Another update

Sometimes no matter how hard we try we can’t fix things as we would like to. At this point, if I was the patient or the caregiver. I would look at quality over quantity of life.
Hospice can be a wonderful resource, my mother had dementia, heart failure and kidney failure. She was with hospice about a year. The resources are endless, the support much needed and the help appreciated. My mother passed away in her own home as she always wanted (even if she probably didn’t know it).
I also think, you need to ask what the patient really wants if able to tell you. I know its hard, losing both my parents I saw my dad also suffer congestive heart failure and be on dialysis. He told the doctors no more dialysis and they told him he would die without it….he repeated no more dialysis.
He knew what he wanted and we took it to heart. This is just my take on it, if you both want to pursue more aggressive treatment and feel that is right then that is what you should do. It’s hard for sure.

Husks,
I was thinking about you guys.
When my father was sick and beat up with chemo and radiation and CDiff he acquired at the hospital we took time to regroup and heal. It took us a month.

The positives are her kidneys bounced back pretty nicely. Liver enzymes may go down after some time. I assume her heart is holding up too?
The negatives are she is very weak The medicine she was getting if she will get it again it will again cause her kidney and liver damage and she is not strong enough. It will cause just suffering. She probably is lot able to get any cancer treatment now.
How is her appetite? Does she want fight? One of my friends said once the body can go on for long time it’s the mind that gives up. I try to approach my cancer as what I would say or do with my father. It’s easier to make decisions than. When it comes to my own cancer I need to consult my family it’s easier to make a decision this way.
If it was my father I would say bring her home take care of her for a month make her comfortable and reapproch subject of cancer once she gets better.
I don’t think you have to make decisions about hospice or no hospice now. Bring her home and see how she looks in a month and than make a decision. Have some quality time whatever it maybe now. Re-evaluate later.
My prayers are with you and your mother. Hugs.