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Sudden changes since Friday: update

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    • March 18, 2013 at 6:00 pm
    meeshka6059
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      update: now dad is not talking at all. he does grunt, cough, and sigh. i think that is his way of communicating. he makes good eye contact. i am pretty sure he hears us and understands. i am taking all of your comments to heart and it is comforting. thank you. i appreciate it and i am grateful.

      mom and i are embracing each other and filling their home with love.

      blessings and love, ~michelle

       

      update: now dad is not talking at all. he does grunt, cough, and sigh. i think that is his way of communicating. he makes good eye contact. i am pretty sure he hears us and understands. i am taking all of your comments to heart and it is comforting. thank you. i appreciate it and i am grateful.

      mom and i are embracing each other and filling their home with love.

      blessings and love, ~michelle

       

      Suddenly Dad is too weak to get out of bed. He can barely talk now. He is off of all treatment. Hospice is on board and full time aids. We are so sad but there is a lot of love surrounding us.

      We wish we knew how long. No one knows.

      We wish he could tell us what he is thinking. He either can't. Or won't.

      This is so hard.

      Sending love and light to all. ~Michelle

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        • March 18, 2013 at 6:32 pm
        natasha
        Participant

          My aunt who grew me up had cancer  , couple of last days she was unconscious and did not realise what was going on.

          Suddenly she opened eyes once and said :'' I am afraid of duying ..''

          I said her – it is not death ,it is beginning of new life. That night she passed away.

          I saw her in my dream later – smiling and happy ..

          My heart goes out for you ..

          I am sending you my love  . We never dye , we will live with God forever

            • March 18, 2013 at 6:43 pm
            meeshka6059
            Participant

              bless your heart for that message natasha. thank you. ~m

              • March 18, 2013 at 6:43 pm
              meeshka6059
              Participant

                bless your heart for that message natasha. thank you. ~m

                • March 18, 2013 at 6:43 pm
                meeshka6059
                Participant

                  bless your heart for that message natasha. thank you. ~m

                • March 18, 2013 at 6:32 pm
                natasha
                Participant

                  My aunt who grew me up had cancer  , couple of last days she was unconscious and did not realise what was going on.

                  Suddenly she opened eyes once and said :'' I am afraid of duying ..''

                  I said her – it is not death ,it is beginning of new life. That night she passed away.

                  I saw her in my dream later – smiling and happy ..

                  My heart goes out for you ..

                  I am sending you my love  . We never dye , we will live with God forever

                  • March 18, 2013 at 6:32 pm
                  natasha
                  Participant

                    My aunt who grew me up had cancer  , couple of last days she was unconscious and did not realise what was going on.

                    Suddenly she opened eyes once and said :'' I am afraid of duying ..''

                    I said her – it is not death ,it is beginning of new life. That night she passed away.

                    I saw her in my dream later – smiling and happy ..

                    My heart goes out for you ..

                    I am sending you my love  . We never dye , we will live with God forever

                    • March 18, 2013 at 9:41 pm
                    susanr
                    Participant

                      Oh Michelle,  I am so sorry….I truly mean it.  I know i told you this but know exactly what you are going through.  I hope your Dad is comfortable.  He may not be telling you what he thinks because maybe he don't want to worry you and he sounds like a strong man.  Give him the right to speak or not speak…give him the control.  Just let him know you love him and we all will meet up again in a better place.  Like I said before,  grant him his wishes.  If he want s to go to the doctor then do it.  Don't let hospice or the doctors dictate.  The word hospice is scary to us. Let him know that he can change the staus and go to a doctor if he wants or if he wants The man upstairs to take the path.

                      I am sorry.

                       

                      Susan…Sister of Peter who entered heaven 12/6/2012

                        • March 19, 2013 at 9:02 am
                        deardad
                        Participant
                          Im sorry Michelle, its a very sad time, i really understand what you are going through. My dad couldnt communicate at the end either but let him know you love him and your there. Knowing they are not alone and lived i am told is very comforting. My thoughts are with you at this time. Nahmi
                          • March 19, 2013 at 9:02 am
                          deardad
                          Participant
                            Im sorry Michelle, its a very sad time, i really understand what you are going through. My dad couldnt communicate at the end either but let him know you love him and your there. Knowing they are not alone and lived i am told is very comforting. My thoughts are with you at this time. Nahmi
                            • March 19, 2013 at 9:02 am
                            deardad
                            Participant
                              Im sorry Michelle, its a very sad time, i really understand what you are going through. My dad couldnt communicate at the end either but let him know you love him and your there. Knowing they are not alone and lived i am told is very comforting. My thoughts are with you at this time. Nahmi
                            • March 18, 2013 at 9:41 pm
                            susanr
                            Participant

                              Oh Michelle,  I am so sorry….I truly mean it.  I know i told you this but know exactly what you are going through.  I hope your Dad is comfortable.  He may not be telling you what he thinks because maybe he don't want to worry you and he sounds like a strong man.  Give him the right to speak or not speak…give him the control.  Just let him know you love him and we all will meet up again in a better place.  Like I said before,  grant him his wishes.  If he want s to go to the doctor then do it.  Don't let hospice or the doctors dictate.  The word hospice is scary to us. Let him know that he can change the staus and go to a doctor if he wants or if he wants The man upstairs to take the path.

                              I am sorry.

                               

                              Susan…Sister of Peter who entered heaven 12/6/2012

                              • March 18, 2013 at 9:41 pm
                              susanr
                              Participant

                                Oh Michelle,  I am so sorry….I truly mean it.  I know i told you this but know exactly what you are going through.  I hope your Dad is comfortable.  He may not be telling you what he thinks because maybe he don't want to worry you and he sounds like a strong man.  Give him the right to speak or not speak…give him the control.  Just let him know you love him and we all will meet up again in a better place.  Like I said before,  grant him his wishes.  If he want s to go to the doctor then do it.  Don't let hospice or the doctors dictate.  The word hospice is scary to us. Let him know that he can change the staus and go to a doctor if he wants or if he wants The man upstairs to take the path.

                                I am sorry.

                                 

                                Susan…Sister of Peter who entered heaven 12/6/2012

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