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On having a good day.

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      Today was a good day! Not because anything changed with me, but because I let myself have a really good day! I spent time with family, took a short road trip, and for several hours I "didn't have" cancer. Don't get me wrong this wasn't denial, this was simply embracing life and living in the moment rather than the future or the past.

      I'm sure many of us have these days and this isn't something novel but I think its a good reminder that we CAN have these days. In fact, I want to have many more days just like this! I want to harness this in some way and be more present and in the moment every single day. In many ways I believe this is how we beat cancer, perhaps in the most important way this is how we beat cancer. I have wrestled with the idea of physically beating cancer but what if nothing else changed? What if I became NED and I learned nothing from it? What if I went back to the usual grind of stress, living to work, and deprioritizing the most important things in life…I will have learned nothing from this. No way amigos, that isn't for me.

      If this teaches me anything, it absolutely has to be that everything in my life needs to be repriotized. No more guilt for taking time for simple things, no stress about that work project that "must" get done right this second and NOT doing it right now, no hard feelings because I wanted to hang out and stare at some trees, or birds flittering around, talking to people a little longer, or just listening to the world around me. Live, live right now in this moment and be glad you did!



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          Love it!  My New Years resolution which I strive to perfect every single day – 'I choose to live in the present moment.  When my mind wanders to the past or the future, I gently bring it back to the now. For it is here that I am alive. It is here where life truly lives.'


            Just perfect. I think Jake does this very well❤️❤️  The more good days you have the better you are no matter what:) 

            Keep it up! 



              Word! Glad you had a good day. I remember at time of diagnosis I was so shocked for so long I found it hard to enjoy anything… you have a much better approach!


                Absolutely spot on! It does, it seems, take a concerted effort to re-arrange your priorities when you're thinking about melanoma 24/7. Being able to enjoy life makes a huge difference, in my opinion. At the very least, it makes people wonder what you're smiling at!

                Chris R
                  Amen. The reality is that anyone could be hit by a truck before the day ends.

                  A melanoma diagnosis cannot help but make one face their mortality. While I have responded well to treatment and am officially in full remission as of today, I certainly will never take another day for granted. Sunrises are just that much more beautiful.

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