May 11, 2012 at 1:16 pm
                                                              lhaley
                                                              Participant

                                                                I am so sorry that Mike passed away.  Surround yourself in good memories and know that he is no longer in pain. 

                                                                There is a trial with Zelboraf for those with brain mets yet I have heard of to many where their brain mets weren't touched at all with this drug. 

                                                                Sending cyber hugs and thoughts to you,

                                                                Linda

                                                                • May 11, 2012 at 1:16 pm
                                                                lhaley
                                                                Participant

                                                                  I am so sorry that Mike passed away.  Surround yourself in good memories and know that he is no longer in pain. 

                                                                  There is a trial with Zelboraf for those with brain mets yet I have heard of to many where their brain mets weren't touched at all with this drug. 

                                                                  Sending cyber hugs and thoughts to you,

                                                                  Linda

                                                                  • May 11, 2012 at 1:16 pm
                                                                  lhaley
                                                                  Participant

                                                                    I am so sorry that Mike passed away.  Surround yourself in good memories and know that he is no longer in pain. 

                                                                    There is a trial with Zelboraf for those with brain mets yet I have heard of to many where their brain mets weren't touched at all with this drug. 

                                                                    Sending cyber hugs and thoughts to you,

                                                                    Linda

                                                                    • May 11, 2012 at 1:17 pm
                                                                    Gene_S
                                                                    Participant

                                                                      Hello Laurie,

                                                                      So sorry to hear of the loss of another great warrior.  You and the family will be in my prayers.

                                                                      Take good care of yourself.  Thanks also for spreading the word about this horrible disease it shows you are still in the fight to help in Mike's name.  May it help to bring some peace to you as well.

                                                                      Judy (loving wife and caregiver to Gene)

                                                                      • May 11, 2012 at 1:17 pm
                                                                      Gene_S
                                                                      Participant

                                                                        Hello Laurie,

                                                                        So sorry to hear of the loss of another great warrior.  You and the family will be in my prayers.

                                                                        Take good care of yourself.  Thanks also for spreading the word about this horrible disease it shows you are still in the fight to help in Mike's name.  May it help to bring some peace to you as well.

                                                                        Judy (loving wife and caregiver to Gene)

                                                                        • May 11, 2012 at 1:17 pm
                                                                        Gene_S
                                                                        Participant

                                                                          Hello Laurie,

                                                                          So sorry to hear of the loss of another great warrior.  You and the family will be in my prayers.

                                                                          Take good care of yourself.  Thanks also for spreading the word about this horrible disease it shows you are still in the fight to help in Mike's name.  May it help to bring some peace to you as well.

                                                                          Judy (loving wife and caregiver to Gene)

                                                                            • May 11, 2012 at 1:55 pm
                                                                            NYKaren
                                                                            Participant

                                                                              Dear Laurie,

                                                                              I am so very, very sorry.  You and your family are in my prayers.  I'm glad that Mike made it to his birthday.

                                                                              love,

                                                                              karen

                                                                              • May 11, 2012 at 1:55 pm
                                                                              NYKaren
                                                                              Participant

                                                                                Dear Laurie,

                                                                                I am so very, very sorry.  You and your family are in my prayers.  I'm glad that Mike made it to his birthday.

                                                                                love,

                                                                                karen

                                                                                • May 11, 2012 at 1:55 pm
                                                                                NYKaren
                                                                                Participant

                                                                                  Dear Laurie,

                                                                                  I am so very, very sorry.  You and your family are in my prayers.  I'm glad that Mike made it to his birthday.

                                                                                  love,

                                                                                  karen

                                                                                • May 11, 2012 at 2:18 pm
                                                                                justlittleoleme
                                                                                Participant

                                                                                  Laurie,

                                                                                  So sorry for your loss.  Hugs and prayers.  May the Lord comfort you during this season of grief.

                                                                                  barb

                                                                                  • May 11, 2012 at 2:18 pm
                                                                                  justlittleoleme
                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                    Laurie,

                                                                                    So sorry for your loss.  Hugs and prayers.  May the Lord comfort you during this season of grief.

                                                                                    barb

                                                                                    • May 11, 2012 at 2:18 pm
                                                                                    justlittleoleme
                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                      Laurie,

                                                                                      So sorry for your loss.  Hugs and prayers.  May the Lord comfort you during this season of grief.

                                                                                      barb

                                                                                      • May 11, 2012 at 2:56 pm
                                                                                      Karin L
                                                                                      Participant

                                                                                        I am so very sorry Laurie.  I read this yesterday and I get so angry I don't know what to say.  I don't understand this beast and I hate it even more.  Godspeed Mike.

                                                                                        Karin

                                                                                          • May 11, 2012 at 7:11 pm
                                                                                          yoopergirl
                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                            So sorry about your husband losing his battle with this awful cancer. Know you and your family will be in my prayers. I too wish they would find a cure or a treatment that would work for everyone that has Melanoma. Why some and not others?

                                                                                            • May 11, 2012 at 7:11 pm
                                                                                            yoopergirl
                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                              So sorry about your husband losing his battle with this awful cancer. Know you and your family will be in my prayers. I too wish they would find a cure or a treatment that would work for everyone that has Melanoma. Why some and not others?

                                                                                              • May 11, 2012 at 7:11 pm
                                                                                              yoopergirl
                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                So sorry about your husband losing his battle with this awful cancer. Know you and your family will be in my prayers. I too wish they would find a cure or a treatment that would work for everyone that has Melanoma. Why some and not others?

                                                                                              • May 11, 2012 at 2:56 pm
                                                                                              Karin L
                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                I am so very sorry Laurie.  I read this yesterday and I get so angry I don't know what to say.  I don't understand this beast and I hate it even more.  Godspeed Mike.

                                                                                                Karin

                                                                                                • May 11, 2012 at 2:56 pm
                                                                                                Karin L
                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                  I am so very sorry Laurie.  I read this yesterday and I get so angry I don't know what to say.  I don't understand this beast and I hate it even more.  Godspeed Mike.

                                                                                                  Karin

                                                                                                  • May 12, 2012 at 6:07 am
                                                                                                  FormerCaregiver
                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                    Laurie, I am truly saddened to read this. Please accept my sincere condolences.

                                                                                                    Unfortunately, systemic treatments for late stage melanoma have a long way to go before they can be considered to be really effective. Therefore, much more research continues to be needed to determine why they will eventually stop working in the majority of cases.

                                                                                                    You are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                                                                    Frank from Australia

                                                                                                    • May 12, 2012 at 6:07 am
                                                                                                    FormerCaregiver
                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                      Laurie, I am truly saddened to read this. Please accept my sincere condolences.

                                                                                                      Unfortunately, systemic treatments for late stage melanoma have a long way to go before they can be considered to be really effective. Therefore, much more research continues to be needed to determine why they will eventually stop working in the majority of cases.

                                                                                                      You are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                                                                      Frank from Australia

                                                                                                      • May 12, 2012 at 6:07 am
                                                                                                      FormerCaregiver
                                                                                                      Participant

                                                                                                        Laurie, I am truly saddened to read this. Please accept my sincere condolences.

                                                                                                        Unfortunately, systemic treatments for late stage melanoma have a long way to go before they can be considered to be really effective. Therefore, much more research continues to be needed to determine why they will eventually stop working in the majority of cases.

                                                                                                        You are in my thoughts and prayers.

                                                                                                        Frank from Australia

                                                                                                        • May 12, 2012 at 11:25 pm
                                                                                                        MeNDave
                                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                                          I am so, so sorry for your loss.  Your family is in my prayers….

                                                                                                          Maria

                                                                                                            • May 14, 2012 at 8:39 pm
                                                                                                            laurieformike
                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                              Thank you all for you hugs, and well wishes. Mike was so blowen away, when he found out that his Melanoma had returned in his organs. I have learned that life is too short to be passive about your health, even the smallest of signs. He was always using sunscreen, but not so much so, when we were young. As a sun lover my self I have changed my thinking. Enjoy life with the sun and water but be smart!

                                                                                                              • May 14, 2012 at 9:05 pm
                                                                                                              kluft
                                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                                Dear Laura, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband to Melanoma.. I lost my husband to luekemia several years ago..

                                                                                                                Also I was diagnosed and began my fight with Melanoma on April 3rd, the same day Mike lost his fight.. I will continue the fight….Karen

                                                                                                                • May 16, 2012 at 8:30 am
                                                                                                                laurieformike
                                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                                  Karen,

                                                                                                                  Do your very best to overcome this monster, you can be a great fighter for us also, we need to have more stores of fighting the good fight.

                                                                                                                  Laurie

                                                                                                                  • May 16, 2012 at 8:30 am
                                                                                                                  laurieformike
                                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                                    Karen,

                                                                                                                    Do your very best to overcome this monster, you can be a great fighter for us also, we need to have more stores of fighting the good fight.

                                                                                                                    Laurie

                                                                                                                    • May 16, 2012 at 8:30 am
                                                                                                                    laurieformike
                                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                                      Karen,

                                                                                                                      Do your very best to overcome this monster, you can be a great fighter for us also, we need to have more stores of fighting the good fight.

                                                                                                                      Laurie

                                                                                                                      • May 14, 2012 at 9:05 pm
                                                                                                                      kluft
                                                                                                                      Participant

                                                                                                                        Dear Laura, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband to Melanoma.. I lost my husband to luekemia several years ago..

                                                                                                                        Also I was diagnosed and began my fight with Melanoma on April 3rd, the same day Mike lost his fight.. I will continue the fight….Karen

                                                                                                                        • May 14, 2012 at 9:05 pm
                                                                                                                        kluft
                                                                                                                        Participant

                                                                                                                          Dear Laura, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband to Melanoma.. I lost my husband to luekemia several years ago..

                                                                                                                          Also I was diagnosed and began my fight with Melanoma on April 3rd, the same day Mike lost his fight.. I will continue the fight….Karen

                                                                                                                          • May 14, 2012 at 8:39 pm
                                                                                                                          laurieformike
                                                                                                                          Participant

                                                                                                                            Thank you all for you hugs, and well wishes. Mike was so blowen away, when he found out that his Melanoma had returned in his organs. I have learned that life is too short to be passive about your health, even the smallest of signs. He was always using sunscreen, but not so much so, when we were young. As a sun lover my self I have changed my thinking. Enjoy life with the sun and water but be smart!

                                                                                                                            • May 14, 2012 at 8:39 pm
                                                                                                                            laurieformike
                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                              Thank you all for you hugs, and well wishes. Mike was so blowen away, when he found out that his Melanoma had returned in his organs. I have learned that life is too short to be passive about your health, even the smallest of signs. He was always using sunscreen, but not so much so, when we were young. As a sun lover my self I have changed my thinking. Enjoy life with the sun and water but be smart!

                                                                                                                            • May 12, 2012 at 11:25 pm
                                                                                                                            MeNDave
                                                                                                                            Participant

                                                                                                                              I am so, so sorry for your loss.  Your family is in my prayers….

                                                                                                                              Maria

                                                                                                                              • May 12, 2012 at 11:25 pm
                                                                                                                              MeNDave
                                                                                                                              Participant

                                                                                                                                I am so, so sorry for your loss.  Your family is in my prayers….

                                                                                                                                Maria

                                                                                                                                • May 17, 2012 at 4:02 pm
                                                                                                                                applewhitegroup
                                                                                                                                Participant

                                                                                                                                  I am so sorry to hear about Mike. I just lost my father a few months ago.

                                                                                                                                  http://www.melanoma.org/community/douglas-applewhite

                                                                                                                                  Now, I hope not to fall victim to the beast, I have been a sun worshiper all my life until a few months ago. After my dad died I found it helpfull to try to help others be aware and raise money for melanoma research.

                                                                                                                                  • May 17, 2012 at 4:02 pm
                                                                                                                                  applewhitegroup
                                                                                                                                  Participant

                                                                                                                                    I am so sorry to hear about Mike. I just lost my father a few months ago.

                                                                                                                                    http://www.melanoma.org/community/douglas-applewhite

                                                                                                                                    Now, I hope not to fall victim to the beast, I have been a sun worshiper all my life until a few months ago. After my dad died I found it helpfull to try to help others be aware and raise money for melanoma research.

                                                                                                                                    • May 17, 2012 at 4:02 pm
                                                                                                                                    applewhitegroup
                                                                                                                                    Participant

                                                                                                                                      I am so sorry to hear about Mike. I just lost my father a few months ago.

                                                                                                                                      http://www.melanoma.org/community/douglas-applewhite

                                                                                                                                      Now, I hope not to fall victim to the beast, I have been a sun worshiper all my life until a few months ago. After my dad died I found it helpfull to try to help others be aware and raise money for melanoma research.

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