Barbaras Husband

I too am having this good problem.  We keep reminding ourselves to take one day at a time but it is not easy to do.  I find it  is easier when my wife is undergoing treatment than when she is NED and  all we can do is wait and watch.  Our feelings(yours and mine) are very complicated but very real and I think it is important for us to be able to express them and find suppor

The Melanoma International Foundation web sight has a board for caregivers only.  I check it occasionally but is is quite unerutilized.  I would be interested in continuing this conversation on the MIF caregiver board.  I think others may join us there. 

I would not be apposed to continuing the conversation here if you and or others wish but I think it would be more approprate on the caregivers only board of MIF

I too am having this good problem.  We keep reminding ourselves to take one day at a time but it is not easy to do.  I find it  is easier when my wife is undergoing treatment than when she is NED and  all we can do is wait and watch.  Our feelings(yours and mine) are very complicated but very real and I think it is important for us to be able to express them and find suppor

The Melanoma International Foundation web sight has a board for caregivers only.  I check it occasionally but is is quite unerutilized.  I would be interested in continuing this conversation on the MIF caregiver board.  I think others may join us there. 

I would not be apposed to continuing the conversation here if you and or others wish but I think it would be more approprate on the caregivers only board of MIF

I too am having this good problem.  We keep reminding ourselves to take one day at a time but it is not easy to do.  I find it  is easier when my wife is undergoing treatment than when she is NED and  all we can do is wait and watch.  Our feelings(yours and mine) are very complicated but very real and I think it is important for us to be able to express them and find suppor

The Melanoma International Foundation web sight has a board for caregivers only.  I check it occasionally but is is quite unerutilized.  I would be interested in continuing this conversation on the MIF caregiver board.  I think others may join us there. 

I would not be apposed to continuing the conversation here if you and or others wish but I think it would be more approprate on the caregivers only board of MIF

I understand what you are saying

30 years ago when my first wife died I experienced this also.

I expressed it a little differently thinking that I had fulfilled the promise "till death us do part"

I have always found a measure of strength from this experience

I understand what you are saying

30 years ago when my first wife died I experienced this also.

I expressed it a little differently thinking that I had fulfilled the promise "till death us do part"

I have always found a measure of strength from this experience

I understand what you are saying

30 years ago when my first wife died I experienced this also.

I expressed it a little differently thinking that I had fulfilled the promise "till death us do part"

I have always found a measure of strength from this experience

Dear Anonymous, This is my first post too and I am struggling with some of the same issues. While I intelectually understand that the future has always been uncertain, I don't know how to deal with the tension that builds as the day of my wife's next pet scan approaches. If the Scans bring good news we get to do it again. Sometimes my wife and I can talk about these things and that is very helpful for both of us I think but I don't want to be an extra stress in her life so I don't share it all with her. I have also seen counselor three times and found that very helpful. As I write this I realize I need to make another appointment with the counselor. It has only been since June that we have been dealing with this. I too would be interested in hearing how other have and are dealing with the uncertainty.

Dear Anonymous, This is my first post too and I am struggling with some of the same issues. While I intelectually understand that the future has always been uncertain, I don't know how to deal with the tension that builds as the day of my wife's next pet scan approaches. If the Scans bring good news we get to do it again. Sometimes my wife and I can talk about these things and that is very helpful for both of us I think but I don't want to be an extra stress in her life so I don't share it all with her. I have also seen counselor three times and found that very helpful. As I write this I realize I need to make another appointment with the counselor. It has only been since June that we have been dealing with this. I too would be interested in hearing how other have and are dealing with the uncertainty.

Dear Anonymous, This is my first post too and I am struggling with some of the same issues. While I intelectually understand that the future has always been uncertain, I don't know how to deal with the tension that builds as the day of my wife's next pet scan approaches. If the Scans bring good news we get to do it again. Sometimes my wife and I can talk about these things and that is very helpful for both of us I think but I don't want to be an extra stress in her life so I don't share it all with her. I have also seen counselor three times and found that very helpful. As I write this I realize I need to make another appointment with the counselor. It has only been since June that we have been dealing with this. I too would be interested in hearing how other have and are dealing with the uncertainty.