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- October 15, 2010 at 5:18 pm
Hi everyone, Just a note to let those of you who follow our story…Jim has finally accepted to go to the Doctor….We are with the VA and it had been like 15 months since he had been. It is like starting all over…said they could see him on Dec 23rd….Well, our best advocate that lives close to us (daughter-in-law )got involved…He has an appointment Monday at 10:00am. He needs to be on some kind of pain management. I know we have gone to Stage IV, as he lumps and bumps everywhere, bruising like stuff all over, mostly stomach right now….and deep pain in the groin.&nb
Hi everyone, Just a note to let those of you who follow our story…Jim has finally accepted to go to the Doctor….We are with the VA and it had been like 15 months since he had been. It is like starting all over…said they could see him on Dec 23rd….Well, our best advocate that lives close to us (daughter-in-law )got involved…He has an appointment Monday at 10:00am. He needs to be on some kind of pain management. I know we have gone to Stage IV, as he lumps and bumps everywhere, bruising like stuff all over, mostly stomach right now….and deep pain in the groin. He has only worked 5 days in September…and so far 1 day in October. It hurts, to stand, walk, or sit….so he reclines most of the time…..He had 4 very good years, with nothing being done no, WLE or SNB, just his natural stuff, but it has progressed, and now FINALLY he realizes he needs some pain management. It was very hard for him to say he will go….and my goodness….Monday, it not here yet. So hoping he will really go when it gets time on Monday.
Take Care,
Sherron, wife to Jim
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- October 15, 2010 at 9:48 pm
So glad he has decided to at least see what they say. Hopefully they can give him something for pain management even if he chooses nothing else. It must have been so very hard for you to watch him and not be able to help. Hope Monday goes well for both of you. I will be thinking about you.
Linda/Kentucky
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- October 15, 2010 at 9:48 pm
So glad he has decided to at least see what they say. Hopefully they can give him something for pain management even if he chooses nothing else. It must have been so very hard for you to watch him and not be able to help. Hope Monday goes well for both of you. I will be thinking about you.
Linda/Kentucky
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- October 16, 2010 at 1:09 am
Congratulations Jim.
I hate pain and discomfort. That's what got me to my Oncological surgeon when even the Pet scan said no SUV uptake. My surgeon removed the lump causing the discomfort and that's when they found progression going on and started me on a, then unique treatment that has kept me stable for the last 18 months without pain (from Melanoma). Good luck to you and Sherron.
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- October 16, 2010 at 1:09 am
Congratulations Jim.
I hate pain and discomfort. That's what got me to my Oncological surgeon when even the Pet scan said no SUV uptake. My surgeon removed the lump causing the discomfort and that's when they found progression going on and started me on a, then unique treatment that has kept me stable for the last 18 months without pain (from Melanoma). Good luck to you and Sherron.
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- October 16, 2010 at 3:25 pm
You must be so relieved that he is going. It is so hard seeing our loved ones in pain. 🙁 Prayers that it can be successfully managed and that he will be receptive to what they can offer as well and strength and peace for you.
Best,
Tracy
wife to Bill stage IIIc
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- October 16, 2010 at 3:25 pm
You must be so relieved that he is going. It is so hard seeing our loved ones in pain. 🙁 Prayers that it can be successfully managed and that he will be receptive to what they can offer as well and strength and peace for you.
Best,
Tracy
wife to Bill stage IIIc
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- October 17, 2010 at 3:37 am
Sherron,
You have been such a brave soldier standing by your husband's side since I started reading your stories when I joined this discussion board. I admire your courage and strength as a caregiver and a wife to Jim who also has a certain belief system and path of his own choosing. It must of been so hard to stand by and watch him suffer, I'm sure the stress was high on both sides. Bless the daughter for talking sense to the doctor's office… idiots! I hope after Monday's appointment at the very least Jim will accept the medicine to end his pain. No matter what decision he makes he doesn't deserve to suffer. He has been very strong in his belief system and I also know it's been hard on you to sit back and watch it enfold.
I too will be in your position as caregiver watching a husband's decision of no chemical treatment. My husband has decided to "eat" himself into health. We have totally changed our diets, our cooking and buying habits to accommodate this new adventure called the "Mediterranean diet", at his doctor's recommendation. After I had my husband read your story I had him promise me one thing and that was IF he ever went to stage IV in the future that we would re-evaluate TOGETHER what treatment would be best for him. He agreed, at least for now and that was all I could ask of him. In December he gets his first scans and checks since surgery (July)… it will be a stressfull Christmas, I hate the waiting…
We all choose our own paths, make our own destinys. There is no right or wrong here. My heart goes out to both of you. I will watch for your updates.
Deb
lovingwife, to Bob stage 3c
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- October 17, 2010 at 3:37 am
Sherron,
You have been such a brave soldier standing by your husband's side since I started reading your stories when I joined this discussion board. I admire your courage and strength as a caregiver and a wife to Jim who also has a certain belief system and path of his own choosing. It must of been so hard to stand by and watch him suffer, I'm sure the stress was high on both sides. Bless the daughter for talking sense to the doctor's office… idiots! I hope after Monday's appointment at the very least Jim will accept the medicine to end his pain. No matter what decision he makes he doesn't deserve to suffer. He has been very strong in his belief system and I also know it's been hard on you to sit back and watch it enfold.
I too will be in your position as caregiver watching a husband's decision of no chemical treatment. My husband has decided to "eat" himself into health. We have totally changed our diets, our cooking and buying habits to accommodate this new adventure called the "Mediterranean diet", at his doctor's recommendation. After I had my husband read your story I had him promise me one thing and that was IF he ever went to stage IV in the future that we would re-evaluate TOGETHER what treatment would be best for him. He agreed, at least for now and that was all I could ask of him. In December he gets his first scans and checks since surgery (July)… it will be a stressfull Christmas, I hate the waiting…
We all choose our own paths, make our own destinys. There is no right or wrong here. My heart goes out to both of you. I will watch for your updates.
Deb
lovingwife, to Bob stage 3c
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