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I thought I was done here… Need advice

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    • November 29, 2011 at 2:27 am
    JenC
    Participant

      I check this board regularly…

      I check this board regularly… but I thought it was just infomational/ research so that I could keep on top of the treatment of this disease so I can help with the fight and keep in the loop for my two young kids.  I lost my husband to melanoma almost 5 months ago.  I was on here daily, fighting to find some info that would save him.  I got a lot of great info.  I just got results of my own biopsy – it is melanoma in situ.  All I can think of are my kids – how can I prevent them from going through all tlhe suffering that their daddy went through with such a strong family history. 

      I am on the hunt again for any information.  In the meantime – just a WLE and watch and wait……. but  how can I watch and wait when I know what this "oh its nothing" can turn into a big something.  Is there anything else that I can do instead of just a WLE and wait?!?!?!  What choices do I have?  My husband had the same choice at stage 3.  I'm just beginning again, but is the current state of things the same as 2 years ago?  Unless I  let this spread I have no other option but wait?  I will go back to my clinical trial research, but it obviously didn't help my husband much.  What can I do differently?

      JenC

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        • November 29, 2011 at 7:18 pm
        washoegal
        Participant

          Jen, I can understand your worry after losing your husband but I am sure that if you can stop and think about this rationally you will know that Melanoma when found in-situ has virtually a 100% cure rate.  What can you do differently, unfortunately probably not much.  It's the regular advice.  Eat a healthy diet, be sun wise, have regular skin checks (which obviously you have done). 

          You can help you children make wise choices but please be careful not to over protect them.  They desperately need to get back to some sort of normal life. 

          Good Luck

          Mary

          Stage 3

          Wait and Watch 18 months NED

          • November 29, 2011 at 7:18 pm
          washoegal
          Participant

            Jen, I can understand your worry after losing your husband but I am sure that if you can stop and think about this rationally you will know that Melanoma when found in-situ has virtually a 100% cure rate.  What can you do differently, unfortunately probably not much.  It's the regular advice.  Eat a healthy diet, be sun wise, have regular skin checks (which obviously you have done). 

            You can help you children make wise choices but please be careful not to over protect them.  They desperately need to get back to some sort of normal life. 

            Good Luck

            Mary

            Stage 3

            Wait and Watch 18 months NED

            • November 29, 2011 at 7:18 pm
            washoegal
            Participant

              Jen, I can understand your worry after losing your husband but I am sure that if you can stop and think about this rationally you will know that Melanoma when found in-situ has virtually a 100% cure rate.  What can you do differently, unfortunately probably not much.  It's the regular advice.  Eat a healthy diet, be sun wise, have regular skin checks (which obviously you have done). 

              You can help you children make wise choices but please be careful not to over protect them.  They desperately need to get back to some sort of normal life. 

              Good Luck

              Mary

              Stage 3

              Wait and Watch 18 months NED

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