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    • May 7, 2014 at 5:36 pm
    ray39
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      My wife noticed a spot on my back Monday night….Tuesday morning I went to the dermatoloogist and she removed it….now I'm waiting…she said it could be melanoma….it didn't appear deep but I'm scared to death…..We have a three year old son who I want to be there for….I cant eat or sleep…..

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        • May 7, 2014 at 6:19 pm
        ltedge46
        Participant

          ray39, I know how you feel. It may not help you relax but try not to worry until the results come back.  There's nothing you can do in the meantime but spend some extra time with your family.  I had a stage 3 removed in 2006 and felt the same way while waiting.  In 2012 it returned as a stage 4 but I'm still around to continue fighting.

           

          I hope everything turns out benign, stay strong.

          • May 7, 2014 at 6:19 pm
          ltedge46
          Participant

            ray39, I know how you feel. It may not help you relax but try not to worry until the results come back.  There's nothing you can do in the meantime but spend some extra time with your family.  I had a stage 3 removed in 2006 and felt the same way while waiting.  In 2012 it returned as a stage 4 but I'm still around to continue fighting.

             

            I hope everything turns out benign, stay strong.

              • May 7, 2014 at 6:31 pm
              ray39
              Participant

                I'm trying to stay as calm as I can. I wish I had asked more questions yesterday but my mind was in a fog.  Did she crake out the entire growth? Is the fact I didn't need stitches, just a band aid to cover it mean it was small? I the fact it's less than a 2mm deep hole good?  

                • May 7, 2014 at 6:31 pm
                ray39
                Participant

                  I'm trying to stay as calm as I can. I wish I had asked more questions yesterday but my mind was in a fog.  Did she crake out the entire growth? Is the fact I didn't need stitches, just a band aid to cover it mean it was small? I the fact it's less than a 2mm deep hole good?  

                  • May 7, 2014 at 6:31 pm
                  ray39
                  Participant

                    I'm trying to stay as calm as I can. I wish I had asked more questions yesterday but my mind was in a fog.  Did she crake out the entire growth? Is the fact I didn't need stitches, just a band aid to cover it mean it was small? I the fact it's less than a 2mm deep hole good?  

                    • May 7, 2014 at 9:10 pm
                    Janner
                    Participant

                      No stitches means it is a shave biopsy, nothing else.  You can't assume anything from how the biopsy was done.  Visual diagnoses are iffy at best.  She is ruling out melanoma.  This could just be an atypical lesion that is benign.  Take a deep breath, because everything is still an unknown until you get a pathology report.  Just so you know, most biopsies are not melanoma.

                      • May 7, 2014 at 9:10 pm
                      Janner
                      Participant

                        No stitches means it is a shave biopsy, nothing else.  You can't assume anything from how the biopsy was done.  Visual diagnoses are iffy at best.  She is ruling out melanoma.  This could just be an atypical lesion that is benign.  Take a deep breath, because everything is still an unknown until you get a pathology report.  Just so you know, most biopsies are not melanoma.

                        • May 7, 2014 at 9:16 pm
                        ray39
                        Participant

                          She actually dug out the growth.  I have a hole there. 

                          • May 7, 2014 at 9:16 pm
                          ray39
                          Participant

                            She actually dug out the growth.  I have a hole there. 

                            • May 7, 2014 at 9:16 pm
                            ray39
                            Participant

                              She actually dug out the growth.  I have a hole there. 

                              • May 7, 2014 at 9:10 pm
                              Janner
                              Participant

                                No stitches means it is a shave biopsy, nothing else.  You can't assume anything from how the biopsy was done.  Visual diagnoses are iffy at best.  She is ruling out melanoma.  This could just be an atypical lesion that is benign.  Take a deep breath, because everything is still an unknown until you get a pathology report.  Just so you know, most biopsies are not melanoma.

                              • May 7, 2014 at 6:19 pm
                              ltedge46
                              Participant

                                ray39, I know how you feel. It may not help you relax but try not to worry until the results come back.  There's nothing you can do in the meantime but spend some extra time with your family.  I had a stage 3 removed in 2006 and felt the same way while waiting.  In 2012 it returned as a stage 4 but I'm still around to continue fighting.

                                 

                                I hope everything turns out benign, stay strong.

                                • May 7, 2014 at 6:51 pm
                                kpcollins31
                                Participant

                                  Take a deep breath and try not to be scared. No sense worrying about a pathology report you do not yet have. It may not be melanoma. Even if it is, there is no reason to lose hope. Removing a melanoma in its very early stages has a very high success rate. When you get the report, post the results here and you will get some honest feedback… I am sure Janner will give some good insight.

                                  Kevin 

                                  • May 7, 2014 at 6:51 pm
                                  kpcollins31
                                  Participant

                                    Take a deep breath and try not to be scared. No sense worrying about a pathology report you do not yet have. It may not be melanoma. Even if it is, there is no reason to lose hope. Removing a melanoma in its very early stages has a very high success rate. When you get the report, post the results here and you will get some honest feedback… I am sure Janner will give some good insight.

                                    Kevin 

                                    • May 7, 2014 at 6:51 pm
                                    kpcollins31
                                    Participant

                                      Take a deep breath and try not to be scared. No sense worrying about a pathology report you do not yet have. It may not be melanoma. Even if it is, there is no reason to lose hope. Removing a melanoma in its very early stages has a very high success rate. When you get the report, post the results here and you will get some honest feedback… I am sure Janner will give some good insight.

                                      Kevin 

                                        • May 7, 2014 at 9:42 pm
                                        ray39
                                        Participant

                                          My son is three.   The thought of leaving him makes me want to throw up. 

                                          • May 7, 2014 at 9:42 pm
                                          ray39
                                          Participant

                                            My son is three.   The thought of leaving him makes me want to throw up. 

                                            • May 7, 2014 at 9:42 pm
                                            ray39
                                            Participant

                                              My son is three.   The thought of leaving him makes me want to throw up. 

                                            • May 8, 2014 at 4:29 pm
                                            LuckyMan51
                                            Participant

                                              Ray, Take a deep breath…Try to keep calm and not worry about the unknown. Hug and kiss your boy, say a prayer if you are a praying man and sit tight. Most things that dermatologists take off people's skin  don't turn out to be melanoma and if by chance yours is there is a reasonable chance you caught it early. Early intervention and surgical solutions often nip this in the bud.  If it comes back as melanoma make sure you consult with a melanoma specialty oncologist. When I was losing it my doctor gave me a prescription sleeping aid to allow a solid nights sleep which allowed me to think more clearly after being well rested. Good luck.   

                                              • May 8, 2014 at 4:29 pm
                                              LuckyMan51
                                              Participant

                                                Ray, Take a deep breath…Try to keep calm and not worry about the unknown. Hug and kiss your boy, say a prayer if you are a praying man and sit tight. Most things that dermatologists take off people's skin  don't turn out to be melanoma and if by chance yours is there is a reasonable chance you caught it early. Early intervention and surgical solutions often nip this in the bud.  If it comes back as melanoma make sure you consult with a melanoma specialty oncologist. When I was losing it my doctor gave me a prescription sleeping aid to allow a solid nights sleep which allowed me to think more clearly after being well rested. Good luck.   

                                                • May 8, 2014 at 4:29 pm
                                                LuckyMan51
                                                Participant

                                                  Ray, Take a deep breath…Try to keep calm and not worry about the unknown. Hug and kiss your boy, say a prayer if you are a praying man and sit tight. Most things that dermatologists take off people's skin  don't turn out to be melanoma and if by chance yours is there is a reasonable chance you caught it early. Early intervention and surgical solutions often nip this in the bud.  If it comes back as melanoma make sure you consult with a melanoma specialty oncologist. When I was losing it my doctor gave me a prescription sleeping aid to allow a solid nights sleep which allowed me to think more clearly after being well rested. Good luck.   

                                                  • May 27, 2014 at 5:10 am
                                                  brittanyx
                                                  Participant
                                                    Hi ray, I’m 19 and I was diagnosed with stage lll melanoma about a month ago. I’ve learned that attitude is key. Don’t think negative. No matter what the results are, just stay positive!
                                                    • May 27, 2014 at 5:10 am
                                                    brittanyx
                                                    Participant
                                                      Hi ray, I’m 19 and I was diagnosed with stage lll melanoma about a month ago. I’ve learned that attitude is key. Don’t think negative. No matter what the results are, just stay positive!
                                                      • May 27, 2014 at 5:10 am
                                                      brittanyx
                                                      Participant
                                                        Hi ray, I’m 19 and I was diagnosed with stage lll melanoma about a month ago. I’ve learned that attitude is key. Don’t think negative. No matter what the results are, just stay positive!
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