How long can i post pone removal of “suspicious” lesion

Unfortunately, there is no way to answer your question.  If you ask on a melanoma bulletin board, of course everyone will say to get it out now.  How else should we answer?  Could this be something benign?  Yes, it could.  Could this be something sinister?  Yes, it could be melanoma.  The problem is there is no way to know without a biopsy.  Some melanomas are slow growing, others not so much.  Could waiting a few months be ok?  No way to know for sure.  Sometimes yes, sometimes no.  I'm sorry this isn't an answer, but there is absolutely no way to answer your questions.  Is the lesion large or small?  Not typically recommended, but could you do a partial biopsy that would be less difficult to heal (questions for a doc)?  At least that way you might know if the lesion is good or bad.  The typical advice here would be "when in doubt, cut it out".  I don't think you will get much other constructive info than that – especially from a group who have all had melanoma or a love one with it.

Unfortunately, there is no way to answer your question.  If you ask on a melanoma bulletin board, of course everyone will say to get it out now.  How else should we answer?  Could this be something benign?  Yes, it could.  Could this be something sinister?  Yes, it could be melanoma.  The problem is there is no way to know without a biopsy.  Some melanomas are slow growing, others not so much.  Could waiting a few months be ok?  No way to know for sure.  Sometimes yes, sometimes no.  I'm sorry this isn't an answer, but there is absolutely no way to answer your questions.  Is the lesion large or small?  Not typically recommended, but could you do a partial biopsy that would be less difficult to heal (questions for a doc)?  At least that way you might know if the lesion is good or bad.  The typical advice here would be "when in doubt, cut it out".  I don't think you will get much other constructive info than that – especially from a group who have all had melanoma or a love one with it.

Unfortunately, there is no way to answer your question.  If you ask on a melanoma bulletin board, of course everyone will say to get it out now.  How else should we answer?  Could this be something benign?  Yes, it could.  Could this be something sinister?  Yes, it could be melanoma.  The problem is there is no way to know without a biopsy.  Some melanomas are slow growing, others not so much.  Could waiting a few months be ok?  No way to know for sure.  Sometimes yes, sometimes no.  I'm sorry this isn't an answer, but there is absolutely no way to answer your questions.  Is the lesion large or small?  Not typically recommended, but could you do a partial biopsy that would be less difficult to heal (questions for a doc)?  At least that way you might know if the lesion is good or bad.  The typical advice here would be "when in doubt, cut it out".  I don't think you will get much other constructive info than that – especially from a group who have all had melanoma or a love one with it.

I think you are really asking the wrong question here.  The questions you should ask yourself are:

If I delay the biopsy in order to please my fiance or family and it is melanoma how would I feel?  If it turns out that if I had done something a few months earlier would I be in a lower stage?  And now that I know I have melanoma how will I feel with the added burden of a mortgage? Would you feel resentment toward your family or wife if you didn't listen to the little voice that is saying you need to get the biopsy done? 

From my perspective knowing is better than waiting. There will be plenty of time to buy a house.  But if you buy a house and you have melanoma and its serious wouldn't you feel better not having the weight of a mortgage off your shoulders? And would you feel resentment towards anyone who pressured you to buy a home rather than make sure you were healthy?  I would.

I think you are really asking the wrong question here.  The questions you should ask yourself are:

If I delay the biopsy in order to please my fiance or family and it is melanoma how would I feel?  If it turns out that if I had done something a few months earlier would I be in a lower stage?  And now that I know I have melanoma how will I feel with the added burden of a mortgage? Would you feel resentment toward your family or wife if you didn't listen to the little voice that is saying you need to get the biopsy done? 

From my perspective knowing is better than waiting. There will be plenty of time to buy a house.  But if you buy a house and you have melanoma and its serious wouldn't you feel better not having the weight of a mortgage off your shoulders? And would you feel resentment towards anyone who pressured you to buy a home rather than make sure you were healthy?  I would.

I think you are really asking the wrong question here.  The questions you should ask yourself are:

If I delay the biopsy in order to please my fiance or family and it is melanoma how would I feel?  If it turns out that if I had done something a few months earlier would I be in a lower stage?  And now that I know I have melanoma how will I feel with the added burden of a mortgage? Would you feel resentment toward your family or wife if you didn't listen to the little voice that is saying you need to get the biopsy done? 

From my perspective knowing is better than waiting. There will be plenty of time to buy a house.  But if you buy a house and you have melanoma and its serious wouldn't you feel better not having the weight of a mortgage off your shoulders? And would you feel resentment towards anyone who pressured you to buy a home rather than make sure you were healthy?  I would.

I think you need to find a Dermatologist who specalizes in melanoma and view him/her as your quarterback. They perhaps can take a less invasive punch or scrape type sample and get you pathology results quickly with the understanding that a more invasive procedure might be the result. Your dermatologist can recommend a melanoma specialized surgeon if you have to go down that road. You mention a Podiatrist but don't specify the level of experience with melanoma surgery, etc. I think you need more information from melanoma focused medical professionals and based on that information you will be more educated about what you have or don't have and what the most prudent options are. Don't let buying a house drive your timing decisions because if you find out you have melanoma you won't be able to sleep and will be worrying about your mortgage payment anyway. There are plenty of houses yo buy. Rethink your current medical team, get a melanoma focused one and get some answers than you can msk your decision. 

I think you need to find a Dermatologist who specalizes in melanoma and view him/her as your quarterback. They perhaps can take a less invasive punch or scrape type sample and get you pathology results quickly with the understanding that a more invasive procedure might be the result. Your dermatologist can recommend a melanoma specialized surgeon if you have to go down that road. You mention a Podiatrist but don't specify the level of experience with melanoma surgery, etc. I think you need more information from melanoma focused medical professionals and based on that information you will be more educated about what you have or don't have and what the most prudent options are. Don't let buying a house drive your timing decisions because if you find out you have melanoma you won't be able to sleep and will be worrying about your mortgage payment anyway. There are plenty of houses yo buy. Rethink your current medical team, get a melanoma focused one and get some answers than you can msk your decision. 

I think you need to find a Dermatologist who specalizes in melanoma and view him/her as your quarterback. They perhaps can take a less invasive punch or scrape type sample and get you pathology results quickly with the understanding that a more invasive procedure might be the result. Your dermatologist can recommend a melanoma specialized surgeon if you have to go down that road. You mention a Podiatrist but don't specify the level of experience with melanoma surgery, etc. I think you need more information from melanoma focused medical professionals and based on that information you will be more educated about what you have or don't have and what the most prudent options are. Don't let buying a house drive your timing decisions because if you find out you have melanoma you won't be able to sleep and will be worrying about your mortgage payment anyway. There are plenty of houses yo buy. Rethink your current medical team, get a melanoma focused one and get some answers than you can msk your decision.