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    Lizz
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      Hi I was diagnosed with melanoma three weeks ago.  Its all very scary and everything feels so uncertain.  I just want to make sure Im doing everything I should be.  I had an appointment yesterday with a surgeon who said at the moment I was at a stage 2b.  He spoke about a sentinel lymph node biospy giving me the impression that this was not the best route to take and I should just "sit and wait" and see how things go.  I really dont want to just do nothing and wait for the melanoma to spread!.  I decided to go for the sentinel lymph node biospy regardless.  I am hoping to have an appointment within the next two weeks.  The brislow on my nodular melanoma was 5.5 (on my arm), I get the impression that because it is so large that it is likely that the melanoma has spread?  Anyone else had a sentinel?  If it has spread to lymph glands does that mean it has probably gone elsewhere as well.  Sorry for all the questions but  im new to all this. 

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        itsme.mimi
        Participant

          Hi Lizz, sorry you have to be here. I know you must be frightened, I think everyone is when we hear those dreaded words.  I was diagnosed 10 years ago, and only a stage one lesion. I am back because of some concerns I do have, have posted, but no responses yet. Anyway, 10 years ago, this board was such a wealth of information, all wrapped up with the kindest, most courageous folks. I am sure someone will reach out to you, soon. I think you made the right decision, better safe than sorry, in my humble opinion.

          I will be praying for your peace and healing. heart

          itsme.mimi
          Participant

            Hi Lizz, sorry you have to be here. I know you must be frightened, I think everyone is when we hear those dreaded words.  I was diagnosed 10 years ago, and only a stage one lesion. I am back because of some concerns I do have, have posted, but no responses yet. Anyway, 10 years ago, this board was such a wealth of information, all wrapped up with the kindest, most courageous folks. I am sure someone will reach out to you, soon. I think you made the right decision, better safe than sorry, in my humble opinion.

            I will be praying for your peace and healing. heart

              Lizz
              Participant

                Thank you for your kindness.

                Lizz
                Participant

                  Thank you for your kindness.

                  Lizz
                  Participant

                    Thank you for your kindness.

                  itsme.mimi
                  Participant

                    Hi Lizz, sorry you have to be here. I know you must be frightened, I think everyone is when we hear those dreaded words.  I was diagnosed 10 years ago, and only a stage one lesion. I am back because of some concerns I do have, have posted, but no responses yet. Anyway, 10 years ago, this board was such a wealth of information, all wrapped up with the kindest, most courageous folks. I am sure someone will reach out to you, soon. I think you made the right decision, better safe than sorry, in my humble opinion.

                    I will be praying for your peace and healing. heart

                    debwray
                    Participant

                      Hi Lizz,

                      Sorry you are here . First things first..are you being treated at a melanoma specialist centre ?

                      Things are moving rapidly in terms of evolving practice and it is difficult for non specialists to be aware of the latest developments. You might be well advised to get a second opinion .

                      You are aware that the snb tests for spread to the lymph node that drains the area of the melanoma. If that is negative..great. If not then you have to decide if you want to have a complete lymph node clearance of the nodes in that area.This is not clearcut..as you might think. If only microscopic traces and unlikely to have spread beyond the sentinel node this may be sufficient surgery.If macroscopic is visible then the likelihood of spread to other nodes is higher and you might want them removed in spite of risk of infection, lymphoedema, etc

                      Sit and wait would mean no unnecessary surgery in the short germ and if things progressed then you make choices as appropriated then. This might mean going direct to immunotherapy.

                      You ask if the lymph nodes are positive does that mean it has spread elsewhere. The answer is that the chance of progression is higher if the lymph nodes are macroscopic.. But some follks progress and others don't from similar pathology reports. Nothing is certain. It may be that shome genetic types are better at preventing spread than others via their immune system. I did read a weird report about an organ donor who had been clear of melanoma for years but his recipients..who were immunosuppressed following kidney transplants then went on to develop melanoma at the site of the kidney transplants.

                      Nothing is certain and you may well stay as a stage 2. Sometimes its better to deal with problems as they arise rather than scaring yourself with maybes.  I do think that your call on the snb is a good one as if it did change your staging then it would mean you are able to access the latest treatment earlier than if you watch and wait. However it is all down to choices and there are pros and cons.

                      Wishing you well

                      Deb

                        Lizz
                        Participant

                          Thank you Deb

                           

                          Last Thursday I had the SLNB and WLE.  I will receive the results in a couple of weeks. Thank you for your advice and well wishes.  

                          The WLE and SLNB recovery is difficult I am in a lot of pain with much swelling and bruising.  I live in England and do not think the treatment for melanoma is as advances as Amercia unfortunately.  I have a plastic surgeon but as of yet have not received an appointment to see a melanoma oncologist.  i think this might be something that may well happen once I receive the results of the SLNB.  Fingers crossed and pleased God this is clear. 

                           

                          Thank you

                           

                          Lizz
                          Participant

                            Thank you Deb

                             

                            Last Thursday I had the SLNB and WLE.  I will receive the results in a couple of weeks. Thank you for your advice and well wishes.  

                            The WLE and SLNB recovery is difficult I am in a lot of pain with much swelling and bruising.  I live in England and do not think the treatment for melanoma is as advances as Amercia unfortunately.  I have a plastic surgeon but as of yet have not received an appointment to see a melanoma oncologist.  i think this might be something that may well happen once I receive the results of the SLNB.  Fingers crossed and pleased God this is clear. 

                             

                            Thank you

                             

                            Lizz
                            Participant

                              Thank you Deb

                               

                              Last Thursday I had the SLNB and WLE.  I will receive the results in a couple of weeks. Thank you for your advice and well wishes.  

                              The WLE and SLNB recovery is difficult I am in a lot of pain with much swelling and bruising.  I live in England and do not think the treatment for melanoma is as advances as Amercia unfortunately.  I have a plastic surgeon but as of yet have not received an appointment to see a melanoma oncologist.  i think this might be something that may well happen once I receive the results of the SLNB.  Fingers crossed and pleased God this is clear. 

                               

                              Thank you

                               

                            debwray
                            Participant

                              Hi Lizz,

                              Sorry you are here . First things first..are you being treated at a melanoma specialist centre ?

                              Things are moving rapidly in terms of evolving practice and it is difficult for non specialists to be aware of the latest developments. You might be well advised to get a second opinion .

                              You are aware that the snb tests for spread to the lymph node that drains the area of the melanoma. If that is negative..great. If not then you have to decide if you want to have a complete lymph node clearance of the nodes in that area.This is not clearcut..as you might think. If only microscopic traces and unlikely to have spread beyond the sentinel node this may be sufficient surgery.If macroscopic is visible then the likelihood of spread to other nodes is higher and you might want them removed in spite of risk of infection, lymphoedema, etc

                              Sit and wait would mean no unnecessary surgery in the short germ and if things progressed then you make choices as appropriated then. This might mean going direct to immunotherapy.

                              You ask if the lymph nodes are positive does that mean it has spread elsewhere. The answer is that the chance of progression is higher if the lymph nodes are macroscopic.. But some follks progress and others don't from similar pathology reports. Nothing is certain. It may be that shome genetic types are better at preventing spread than others via their immune system. I did read a weird report about an organ donor who had been clear of melanoma for years but his recipients..who were immunosuppressed following kidney transplants then went on to develop melanoma at the site of the kidney transplants.

                              Nothing is certain and you may well stay as a stage 2. Sometimes its better to deal with problems as they arise rather than scaring yourself with maybes.  I do think that your call on the snb is a good one as if it did change your staging then it would mean you are able to access the latest treatment earlier than if you watch and wait. However it is all down to choices and there are pros and cons.

                              Wishing you well

                              Deb

                              debwray
                              Participant

                                Hi Lizz,

                                Sorry you are here . First things first..are you being treated at a melanoma specialist centre ?

                                Things are moving rapidly in terms of evolving practice and it is difficult for non specialists to be aware of the latest developments. You might be well advised to get a second opinion .

                                You are aware that the snb tests for spread to the lymph node that drains the area of the melanoma. If that is negative..great. If not then you have to decide if you want to have a complete lymph node clearance of the nodes in that area.This is not clearcut..as you might think. If only microscopic traces and unlikely to have spread beyond the sentinel node this may be sufficient surgery.If macroscopic is visible then the likelihood of spread to other nodes is higher and you might want them removed in spite of risk of infection, lymphoedema, etc

                                Sit and wait would mean no unnecessary surgery in the short germ and if things progressed then you make choices as appropriated then. This might mean going direct to immunotherapy.

                                You ask if the lymph nodes are positive does that mean it has spread elsewhere. The answer is that the chance of progression is higher if the lymph nodes are macroscopic.. But some follks progress and others don't from similar pathology reports. Nothing is certain. It may be that shome genetic types are better at preventing spread than others via their immune system. I did read a weird report about an organ donor who had been clear of melanoma for years but his recipients..who were immunosuppressed following kidney transplants then went on to develop melanoma at the site of the kidney transplants.

                                Nothing is certain and you may well stay as a stage 2. Sometimes its better to deal with problems as they arise rather than scaring yourself with maybes.  I do think that your call on the snb is a good one as if it did change your staging then it would mean you are able to access the latest treatment earlier than if you watch and wait. However it is all down to choices and there are pros and cons.

                                Wishing you well

                                Deb

                                jennunicorn
                                Participant

                                  I have a friend that was diagnosed a month after me (she went to the dermatologist only because of my situation making her concerned for a mole she had) and her depth was 19mm…. that is not a typo, it was incredibly deep. She then had a SLNB, and her lymph nodes were clear! Her scans were clear! She continues to have clear scans and no recurrence, so she remains stage 2b.

                                  For myself, my depth was 1.9mm, had a SLNB and had 3 positive lymph nodes. No other spread. I am stage 3b. 

                                  Basically, everyone is different, and depth doesn't not determine whether it is more aggressive or will spread faster than if it were not as deep. 

                                  I know it's all crazy and scary at first, this is a great place to gain knowledge and get great advice. 

                                  All the best,

                                  jennunicorn
                                  Participant

                                    I have a friend that was diagnosed a month after me (she went to the dermatologist only because of my situation making her concerned for a mole she had) and her depth was 19mm…. that is not a typo, it was incredibly deep. She then had a SLNB, and her lymph nodes were clear! Her scans were clear! She continues to have clear scans and no recurrence, so she remains stage 2b.

                                    For myself, my depth was 1.9mm, had a SLNB and had 3 positive lymph nodes. No other spread. I am stage 3b. 

                                    Basically, everyone is different, and depth doesn't not determine whether it is more aggressive or will spread faster than if it were not as deep. 

                                    I know it's all crazy and scary at first, this is a great place to gain knowledge and get great advice. 

                                    All the best,

                                    jennunicorn
                                    Participant

                                      I have a friend that was diagnosed a month after me (she went to the dermatologist only because of my situation making her concerned for a mole she had) and her depth was 19mm…. that is not a typo, it was incredibly deep. She then had a SLNB, and her lymph nodes were clear! Her scans were clear! She continues to have clear scans and no recurrence, so she remains stage 2b.

                                      For myself, my depth was 1.9mm, had a SLNB and had 3 positive lymph nodes. No other spread. I am stage 3b. 

                                      Basically, everyone is different, and depth doesn't not determine whether it is more aggressive or will spread faster than if it were not as deep. 

                                      I know it's all crazy and scary at first, this is a great place to gain knowledge and get great advice. 

                                      All the best,

                                        Lizz
                                        Participant

                                          Thank you for this post it gave much hope.  Cant get over the 19mm! 

                                          SLNB and WLE done last Thursday, results in a couple of weeks. 

                                          Lizz
                                          Participant

                                            Thank you for this post it gave much hope.  Cant get over the 19mm! 

                                            SLNB and WLE done last Thursday, results in a couple of weeks. 

                                            Lizz
                                            Participant

                                              Thank you for this post it gave much hope.  Cant get over the 19mm! 

                                              SLNB and WLE done last Thursday, results in a couple of weeks. 

                                            Jennab0525
                                            Participant

                                              Hi Lizz! I too am so very sorry you had to join our "club". It's certainly a scary, anxiety filled roller coaster. Your post brought back so many memories of my fear when I was first diagnosed. Tomorrow I go in for my one year CT scan. I'm scared but not as badly as I was in the beginning so as odd as it seems to you now, know that it does get easier to cope.

                                              I too was initially diagnosed stage 2b pending the results of the SLNB. I'm a little surprised your surgeon made the SNLB seem optional as that was not the case with me. In the beginning things moved so damn fast it is mind boggling! I went from initial biopsy to surgery for the WLE and SNLB in a one week time span!! It was insane. My Nodular tumor was 3.5 mm depth and all doctors I spoke with were very concerned but still optimistic that my nodes would be clear. Unfortunately, I had two isolated tumor cells in one node (two nodes were removed). This elevated me to a stage 3b which I have remained ever since with no treatment (only watch and wait which includes scans and skin checks every 3 months). Knock on wood it stays the same after my scan tomorrow!!!

                                              I agree with the others that a melanoma oncologist is a MUST! Also please know you can always get a second, third or even fourth opinion if needed!! I got a second opinion after my positive SNLB and I'm so happy I did. I can't stress enough the importance of having doctors you trust 100%! It makes the journey so much easier! 

                                              Take a deep breath and take it one day at a time. We are all here for you. This board is amazing and you will not find a more kind and knowledgeable group. 

                                              Please stay in touch. All my best!!

                                              Jenna

                                              Jennab0525
                                              Participant

                                                Hi Lizz! I too am so very sorry you had to join our "club". It's certainly a scary, anxiety filled roller coaster. Your post brought back so many memories of my fear when I was first diagnosed. Tomorrow I go in for my one year CT scan. I'm scared but not as badly as I was in the beginning so as odd as it seems to you now, know that it does get easier to cope.

                                                I too was initially diagnosed stage 2b pending the results of the SLNB. I'm a little surprised your surgeon made the SNLB seem optional as that was not the case with me. In the beginning things moved so damn fast it is mind boggling! I went from initial biopsy to surgery for the WLE and SNLB in a one week time span!! It was insane. My Nodular tumor was 3.5 mm depth and all doctors I spoke with were very concerned but still optimistic that my nodes would be clear. Unfortunately, I had two isolated tumor cells in one node (two nodes were removed). This elevated me to a stage 3b which I have remained ever since with no treatment (only watch and wait which includes scans and skin checks every 3 months). Knock on wood it stays the same after my scan tomorrow!!!

                                                I agree with the others that a melanoma oncologist is a MUST! Also please know you can always get a second, third or even fourth opinion if needed!! I got a second opinion after my positive SNLB and I'm so happy I did. I can't stress enough the importance of having doctors you trust 100%! It makes the journey so much easier! 

                                                Take a deep breath and take it one day at a time. We are all here for you. This board is amazing and you will not find a more kind and knowledgeable group. 

                                                Please stay in touch. All my best!!

                                                Jenna

                                                  Lizz
                                                  Participant

                                                    Thank you Jenna. 

                                                    Lizz
                                                    Participant

                                                      Thank you Jenna. 

                                                      Lizz
                                                      Participant

                                                        Thank you Jenna. 

                                                      Jennab0525
                                                      Participant

                                                        Hi Lizz! I too am so very sorry you had to join our "club". It's certainly a scary, anxiety filled roller coaster. Your post brought back so many memories of my fear when I was first diagnosed. Tomorrow I go in for my one year CT scan. I'm scared but not as badly as I was in the beginning so as odd as it seems to you now, know that it does get easier to cope.

                                                        I too was initially diagnosed stage 2b pending the results of the SLNB. I'm a little surprised your surgeon made the SNLB seem optional as that was not the case with me. In the beginning things moved so damn fast it is mind boggling! I went from initial biopsy to surgery for the WLE and SNLB in a one week time span!! It was insane. My Nodular tumor was 3.5 mm depth and all doctors I spoke with were very concerned but still optimistic that my nodes would be clear. Unfortunately, I had two isolated tumor cells in one node (two nodes were removed). This elevated me to a stage 3b which I have remained ever since with no treatment (only watch and wait which includes scans and skin checks every 3 months). Knock on wood it stays the same after my scan tomorrow!!!

                                                        I agree with the others that a melanoma oncologist is a MUST! Also please know you can always get a second, third or even fourth opinion if needed!! I got a second opinion after my positive SNLB and I'm so happy I did. I can't stress enough the importance of having doctors you trust 100%! It makes the journey so much easier! 

                                                        Take a deep breath and take it one day at a time. We are all here for you. This board is amazing and you will not find a more kind and knowledgeable group. 

                                                        Please stay in touch. All my best!!

                                                        Jenna

                                                        Joycem
                                                        Participant

                                                          Hi Lizz

                                                          Sorry you're going through this. I had a deep nodular melanoma removed from my upper arm a couple months ago. It had been there a long time (pink, so didn't seem concerning to me or my primary doc) I was surprised and relieved my SNB (3 removed) came back clear and am now in watch mode. I am at 2c and chose watch and wait over recommended interferon. 

                                                          The recovery from my WLE and SNB was not bad at all and I feel just fine now. The terror subsides, and the fear that lingers will keep us vigilant. You do want to be treated by melanoma specialist/team if at all possible.

                                                          Lots of kindness and wisdom here on this forum. 

                                                          Blessings and health, 

                                                          joyce

                                                           

                                                          Joycem
                                                          Participant

                                                            Hi Lizz

                                                            Sorry you're going through this. I had a deep nodular melanoma removed from my upper arm a couple months ago. It had been there a long time (pink, so didn't seem concerning to me or my primary doc) I was surprised and relieved my SNB (3 removed) came back clear and am now in watch mode. I am at 2c and chose watch and wait over recommended interferon. 

                                                            The recovery from my WLE and SNB was not bad at all and I feel just fine now. The terror subsides, and the fear that lingers will keep us vigilant. You do want to be treated by melanoma specialist/team if at all possible.

                                                            Lots of kindness and wisdom here on this forum. 

                                                            Blessings and health, 

                                                            joyce

                                                             

                                                            Joycem
                                                            Participant

                                                              Hi Lizz

                                                              Sorry you're going through this. I had a deep nodular melanoma removed from my upper arm a couple months ago. It had been there a long time (pink, so didn't seem concerning to me or my primary doc) I was surprised and relieved my SNB (3 removed) came back clear and am now in watch mode. I am at 2c and chose watch and wait over recommended interferon. 

                                                              The recovery from my WLE and SNB was not bad at all and I feel just fine now. The terror subsides, and the fear that lingers will keep us vigilant. You do want to be treated by melanoma specialist/team if at all possible.

                                                              Lots of kindness and wisdom here on this forum. 

                                                              Blessings and health, 

                                                              joyce

                                                               

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