Stage 4 Melanoma

My boyfriend has just recently been diagnosed with melanoma. He hasn't actually been staged because we haven;t gotten the PET scan to see if it has spread but by the depth of the tumor from biposy the pathologist was fairly certian. From what they took it was 3mm deep but the tumor went deeper. This is scary. I have read alot and know how bad it might be. I was trying to keep this from him. He is sort of a hot head and I didn't want him to freak out and do drugs and drink like crazy. He is an ex-addict and an alcholic. Well lately he has been growing more and more impatiant.

My boyfriend has just recently been diagnosed with melanoma. He hasn't actually been staged because we haven;t gotten the PET scan to see if it has spread but by the depth of the tumor from biposy the pathologist was fairly certian. From what they took it was 3mm deep but the tumor went deeper. This is scary. I have read alot and know how bad it might be. I was trying to keep this from him. He is sort of a hot head and I didn't want him to freak out and do drugs and drink like crazy. He is an ex-addict and an alcholic. Well lately he has been growing more and more impatiant. We haven;t gotten anymore treatment other than a biopsy because he has no insurance we have applied for PCIP and gotten approved but coverage doesn't start till febuary 1st. So he got an appointment with the county hospital through American Cancer Sociery. He thought he would get more answers but that isn't what happened. They told him what he already knew. This angered him which he has already been getting angrier and angerier. Then the other night awoke with terrible night sweats. This freaked him out so of course naturally he googled it. This told him how bad it probably is. The thing I have been holding from him in hopes that I can keep him happy for that much longer. He became very very angry, He says hurtful things to me and starts fights with others. I just don't know what to do. I feel so alone. I want to be there for him. I love him more than I ever thought I could love someone but being with someone that seemingly hates you and everything you do is really hard. I can't talk to my friends because our relationship hasn't been perfect and they just don't understand. They either say that its because of all the other things he does or that what we have just isn't love, people don't treat people they love that way. I just wanna yell at them. HE IS ANGRY BECAUSE HE IS PROBABLY DYING!!!!! HE TAKES IT OUT ON ME BECAUSE HE IS CLOSEST TO ME!!!! This is something I understand. I just don't know how to not involve my own emotions, To not get upset when he is angry at me. I just need someone impartial to talk to. Or advice.