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Oh my goodness

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    Noramott
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    I was just on here a couple of weeks ago asking for help for a friend that was diagnosed.  My husband passed away with melanoma 7 1/2 years ago, my mother passed away with it 37 years ago, my sister had one removed 17 years ago and thankfully is still with me.  Soooo, I go to the dermatologist every 3-4 months as a precaution because of the history and I have two kids, ages 15 and 12 ( the 15 year old already has had one removed between his butt cheeks…not a good experience for us or him).  Anyway, I went today and he removed a basal cell one, he thinks, but then said he ha

    I was just on here a couple of weeks ago asking for help for a friend that was diagnosed.  My husband passed away with melanoma 7 1/2 years ago, my mother passed away with it 37 years ago, my sister had one removed 17 years ago and thankfully is still with me.  Soooo, I go to the dermatologist every 3-4 months as a precaution because of the history and I have two kids, ages 15 and 12 ( the 15 year old already has had one removed between his butt cheeks…not a good experience for us or him).  Anyway, I went today and he removed a basal cell one, he thinks, but then said he has been wrong before and if it is a melanoma, it was caught early.  I wasn't worried.  I know that catching it early is the key, but all of the sudden it has hit me.  OH MY.  So pray.  You all don't know me, but just pray…for my kids….I am not scared, but then again, kind of…………………

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      JakeinNY
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      Hi. No point in worrying as it doesn't do any good.

      But, hopefully, it will be fine, and then, can you do me a favor??? Go to a skin cancer specialist and let him or her check out your skin every 3 months.  General dermatologists see patients with acne, warts, poison ivy, exczema, etc., etc. along with a number of cases of skin cancer. Go to a place where all that they examine is skin cancers. Your chances of them missing something is much much lower.

      Best wishes.

      Write back with the good news.

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      JakeinNY
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      Hi. No point in worrying as it doesn't do any good.

      But, hopefully, it will be fine, and then, can you do me a favor??? Go to a skin cancer specialist and let him or her check out your skin every 3 months.  General dermatologists see patients with acne, warts, poison ivy, exczema, etc., etc. along with a number of cases of skin cancer. Go to a place where all that they examine is skin cancers. Your chances of them missing something is much much lower.

      Best wishes.

      Write back with the good news.

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        Noramott
        Participant

        I actually do go every 3 months which really ends up being closer to 4 months because so hard to get into him.  I go have have the regular checks just like I have had one only because of my family history.  The doctor  has photos, uggg, of my moles and of all parts of my body. (I try not to look up when he is looking at the slides..haha..because I don't know which part I might see:) )  Proactive is the key and unfortunately, I learned the hard way.  I already take my 15 year old son and my 12 year old will start going maybe this next summer.  I am teaching them, hopefully, that this is what they will do the rest of their lives.

        One time, my derm was over this clinic for other doctors to come and see certain afflictions. My doctor was in charge of getting people to participate in it.  Oh there were some patients that my heart went out too, and here I sat, nothing visible on me.  But the reason he wanted me to be seen by these doctors was to say, hey don't forget me, who has few moles and actually look like I shouldn't be "worried about" when thinking of melanoma,  just because I have only about 8 moles total, my chances are better than the normal person to have one because of history. 

        I also agree on the choice of doctors.  I go to one at Vanderbilt.  I don't mess with these local ones which as you say and I agree, see minor things.  That is what my husband did.  Some men can be hard headed and won't  go past the city limits of our small area.  Local was good enough for him:( so he thought. 

        Thanks for responding. 

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        Noramott
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        I actually do go every 3 months which really ends up being closer to 4 months because so hard to get into him.  I go have have the regular checks just like I have had one only because of my family history.  The doctor  has photos, uggg, of my moles and of all parts of my body. (I try not to look up when he is looking at the slides..haha..because I don't know which part I might see:) )  Proactive is the key and unfortunately, I learned the hard way.  I already take my 15 year old son and my 12 year old will start going maybe this next summer.  I am teaching them, hopefully, that this is what they will do the rest of their lives.

        One time, my derm was over this clinic for other doctors to come and see certain afflictions. My doctor was in charge of getting people to participate in it.  Oh there were some patients that my heart went out too, and here I sat, nothing visible on me.  But the reason he wanted me to be seen by these doctors was to say, hey don't forget me, who has few moles and actually look like I shouldn't be "worried about" when thinking of melanoma,  just because I have only about 8 moles total, my chances are better than the normal person to have one because of history. 

        I also agree on the choice of doctors.  I go to one at Vanderbilt.  I don't mess with these local ones which as you say and I agree, see minor things.  That is what my husband did.  Some men can be hard headed and won't  go past the city limits of our small area.  Local was good enough for him:( so he thought. 

        Thanks for responding. 

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      BethA in VA
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      Sorry to hear your stress.  I don't know you, but I don't need to know you to add you to my prayers.  You have lost too many to this disease.  So, stay strong and post the good news when you get the results.  Let me know that prayers work.  I care.  Beth 3/B

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      BethA in VA
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      Sorry to hear your stress.  I don't know you, but I don't need to know you to add you to my prayers.  You have lost too many to this disease.  So, stay strong and post the good news when you get the results.  Let me know that prayers work.  I care.  Beth 3/B

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        Noramott
        Participant

        No I don't have to know someone to pray for them especially when I hear that "M" word. 

        Thank you.

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        Noramott
        Participant

        No I don't have to know someone to pray for them especially when I hear that "M" word. 

        Thank you.

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      nicoli
      Participant

      Praying right now.

      Nicoli, Stage 3b

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      nicoli
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      Praying right now.

      Nicoli, Stage 3b

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        cherimichele
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        hi.. i am michele..

        i am on this board.. not because i have melanoma… which thank god i do not… but my best friend is dealing with it.. and he is on this wonderful board..

        i have so much compassion and it is amazing to me how strong you all sound..

        i have a strong feeling that you are just fine.. i have had a basal cell removed 35 yrs ago… they do not resemble melamona lesions at all…

        i have strong psychic abilities… and it is my strong feeling that you are fine!!!

        please be calm… think positive thoughts… all will be ok..

        take care… and big hugs..

         

        Michele

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        cherimichele
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        hi.. i am michele..

        i am on this board.. not because i have melanoma… which thank god i do not… but my best friend is dealing with it.. and he is on this wonderful board..

        i have so much compassion and it is amazing to me how strong you all sound..

        i have a strong feeling that you are just fine.. i have had a basal cell removed 35 yrs ago… they do not resemble melamona lesions at all…

        i have strong psychic abilities… and it is my strong feeling that you are fine!!!

        please be calm… think positive thoughts… all will be ok..

        take care… and big hugs..

         

        Michele

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        cherimichele
        Participant

        hi.. i am michele..

        i am on this board.. not because i have melanoma… which thank god i do not… but my best friend is dealing with it.. and he is on this wonderful board..

        i have so much compassion and it is amazing to me how strong you all sound..

        i have a strong feeling that you are just fine.. i have had a basal cell removed 35 yrs ago… they do not resemble melamona lesions at all…

        i have strong psychic abilities… and it is my strong feeling that you are fine!!!

        please be calm… think positive thoughts… all will be ok..

        take care… and big hugs..

         

        Michele

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        cherimichele
        Participant

        hi.. i am michele..

        i am on this board.. not because i have melanoma… which thank god i do not… but my best friend is dealing with it.. and he is on this wonderful board..

        i have so much compassion and it is amazing to me how strong you all sound..

        i have a strong feeling that you are just fine.. i have had a basal cell removed 35 yrs ago… they do not resemble melamona lesions at all…

        i have strong psychic abilities… and it is my strong feeling that you are fine!!!

        please be calm… think positive thoughts… all will be ok..

        take care… and big hugs..

         

        Michele

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