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One year – message of hope for all

Forums General Melanoma Community One year – message of hope for all

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    Polymath
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      Aloha warriors, sorry for my absence from the board.  I needed time away from thinking about the melanoma and just get on with life.  

      I just got results from my most recent scan, and I am celebrating a full year since my last surgery which cleaned house of my major tumors.  All clear, with no new progression.  I have been off all medications, for the year, and want to offer a message of hope.

      Old-timers know I battled hard for four years.  I did it all.  Surgeries, radiation, targeted therapies, and immunotherapies.  It seemed nothing would stop the beast.  I was just beating it back, waiting for the next drug treatment approval.  Right up until my biggest surgery last December, which removed my spleen, engulfed with a grapefruit sized tumor, plus two other abdominal tumors, I had mostly non-stop progression. 

      I have been lucky in that along with good care, my tumors have not attacked vital organs, but had non-stop invasive tumors pop up in many areas.  I have plenty of scars and damage, but here I am, feeling great when the statistics had me most likely dead by now.  It seems that although I was thought to be a non-responder to most everything, maybe, there is some lasting impact from the treatments.

      Rather than get into any more details, I want to just thank those who supported me, and shared their wisdom and experience throughout these years.  If not for the advice I received here, I doubt I would be in this wondrous position.  I also feel so badly for those we lost, and hope their families are doing as well as possible. I hate this insidious beast.

      I've been lucky, and have been my own advocate for my care.  Not fallen for the natural remedy peddlers who prey off of peoples fears.  I found a wonderful specialist who saved my life.  While this has just been one year, and I know I may need to go to battle again someday, I just want to wish all my brothers and sisters here, a wonderful holiday season.  Hang in there, be strong, and be well.

      Gary

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        J.bun
        Participant

          Thanks for sharing your story Gary. Best wishes to you for continued clear reports/tests  next year, and in all the years to come. 

            Polymath
            Participant

              Mahalo nui loa. 

              Thanks for the well wishes, and best to you on your journey.

            sister of patient
            Participant

              This is a great post and I'm so happy for you Gary!! May you NEVER need to go to battle again!!!! Best wishes always.

              Barb

               

                Polymath
                Participant

                  Mahalo Barb, your support and good wishes are appreciated. 

                  My hope is that everyone can win their battle.

                jennunicorn
                Participant

                  I am SO excited and happy to hear this Gary! Wishing you a wonderful holiday season as well and a very happy and healthy new year! 

                    Polymath
                    Participant

                      Hey Jenn,  Yes, the news is good, and my original goal of seeing my daughter graduate high school seems to be on the way to reality.  Now college (I'll have to figure out how to pay for it next).  I'm so grateful for your support of not just me, but the way you have supported all on this board.  You are truly amazing, and I am so happy you are also doing so well now.  Best wishes for the holidays and the future for you and yours.

                      jennunicorn
                      Participant

                        Thank you Gary, you and other wonderful veterans here inspired me to not only be strong for myself but to offer support and strength to others that need it too. Mele Kalikimaka to you and your family!  

                      Bubbles
                      Participant

                        Lovely to hear from you, Gary!!!!  Wonderful news indeed!!  Enjoy your holidays.  Much love, c

                          Polymath
                          Participant

                            Celeste, 

                            Oh my, what can I say? While I suffered from survivor guilt, and took a break from the board, you are the most amazing, shining example of support and care for others imaginable.  Day after day you are here, helping others in so many ways.  It has been specifically, your advice, and expertise, that allowed me to be where I am today. My family and I are so grateful.

                            Honestly, losing Josh & Paul back-to-back just knocked the wind out of my sails.  It made it increasingly difficult to come here everyday.  I am in awe of your strength, and compassion.  I don't know how you do it, but I will strive to come back more often, and lend a helpful hand, when I can.  Warmest Aloha to you and yours.

                            Bubbles
                            Participant

                              Oh, Gary.  Thanks for your sweet words.  You are too kind.  I think about my boys (and Artie and Patti and ever too many others) every. single. day!  It hurts.  Though I know it is nothing compared to the pain and loss their dear families feel.  Still….I figure….those we love are not really gone if they live forever in us.  That is why I keep doing what I can.  That….and the wonderful news that is your LIFE and world and daughter and graduations and new adventures!!!!  THAT is something real and lovely and worth celebrating indeed!  Take care my friend.  Love, c

                            Mark_DC
                            Participant

                              Well done Gary. You posted a month or so back and promised an update, and since you were not giving details i was worried you had bad news. Its a great sign and your struggles have given me hope, also how you were posting despite the grapefruit sized tumour and trying to help others, and your bravery and stoicism when treatmetns did not seem to work so you had to go for more surgery. Am very happy and thanks for the help you have given me and others on this board. Best wishes Mark

                                Polymath
                                Participant

                                  Mark, Thanks so much for all your good words.  You flatter me too much.  I'm just a regular guy, and doing battle is a journey that each one finds his or her own road.  All I can say is don't dwell on the negative.  You only feed the beast.  I had some close calls, but really, despite it all, I've mostly just been lucky. Focus on living, not dying.  I wish you the very best in your personal struggle.  You are positive minded, and that will take you very far.  Enjoy the holidays and hope to see your postings more often, as I promise to visit here more often in 2018.

                                BrianP
                                Participant

                                  Awesone post Gary!  So happy to hear you are doing so well.  Wishing you a wonderful holidays and a melanoma free 2018.

                                  Brian

                                    Polymath
                                    Participant

                                      Nice to hear from you Brian.  Hoping things are going well for you.  As I recall, you were getting ahead of the curve last time I checked.  It's a very nice place to be, although difficult, at least for me, to continue to see so many suffer.  Your support has been so valuable, in keeping my head up, and to live, not die.  Mahalo for your kind support and best to you this holiday season and always.

                                    TexMelanomex
                                    Participant

                                      Hell Yes Gary!! Great man, absolutely great! Warrior on and live life to the fullest, may you always be NED!!

                                        Polymath
                                        Participant

                                          Thanks Tex, here's to hoping you beat the heck out of this nasty disease.  Wishing you and yours, the very best.

                                        maperny
                                        Participant

                                          This has truly made me very happy to read.  My son and I lost Juan in April and this was a very hard year with so many losses for our community but I drop in now and then to see how people are doing.  Christmas is an emotional time but I am so glad I did come on the board just to read this post.  There is hope and there will be fewer and fewer losses, I know that, warriors like yourself and wonderful angels like Celeste give everyone hope.  Bless you and Happy Christmas

                                          Maria

                                            Polymath
                                            Participant

                                              Thank you Maria for both your kind words, and stay here and offer support, after your devastating loss.  I can't even begin to imagine the pain.  Wishing you and your son, a hopeful Christmas season, and that abundant blessings come your way.

                                              Aloha, Gary

                                            ed williams
                                            Participant

                                              Hi Gary, so glad to hear that you are doing great!!! I have to agree with you that it was tough after the loss of so many great people in the last couple of years around the forum. It makes hearing great news like yours so so important. I just came back from a little family vacation at Disney where my now 9 year old daughter Kora-Lee had a blast. I remember so very clearly 4.5 years ago, just wanting a little more time to watch some of her bench marks in life, now I am starting to have confidence that it will come true!!! So happy for you and your family and I wish you continued good health. Ed

                                                Polymath
                                                Participant

                                                  I had hoped to hear from you Ed.  You have also been such an amazing source of information and support.  Your ability to calmly, and quite often with humor, direct folks to enlightening information is a godsend.

                                                  I'm especially happy to hear you are enjoying your daughter, and seeing her grow up.  That was my biggest fear, and the the motivator that kept me strong.  Going from a heartbreaking announcement, at age 13, to now seeing a young woman, at 18 and ready to go off to college has made life worth fighting for.  Best to you and yours up North, and enjoy your holidays together.

                                                Jahendry12
                                                Participant

                                                  Thanks for posting Gary. That's great news!  Enjoy the holidays and I wish you the best of everything in 2018 and beyond. 

                                                  Julie

                                                    Polymath
                                                    Participant

                                                      Mahalo Julie,

                                                      Very best wishes to you and yours.

                                                      Gary

                                                    Mat
                                                    Participant

                                                      Gary, awesome!  Looking forward to your December 2018 update.

                                                        Polymath
                                                        Participant

                                                          Yeah Baby, that's what we're talking about.  And I'll be especially happy to hear from you then too.

                                                          For now, best holiday wishes to you and your family.  Stay well.

                                                          Gary

                                                        jbronicki
                                                        Participant

                                                          That's the way to start the holiday season Gary!  So nice to read this, congrats on the 1 year mark from last surgery and many hugs Gary!  That's a lot to go through but to read your words is a joy.

                                                            Polymath
                                                            Participant

                                                              Mahalo nui loa Jackie.  Hoping your 2018 is happy and you are doing well.  I'll be hanging around here more next year.  Hope to catch up with everyone''s journey.

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