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- May 7, 2012 at 2:25 am
To say I'm devastated would be an understatment. My dad first found out he had melanoma in late 2008 when my mom discovered a large mole on his back that was half red and half black. He immediately went to the doctor and they removed it…it was stage 2 I believe at that point. By March 2011 he was stage 3 and by early fall 2011 he was stage 4. He did several rounds of Temodar, Yervoy and radiation and nothing would slow this beast down.
To say I'm devastated would be an understatment. My dad first found out he had melanoma in late 2008 when my mom discovered a large mole on his back that was half red and half black. He immediately went to the doctor and they removed it…it was stage 2 I believe at that point. By March 2011 he was stage 3 and by early fall 2011 he was stage 4. He did several rounds of Temodar, Yervoy and radiation and nothing would slow this beast down.
Watching him go through all of this pain and suffering has been excrutiating to say the least. I hate this disease and what it did to him. The only comfort I've been able to find is that he is out of pain and is in paradise…pain free, next to God. I will see him again. He'll be up there waiting on me. It is my life mission to spread the word about this terrible cancer. There needs to be more public knowlege on how serious and deadly melanoma.
I hate this.
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- May 7, 2012 at 2:33 am
Anna, I am sorry to hear about the painful loss of your father. I can't imagine what watching a loved one getting savaged by this disease is like. I pray that you will have the strength to get through all of this, and that you will be vigilant to prevent this disease from getting to you in the future.
There are good things in life, and you have a lot to live for (especially since it seems like you have a very big heart)
God Bless
John
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- May 7, 2012 at 2:33 am
Anna, I am sorry to hear about the painful loss of your father. I can't imagine what watching a loved one getting savaged by this disease is like. I pray that you will have the strength to get through all of this, and that you will be vigilant to prevent this disease from getting to you in the future.
There are good things in life, and you have a lot to live for (especially since it seems like you have a very big heart)
God Bless
John
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- May 7, 2012 at 2:33 am
Anna, I am sorry to hear about the painful loss of your father. I can't imagine what watching a loved one getting savaged by this disease is like. I pray that you will have the strength to get through all of this, and that you will be vigilant to prevent this disease from getting to you in the future.
There are good things in life, and you have a lot to live for (especially since it seems like you have a very big heart)
God Bless
John
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- May 7, 2012 at 3:42 am
Anna, I am so sorry to read this. I lost my wife to this horrible disease in 2009, and therefore have some idea of what you might be experiencing. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Frank from Australia
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- May 7, 2012 at 3:42 am
Anna, I am so sorry to read this. I lost my wife to this horrible disease in 2009, and therefore have some idea of what you might be experiencing. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Frank from Australia
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- May 7, 2012 at 3:42 am
Anna, I am so sorry to read this. I lost my wife to this horrible disease in 2009, and therefore have some idea of what you might be experiencing. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Frank from Australia
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- May 7, 2012 at 5:40 am
So sorry for your dads passing.I know how painful that is.At least he is no longer in pain.My prayers to you and your family.We all hate this beast. Al
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- May 7, 2012 at 5:40 am
So sorry for your dads passing.I know how painful that is.At least he is no longer in pain.My prayers to you and your family.We all hate this beast. Al
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- May 7, 2012 at 7:15 am
Im so sorry to hear that news. I am also a daughter caring for my dad who is currently stage 4 with progression in the brain and body. I cannot imagine life without him. I really feel for your and family as you go through this very difficult time. I don't think you can ever get over loss of a dear loved one, you just learn to live with it.
My sincere condolences.
Nahmi
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- May 7, 2012 at 7:15 am
Im so sorry to hear that news. I am also a daughter caring for my dad who is currently stage 4 with progression in the brain and body. I cannot imagine life without him. I really feel for your and family as you go through this very difficult time. I don't think you can ever get over loss of a dear loved one, you just learn to live with it.
My sincere condolences.
Nahmi
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- May 7, 2012 at 7:15 am
Im so sorry to hear that news. I am also a daughter caring for my dad who is currently stage 4 with progression in the brain and body. I cannot imagine life without him. I really feel for your and family as you go through this very difficult time. I don't think you can ever get over loss of a dear loved one, you just learn to live with it.
My sincere condolences.
Nahmi
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- May 7, 2012 at 5:40 am
So sorry for your dads passing.I know how painful that is.At least he is no longer in pain.My prayers to you and your family.We all hate this beast. Al
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- May 7, 2012 at 12:41 pm
Anna I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. I am praying for you and your family. I lost my Dad many years ago to lung cancer and my husband has also lost his father. The pain is gone and he is at peace now with no more mel to fight. I am sure he is looking down and smiling at you for your bravery.
Judy (loving wife and caregiver of Gene)
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- May 7, 2012 at 12:41 pm
Anna I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. I am praying for you and your family. I lost my Dad many years ago to lung cancer and my husband has also lost his father. The pain is gone and he is at peace now with no more mel to fight. I am sure he is looking down and smiling at you for your bravery.
Judy (loving wife and caregiver of Gene)
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- May 7, 2012 at 12:41 pm
Anna I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Dad. I am praying for you and your family. I lost my Dad many years ago to lung cancer and my husband has also lost his father. The pain is gone and he is at peace now with no more mel to fight. I am sure he is looking down and smiling at you for your bravery.
Judy (loving wife and caregiver of Gene)
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- May 9, 2012 at 4:16 am
Dear Anna,
I feel your pain and loss. I just lost my mother 3 weeks ago to melanoma. We had her home on hospice for 2 weeks before she passed and it was terrible to watch such a once energetic, loving, and brave person succumb to this disease. She also tried Temodar, radiation, IL2, and finally Zelboraf but everything just kept growing and finally metastasized to her brain. She quickly went down hill after having the brain tumor removed. Our whole family is paralyzed by her absence but we know she will be waiting for us in Heaven. Thank God she is not in pain anymore and neither is your father. I know God has a special place for those who fight this cancer. My Mom always asked why nobody even knew what melanoma was. The two papers we had her obituary in spelled it wrong. I intend to make it a priority to educate people about this disease. I always get so irritated when people say to me, "Girl, you need to get a tan." (I have red hair, green eyes and pale white skin.) I say "No thanks, I love my white skin and hate melanoma." I will be grieving with you. My Mom had just turned 68 and left behind my 2 little girls, ages 3 and 5, whom she loved dearly. She fought so hard to beat this disease so she could watch them grow up. Now she is their guardian angel.
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- May 9, 2012 at 4:16 am
Dear Anna,
I feel your pain and loss. I just lost my mother 3 weeks ago to melanoma. We had her home on hospice for 2 weeks before she passed and it was terrible to watch such a once energetic, loving, and brave person succumb to this disease. She also tried Temodar, radiation, IL2, and finally Zelboraf but everything just kept growing and finally metastasized to her brain. She quickly went down hill after having the brain tumor removed. Our whole family is paralyzed by her absence but we know she will be waiting for us in Heaven. Thank God she is not in pain anymore and neither is your father. I know God has a special place for those who fight this cancer. My Mom always asked why nobody even knew what melanoma was. The two papers we had her obituary in spelled it wrong. I intend to make it a priority to educate people about this disease. I always get so irritated when people say to me, "Girl, you need to get a tan." (I have red hair, green eyes and pale white skin.) I say "No thanks, I love my white skin and hate melanoma." I will be grieving with you. My Mom had just turned 68 and left behind my 2 little girls, ages 3 and 5, whom she loved dearly. She fought so hard to beat this disease so she could watch them grow up. Now she is their guardian angel.
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- May 9, 2012 at 4:16 am
Dear Anna,
I feel your pain and loss. I just lost my mother 3 weeks ago to melanoma. We had her home on hospice for 2 weeks before she passed and it was terrible to watch such a once energetic, loving, and brave person succumb to this disease. She also tried Temodar, radiation, IL2, and finally Zelboraf but everything just kept growing and finally metastasized to her brain. She quickly went down hill after having the brain tumor removed. Our whole family is paralyzed by her absence but we know she will be waiting for us in Heaven. Thank God she is not in pain anymore and neither is your father. I know God has a special place for those who fight this cancer. My Mom always asked why nobody even knew what melanoma was. The two papers we had her obituary in spelled it wrong. I intend to make it a priority to educate people about this disease. I always get so irritated when people say to me, "Girl, you need to get a tan." (I have red hair, green eyes and pale white skin.) I say "No thanks, I love my white skin and hate melanoma." I will be grieving with you. My Mom had just turned 68 and left behind my 2 little girls, ages 3 and 5, whom she loved dearly. She fought so hard to beat this disease so she could watch them grow up. Now she is their guardian angel.
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- October 14, 2012 at 12:17 am
Dear Anna, I am proud of you for being with and helping your Father. Time will ease the intensity of the pain but the hole will always be there while you are on this earth. As you stated, the one good thing is that he is no longer hurting.
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- October 14, 2012 at 12:17 am
Dear Anna, I am proud of you for being with and helping your Father. Time will ease the intensity of the pain but the hole will always be there while you are on this earth. As you stated, the one good thing is that he is no longer hurting.
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- October 14, 2012 at 12:17 am
Dear Anna, I am proud of you for being with and helping your Father. Time will ease the intensity of the pain but the hole will always be there while you are on this earth. As you stated, the one good thing is that he is no longer hurting.
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