2 unchanged moles BOTH are melanoma

I am assuming they aren’t changing enough that you can tell from a picture but they are changing from a dermascope perspective. I would recommend going onto Amazon and purchasing a tool you can use at home that will take magnified / lighted images of your moles – the tool can attach to your I-phone. That way you can take up close pictures monthly of the moles you are concerned about and see if they change in any way.  I bought one initially for $11 which worked fine but did upgrade to a $100 one recently.

Have you asked your dermatologist what they think? What prompted them to remove the moles if they had not changed?

Your case is definitely very concerning as melanoma patients feel security with no evolution.
What type of melanoma are they saying these lesions are? Certain kinds like nevoid and spitzoid are very difficult to identify versus a benign lesion as they have characteristics of both and doctors (rightly so) tend to be more aggressive. I would ask if your dermatologist is willing to send one to genetic testing. I am actually waiting for the genetic results of a T1a spitzoid melanoma as there was uncertainty in its malignant potential and the genetic test will tell us more definitely. I’ve come to learn dermapathology is an art and science.  My melanoma had significant changes though.  The genetic test costs $8,000 dollars and insurance doesn’t always pay but somehow my dermatologist convinced them to do it for free. I’m assuming it’s being used as a learning experience for them too.
I am similar to you with 3 melanomas:

spitzoid in-situ 2011

spitzoid T1a and nevoid in-situ in Dec 2020.

all had changes.

By the way, the tool you can buy is not an actual dermascope but it’s amazing how much you can see.
The $11 one was super eyes macro lens and the $100 was dermlite. The main difference is dermlite comes with a light.

there’s not a lot of people on here who comment on stage 1 cases so I appreciate finding someone like you on here

I’m in the Philadelphia area.

You definitely need a copy of your pathology reports.

The genetic test purpose is 1) god forbid if your melanoma was to ever progress this will inform doctors on what treatment is most likely to work 2) for our situation now it reduces  any gray area related to a pathology report.  If you do some research, you will find that it’s not that straight forward to diagnose a melanoma. I found some articles that said even if you gave the same pathologist the same lesion twice they often come up with a different diagnosis. As a result, doctors tend to be more aggressive – so if it might be melanoma they’d prefer to say melanoma so you get the best treatment. 3) I’m not sure if this is true for every melanoma but for spitzoids there’s a range of malignancy. The genetic test can tell you where your lesion falls in that range.  My understanding is dysplastic moles by definition share attributes with melanoma. It should help add clarity to your diagnosis. It will also inform you on whether or not you have familial melanoma, which comes with other cancer risks. I can let you know when I get mine back and how helpful (or not) it was. I’m hoping for results that show the legion is actually low risk.

I am praying for both of us to happily stay in stage 1 and never experience another primary. I know it could be so much worse but there’s still a lot of anxiety that comes with multiple primaries and thinking every spot on your skin is potentially one that could kill us.