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Jim is going to the Doctor!

Forums General Melanoma Community Jim is going to the Doctor!

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    Sherron
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      Hi everyone, Just a note to let those of you who follow our story…Jim has finally accepted to go to the Doctor….We are with the VA and it had been like 15 months since he had been.  It is like starting all over…said they could see him on Dec 23rd….Well, our best advocate that lives close to us (daughter-in-law )got involved…He has an appointment Monday at 10:00am.  He needs to be on some kind of pain management.  I know we have gone to Stage IV, as he lumps and bumps everywhere, bruising like stuff all over, mostly stomach right now….and deep pain in the groin.&nb

      Hi everyone, Just a note to let those of you who follow our story…Jim has finally accepted to go to the Doctor….We are with the VA and it had been like 15 months since he had been.  It is like starting all over…said they could see him on Dec 23rd….Well, our best advocate that lives close to us (daughter-in-law )got involved…He has an appointment Monday at 10:00am.  He needs to be on some kind of pain management.  I know we have gone to Stage IV, as he lumps and bumps everywhere, bruising like stuff all over, mostly stomach right now….and deep pain in the groin.  He has only worked 5 days in September…and so far 1 day in October.  It hurts, to stand, walk, or sit….so he reclines most of the time…..He had 4 very good years, with nothing being done no, WLE or SNB, just his natural stuff, but it has progressed, and now FINALLY he realizes he needs some pain management.  It was very hard for him to say he will go….and my goodness….Monday, it not here yet.  So hoping he will really go when it gets time on Monday. 

      Take Care,

      Sherron, wife to Jim

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        JenC
        Participant

          I'm so glad to hear this.  Hopefully the doctors can help your husband be more comfortable.

          JenC

          JenC
          Participant

            I'm so glad to hear this.  Hopefully the doctors can help your husband be more comfortable.

            JenC

            Linda/Kentucky
            Participant

              So glad he has decided to at least see what they say.  Hopefully they can give him something for pain management even if he chooses nothing else.  It must have been so very hard for you to watch him and not be able to help.  Hope Monday goes well for both of you.  I will be thinking about you.

               

              Linda/Kentucky

              Linda/Kentucky
              Participant

                So glad he has decided to at least see what they say.  Hopefully they can give him something for pain management even if he chooses nothing else.  It must have been so very hard for you to watch him and not be able to help.  Hope Monday goes well for both of you.  I will be thinking about you.

                 

                Linda/Kentucky

                Janner
                Participant

                  One step at a time, Sherron.  Sorry to hear he is in so much pain, but glad he might be willing to address the issues now.

                  Keep us updated!

                  Janner

                  Janner
                  Participant

                    One step at a time, Sherron.  Sorry to hear he is in so much pain, but glad he might be willing to address the issues now.

                    Keep us updated!

                    Janner

                    killmel
                    Participant

                      Hi Sherron,

                       

                      Any chance that he will accept treatment now that he is in so much pain??? SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HAPPY to hear a doctor will see him fast!

                      killmel
                      Participant

                        Hi Sherron,

                         

                        Any chance that he will accept treatment now that he is in so much pain??? SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HAPPY to hear a doctor will see him fast!

                        JerryfromFauq
                        Participant

                          Congratulations Jim. 

                            I hate pain and discomfort.  That's what got me to my Oncological surgeon when even the Pet scan said no SUV uptake.  My surgeon removed the lump causing the discomfort and that's when they found progression going on and started me on a, then unique treatment that has kept me stable for the last 18 months without pain (from Melanoma).  Good luck to you and Sherron.

                          JerryfromFauq
                          Participant

                            Congratulations Jim. 

                              I hate pain and discomfort.  That's what got me to my Oncological surgeon when even the Pet scan said no SUV uptake.  My surgeon removed the lump causing the discomfort and that's when they found progression going on and started me on a, then unique treatment that has kept me stable for the last 18 months without pain (from Melanoma).  Good luck to you and Sherron.

                            JuleFL
                            Participant

                              Best wishes.  Glad Jim was able to get an earlier appointment.  Will be thinking about you on Monday.

                              Jule (Cal's wife)

                              JuleFL
                              Participant

                                Best wishes.  Glad Jim was able to get an earlier appointment.  Will be thinking about you on Monday.

                                Jule (Cal's wife)

                                joy_
                                Participant

                                  You must be so relieved that he is going.  It is so hard seeing our loved ones in pain.  🙁  Prayers that it can be successfully managed and that he will be receptive to what they can offer as well and strength and peace for you.

                                  Best,

                                  Tracy

                                  wife to Bill stage IIIc

                                  joy_
                                  Participant

                                    You must be so relieved that he is going.  It is so hard seeing our loved ones in pain.  🙁  Prayers that it can be successfully managed and that he will be receptive to what they can offer as well and strength and peace for you.

                                    Best,

                                    Tracy

                                    wife to Bill stage IIIc

                                    lovingwifedeb
                                    Participant

                                      Sherron,

                                      You have been such a brave soldier standing by your husband's side since I started reading your stories when I joined this discussion board. I admire your courage and strength as a caregiver and a wife to Jim who also has a certain belief system and path of his own choosing. It must of been so hard to stand by and watch him suffer, I'm sure the stress was high on both sides. Bless the daughter for talking sense to the doctor's office… idiots! I hope after Monday's appointment at the very least Jim will accept the medicine to end his pain. No matter what decision he makes he doesn't deserve to suffer. He has been very strong in his belief system and I also know it's been hard on you to sit back and watch it enfold.

                                      I too will be in your position as caregiver watching a husband's decision of no chemical treatment. My husband has decided to "eat" himself into health. We have totally changed our diets, our cooking and buying habits to accommodate this new adventure called the "Mediterranean diet", at his doctor's recommendation. After I had my husband read your story I had him promise me one thing and that was IF he ever went to stage IV in the future that we would re-evaluate TOGETHER what treatment would be best for him. He agreed, at least for now and that was all I could ask of him. In December he gets his first scans and checks since surgery (July)… it will be a stressfull Christmas, I hate the waiting…

                                      We all choose our own paths, make our own destinys. There is no right or wrong here. My heart goes out to both of you. I will watch for your updates.

                                      Deb

                                      lovingwife, to Bob stage 3c

                                      lovingwifedeb
                                      Participant

                                        Sherron,

                                        You have been such a brave soldier standing by your husband's side since I started reading your stories when I joined this discussion board. I admire your courage and strength as a caregiver and a wife to Jim who also has a certain belief system and path of his own choosing. It must of been so hard to stand by and watch him suffer, I'm sure the stress was high on both sides. Bless the daughter for talking sense to the doctor's office… idiots! I hope after Monday's appointment at the very least Jim will accept the medicine to end his pain. No matter what decision he makes he doesn't deserve to suffer. He has been very strong in his belief system and I also know it's been hard on you to sit back and watch it enfold.

                                        I too will be in your position as caregiver watching a husband's decision of no chemical treatment. My husband has decided to "eat" himself into health. We have totally changed our diets, our cooking and buying habits to accommodate this new adventure called the "Mediterranean diet", at his doctor's recommendation. After I had my husband read your story I had him promise me one thing and that was IF he ever went to stage IV in the future that we would re-evaluate TOGETHER what treatment would be best for him. He agreed, at least for now and that was all I could ask of him. In December he gets his first scans and checks since surgery (July)… it will be a stressfull Christmas, I hate the waiting…

                                        We all choose our own paths, make our own destinys. There is no right or wrong here. My heart goes out to both of you. I will watch for your updates.

                                        Deb

                                        lovingwife, to Bob stage 3c

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