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- February 5, 2013 at 3:19 pm
Hi All. I'm new to the site. I'm a 40 y/o white male with fair skin. I saw my primary care doc for a lesions on my chest. It's certainly atypical for melanoma presentation, but it has enlarged over the past 18 months, and started to appear dry and bleed in spots. It appears like a slightly raised, reddish, mole-like. I didn't pay it much attention at first, but after my primary care suggested a see a dermatologist for a biopsy, I'm really nervous. I didn't sleep at all last night, so on top of the anxiety, I'm exhausted.
Any advice from you guys? I've always thought that by the time the mole/lesion is bleeding that it's quite advanced and there's not much that can be done. Any help you all can give would be so greatly appreciated.
Thanks so much.
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:22 pm
There is no way you can tell from the surface of the skin how early or how advanced melanoma may be….. or even if it is melanoma at all. Unfortunately, there's not much more we can say. Waiting sucks. Do not let your imagination run away with you, however. This may be nothing or something very early. Everyone here understands how hard waiting can be, but pre-worry never helped anyone. Hang in there.
Janner
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:22 pm
There is no way you can tell from the surface of the skin how early or how advanced melanoma may be….. or even if it is melanoma at all. Unfortunately, there's not much more we can say. Waiting sucks. Do not let your imagination run away with you, however. This may be nothing or something very early. Everyone here understands how hard waiting can be, but pre-worry never helped anyone. Hang in there.
Janner
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:22 pm
There is no way you can tell from the surface of the skin how early or how advanced melanoma may be….. or even if it is melanoma at all. Unfortunately, there's not much more we can say. Waiting sucks. Do not let your imagination run away with you, however. This may be nothing or something very early. Everyone here understands how hard waiting can be, but pre-worry never helped anyone. Hang in there.
Janner
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:36 pm
Anxiety sucks. Big time. Did you get an appointment to the dermatologist yet? If not, do you have an appointment and did you make them aware that your primary care
doctor is suspecting possible Melanoma? Make sure they are aware. They can get you in faster and you will be closer to your answers.As for the lesion and bleeding, don't get crazy ! The information that you are reading is the worst case scenerio. I am sure more people will advise you of the same thing. I too, was in your shoes two years ago. I was that worrried, cant sleep, OMG what is going to happen to me, person. I am alive and well, here talking to you with no signs of Melanoma. Dont worry until someone tells you to. and PS. If for some reason this comes back and IS melanoma? Breathe and then come on here and ask everyone again for help . Everyone on here is so helpful, even with
finding a doctor . (Melanoma specialist if needed )Hang in there and keep us posted! Good luck…
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:36 pm
Anxiety sucks. Big time. Did you get an appointment to the dermatologist yet? If not, do you have an appointment and did you make them aware that your primary care
doctor is suspecting possible Melanoma? Make sure they are aware. They can get you in faster and you will be closer to your answers.As for the lesion and bleeding, don't get crazy ! The information that you are reading is the worst case scenerio. I am sure more people will advise you of the same thing. I too, was in your shoes two years ago. I was that worrried, cant sleep, OMG what is going to happen to me, person. I am alive and well, here talking to you with no signs of Melanoma. Dont worry until someone tells you to. and PS. If for some reason this comes back and IS melanoma? Breathe and then come on here and ask everyone again for help . Everyone on here is so helpful, even with
finding a doctor . (Melanoma specialist if needed )Hang in there and keep us posted! Good luck…
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:44 pm
Thanks for the reply, kbc. Yes, I was able to make an appt to see a dermatologist today. It will be (sad to say) my very first visit to a dermatologist, despite having very fair skin and lots of moles. My mom, grandmothers and aunts have all had various moles removed for biopsy in the past. The 'breathing' part is the hardest. I will certainly keep you posted and ask for help for the future — whatever the results. I think I should probably have routine screenings anyway with my family history.
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:44 pm
Thanks for the reply, kbc. Yes, I was able to make an appt to see a dermatologist today. It will be (sad to say) my very first visit to a dermatologist, despite having very fair skin and lots of moles. My mom, grandmothers and aunts have all had various moles removed for biopsy in the past. The 'breathing' part is the hardest. I will certainly keep you posted and ask for help for the future — whatever the results. I think I should probably have routine screenings anyway with my family history.
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- February 5, 2013 at 4:12 pm
Unfortunately ( sad to say as well ) I had only seen a derm when I was a teenager for some type of cyst thing – I have to say, she did do a body check but back then ( 80's ) they didnt push you to go get scanned yearly. Or at least, i dont remember. In my own experiences with my kids, no pediatrician told me to go to a dermatologist with them to get body checks.. Never did i EVER hear those words, nor did any of my other family members, friends etc… They do push you to get all these immunizations, check ups, blood tests, why not put that in as part of your 'healthy care' information? it is very frustrating to me. Now that I am on the other end of the stick, a melanoma survivor, I preach to anyone that will listen, i inform anyone and everyone that if you didnt get checked you need to. I have no family history, I am not 'extremely fair skinned" I tanned and possibly burned a bit if out too long, wore SPF if I needed to as I got older, but was not part of my every day thing like it is now. I have minimal moles and some freckles but thats it… So, all should be checked. My kids now go every year. My son had things removed that are just areas we need to watch now but at least we are on it and they are informed.
I am hoping for good news for you. I understand the breathing part. I do. One step at a time. Get to the doctor. Then go from there….
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- February 5, 2013 at 4:12 pm
Unfortunately ( sad to say as well ) I had only seen a derm when I was a teenager for some type of cyst thing – I have to say, she did do a body check but back then ( 80's ) they didnt push you to go get scanned yearly. Or at least, i dont remember. In my own experiences with my kids, no pediatrician told me to go to a dermatologist with them to get body checks.. Never did i EVER hear those words, nor did any of my other family members, friends etc… They do push you to get all these immunizations, check ups, blood tests, why not put that in as part of your 'healthy care' information? it is very frustrating to me. Now that I am on the other end of the stick, a melanoma survivor, I preach to anyone that will listen, i inform anyone and everyone that if you didnt get checked you need to. I have no family history, I am not 'extremely fair skinned" I tanned and possibly burned a bit if out too long, wore SPF if I needed to as I got older, but was not part of my every day thing like it is now. I have minimal moles and some freckles but thats it… So, all should be checked. My kids now go every year. My son had things removed that are just areas we need to watch now but at least we are on it and they are informed.
I am hoping for good news for you. I understand the breathing part. I do. One step at a time. Get to the doctor. Then go from there….
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- February 5, 2013 at 4:12 pm
Unfortunately ( sad to say as well ) I had only seen a derm when I was a teenager for some type of cyst thing – I have to say, she did do a body check but back then ( 80's ) they didnt push you to go get scanned yearly. Or at least, i dont remember. In my own experiences with my kids, no pediatrician told me to go to a dermatologist with them to get body checks.. Never did i EVER hear those words, nor did any of my other family members, friends etc… They do push you to get all these immunizations, check ups, blood tests, why not put that in as part of your 'healthy care' information? it is very frustrating to me. Now that I am on the other end of the stick, a melanoma survivor, I preach to anyone that will listen, i inform anyone and everyone that if you didnt get checked you need to. I have no family history, I am not 'extremely fair skinned" I tanned and possibly burned a bit if out too long, wore SPF if I needed to as I got older, but was not part of my every day thing like it is now. I have minimal moles and some freckles but thats it… So, all should be checked. My kids now go every year. My son had things removed that are just areas we need to watch now but at least we are on it and they are informed.
I am hoping for good news for you. I understand the breathing part. I do. One step at a time. Get to the doctor. Then go from there….
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:44 pm
Thanks for the reply, kbc. Yes, I was able to make an appt to see a dermatologist today. It will be (sad to say) my very first visit to a dermatologist, despite having very fair skin and lots of moles. My mom, grandmothers and aunts have all had various moles removed for biopsy in the past. The 'breathing' part is the hardest. I will certainly keep you posted and ask for help for the future — whatever the results. I think I should probably have routine screenings anyway with my family history.
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- February 5, 2013 at 3:36 pm
Anxiety sucks. Big time. Did you get an appointment to the dermatologist yet? If not, do you have an appointment and did you make them aware that your primary care
doctor is suspecting possible Melanoma? Make sure they are aware. They can get you in faster and you will be closer to your answers.As for the lesion and bleeding, don't get crazy ! The information that you are reading is the worst case scenerio. I am sure more people will advise you of the same thing. I too, was in your shoes two years ago. I was that worrried, cant sleep, OMG what is going to happen to me, person. I am alive and well, here talking to you with no signs of Melanoma. Dont worry until someone tells you to. and PS. If for some reason this comes back and IS melanoma? Breathe and then come on here and ask everyone again for help . Everyone on here is so helpful, even with
finding a doctor . (Melanoma specialist if needed )Hang in there and keep us posted! Good luck…
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- February 5, 2013 at 5:26 pm
I am so sorry for the anxiety and worry you are experiencing. One thing I have learned along life's journey is that borrowing trouble from tomorrow only takes away energy and sleep. I would suggest you do not delve too much into research on melanoma until you know if that is indeed what you are facing…and even then, there is a way to delve too far. Once you have your biopsy results, you may not even have a need to look any further…that is what we will hope for! But, even if you do, you can be more specific in your searches so you are not completely overwhelmed and petrified.
I understand being scared and I know it is easier for me to say…wait until you know more.The truth is that waiting is so difficult… I hate waiting for biopsy or scan results. I think we all really do.
Hoping you will get quick results and that they surprise you in a good way!
Tina
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- February 5, 2013 at 5:26 pm
I am so sorry for the anxiety and worry you are experiencing. One thing I have learned along life's journey is that borrowing trouble from tomorrow only takes away energy and sleep. I would suggest you do not delve too much into research on melanoma until you know if that is indeed what you are facing…and even then, there is a way to delve too far. Once you have your biopsy results, you may not even have a need to look any further…that is what we will hope for! But, even if you do, you can be more specific in your searches so you are not completely overwhelmed and petrified.
I understand being scared and I know it is easier for me to say…wait until you know more.The truth is that waiting is so difficult… I hate waiting for biopsy or scan results. I think we all really do.
Hoping you will get quick results and that they surprise you in a good way!
Tina
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- February 5, 2013 at 5:26 pm
I am so sorry for the anxiety and worry you are experiencing. One thing I have learned along life's journey is that borrowing trouble from tomorrow only takes away energy and sleep. I would suggest you do not delve too much into research on melanoma until you know if that is indeed what you are facing…and even then, there is a way to delve too far. Once you have your biopsy results, you may not even have a need to look any further…that is what we will hope for! But, even if you do, you can be more specific in your searches so you are not completely overwhelmed and petrified.
I understand being scared and I know it is easier for me to say…wait until you know more.The truth is that waiting is so difficult… I hate waiting for biopsy or scan results. I think we all really do.
Hoping you will get quick results and that they surprise you in a good way!
Tina
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- February 5, 2013 at 5:30 pm
Hello,
Relax, breath and don't get to upset until you get it checked out.
My husbands was melanoma and was bleeding and seeping. That was 5 years ago. He had surgery and had it removed and didn't have a recurrence for 11 months. It is not a death sentence. He is still living and at the time is doing well with NED (no evidence of disease) after starting a clinical trial in March of 2011 when the cancer had metastisized so there is still hope and good that can come of it even if it is melanoma.
Don't give up as Positive Attitude is a great asset to have on your side.
Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)
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- February 5, 2013 at 5:30 pm
Hello,
Relax, breath and don't get to upset until you get it checked out.
My husbands was melanoma and was bleeding and seeping. That was 5 years ago. He had surgery and had it removed and didn't have a recurrence for 11 months. It is not a death sentence. He is still living and at the time is doing well with NED (no evidence of disease) after starting a clinical trial in March of 2011 when the cancer had metastisized so there is still hope and good that can come of it even if it is melanoma.
Don't give up as Positive Attitude is a great asset to have on your side.
Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)
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- February 5, 2013 at 5:30 pm
Hello,
Relax, breath and don't get to upset until you get it checked out.
My husbands was melanoma and was bleeding and seeping. That was 5 years ago. He had surgery and had it removed and didn't have a recurrence for 11 months. It is not a death sentence. He is still living and at the time is doing well with NED (no evidence of disease) after starting a clinical trial in March of 2011 when the cancer had metastisized so there is still hope and good that can come of it even if it is melanoma.
Don't give up as Positive Attitude is a great asset to have on your side.
Judy (loving wife of Gene Stage IV and now NED)
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- February 5, 2013 at 6:24 pm
Thanks for all the kind and supportive words everyone. It really helps! I just came back from my first trip to the dermatologist and he performed a biopsy. Hopefully the results will be back by the end of the week he said. He could tell I was really nervous. He said it didn't look like melanoma to him, but maybe a carcinoma of some sort, but that the only way to be certain what it is exactly was to have it checked by biopsy — since sometimes (though rarely) melanomas don't have a traditional appearance. Whatever the results, I have definitely learned my lesson and will be seeing a dermatologist for regular screenings. Now, I just have to try to be calm and not let my mind run wild between now and the end of the week.
What do you guys do to get your mind off of it? I work full time during the day and teach a night class, so I really need my head back in the game. But, this is weighing heavily on my mind.
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- February 5, 2013 at 6:24 pm
Thanks for all the kind and supportive words everyone. It really helps! I just came back from my first trip to the dermatologist and he performed a biopsy. Hopefully the results will be back by the end of the week he said. He could tell I was really nervous. He said it didn't look like melanoma to him, but maybe a carcinoma of some sort, but that the only way to be certain what it is exactly was to have it checked by biopsy — since sometimes (though rarely) melanomas don't have a traditional appearance. Whatever the results, I have definitely learned my lesson and will be seeing a dermatologist for regular screenings. Now, I just have to try to be calm and not let my mind run wild between now and the end of the week.
What do you guys do to get your mind off of it? I work full time during the day and teach a night class, so I really need my head back in the game. But, this is weighing heavily on my mind.
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- February 5, 2013 at 7:06 pm
I think the hardest part for all of us is the waiting time– waiting for biopsy results, scan results, specialist consultations, etc. Unfortunately, there is no real cure for that anxiety. To a certain extent, you just have to live through it.
But a lot of the most successful melanoma warriors and their caregivers learn to RECOGNIZE their emotions and deal with them directly. Be it anxiety, rage, depression, or whatever, it's smart to acknowledge what you are feeling and take steps to deal with that emotion. What do you to do overcome anxiety in other circumstances? Exercise? Prayer? Meditation? Relaxing music? I, personally, benefit a lot from my self-hypnosis relaxation tapes.
So be grateful that you are busy so you really don't have time to sit and wallow in your anxiety (think how much worse it would be if you were unemployed) and set aside 15-30 minutes each day to specifically and deliberately dissipate your anxiety. Don't fight your anxiety, allow it to flow through you and out the other side.
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- February 5, 2013 at 7:06 pm
I think the hardest part for all of us is the waiting time– waiting for biopsy results, scan results, specialist consultations, etc. Unfortunately, there is no real cure for that anxiety. To a certain extent, you just have to live through it.
But a lot of the most successful melanoma warriors and their caregivers learn to RECOGNIZE their emotions and deal with them directly. Be it anxiety, rage, depression, or whatever, it's smart to acknowledge what you are feeling and take steps to deal with that emotion. What do you to do overcome anxiety in other circumstances? Exercise? Prayer? Meditation? Relaxing music? I, personally, benefit a lot from my self-hypnosis relaxation tapes.
So be grateful that you are busy so you really don't have time to sit and wallow in your anxiety (think how much worse it would be if you were unemployed) and set aside 15-30 minutes each day to specifically and deliberately dissipate your anxiety. Don't fight your anxiety, allow it to flow through you and out the other side.
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- February 5, 2013 at 7:06 pm
I think the hardest part for all of us is the waiting time– waiting for biopsy results, scan results, specialist consultations, etc. Unfortunately, there is no real cure for that anxiety. To a certain extent, you just have to live through it.
But a lot of the most successful melanoma warriors and their caregivers learn to RECOGNIZE their emotions and deal with them directly. Be it anxiety, rage, depression, or whatever, it's smart to acknowledge what you are feeling and take steps to deal with that emotion. What do you to do overcome anxiety in other circumstances? Exercise? Prayer? Meditation? Relaxing music? I, personally, benefit a lot from my self-hypnosis relaxation tapes.
So be grateful that you are busy so you really don't have time to sit and wallow in your anxiety (think how much worse it would be if you were unemployed) and set aside 15-30 minutes each day to specifically and deliberately dissipate your anxiety. Don't fight your anxiety, allow it to flow through you and out the other side.
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- February 6, 2013 at 3:52 pm
I'm a bit puzzled that other types of skin cancer were not considered as possibilities, ones that are less threatening than melanoma. Such as basal cell and squamous cell. A relative has had surface bleeding lesions that were basal cell, and said to come from sun exposure (outside job).
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- February 6, 2013 at 4:29 pm
Yes, that is also a possibility that the dermatologist mentioned. I was a little surprised that he didn't ask a few more questions, or look at it more with the dermatoscope, but he said, in his experience, that it was not that useful. Either way, the only way to know for sure, is just do a biopsy and find out. I, like probably many fair-skinned people on here, have never been a sun-bather, and I don't work outside. I did get a few sunburns as a kid at summer camp that I remember. However, I never go to the beach or walk around in summer without a shirt – even as a kid. And I've read that BC and SC carcinoma is usually with regular sun exposure — like on face, ears, etc. Either way, I'm trying to stay positive and not stress too much until I know the results.
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- February 6, 2013 at 4:29 pm
Yes, that is also a possibility that the dermatologist mentioned. I was a little surprised that he didn't ask a few more questions, or look at it more with the dermatoscope, but he said, in his experience, that it was not that useful. Either way, the only way to know for sure, is just do a biopsy and find out. I, like probably many fair-skinned people on here, have never been a sun-bather, and I don't work outside. I did get a few sunburns as a kid at summer camp that I remember. However, I never go to the beach or walk around in summer without a shirt – even as a kid. And I've read that BC and SC carcinoma is usually with regular sun exposure — like on face, ears, etc. Either way, I'm trying to stay positive and not stress too much until I know the results.
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- February 6, 2013 at 4:29 pm
Yes, that is also a possibility that the dermatologist mentioned. I was a little surprised that he didn't ask a few more questions, or look at it more with the dermatoscope, but he said, in his experience, that it was not that useful. Either way, the only way to know for sure, is just do a biopsy and find out. I, like probably many fair-skinned people on here, have never been a sun-bather, and I don't work outside. I did get a few sunburns as a kid at summer camp that I remember. However, I never go to the beach or walk around in summer without a shirt – even as a kid. And I've read that BC and SC carcinoma is usually with regular sun exposure — like on face, ears, etc. Either way, I'm trying to stay positive and not stress too much until I know the results.
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- February 6, 2013 at 3:52 pm
I'm a bit puzzled that other types of skin cancer were not considered as possibilities, ones that are less threatening than melanoma. Such as basal cell and squamous cell. A relative has had surface bleeding lesions that were basal cell, and said to come from sun exposure (outside job).
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- February 6, 2013 at 3:52 pm
I'm a bit puzzled that other types of skin cancer were not considered as possibilities, ones that are less threatening than melanoma. Such as basal cell and squamous cell. A relative has had surface bleeding lesions that were basal cell, and said to come from sun exposure (outside job).
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- February 5, 2013 at 6:24 pm
Thanks for all the kind and supportive words everyone. It really helps! I just came back from my first trip to the dermatologist and he performed a biopsy. Hopefully the results will be back by the end of the week he said. He could tell I was really nervous. He said it didn't look like melanoma to him, but maybe a carcinoma of some sort, but that the only way to be certain what it is exactly was to have it checked by biopsy — since sometimes (though rarely) melanomas don't have a traditional appearance. Whatever the results, I have definitely learned my lesson and will be seeing a dermatologist for regular screenings. Now, I just have to try to be calm and not let my mind run wild between now and the end of the week.
What do you guys do to get your mind off of it? I work full time during the day and teach a night class, so I really need my head back in the game. But, this is weighing heavily on my mind.
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- February 5, 2013 at 7:10 pm
sometimes it doesn't flow through to the other side; i've spent the last year and half reading everything i can about this disease, reading forums like this, going to doctors every month cause i'm sure something is wrong, etc. . . .it's all consuming; waiting for the other shoe to drop is really hard, especially if you don't know if it's going to drop or when it might
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- February 5, 2013 at 7:10 pm
sometimes it doesn't flow through to the other side; i've spent the last year and half reading everything i can about this disease, reading forums like this, going to doctors every month cause i'm sure something is wrong, etc. . . .it's all consuming; waiting for the other shoe to drop is really hard, especially if you don't know if it's going to drop or when it might
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- February 5, 2013 at 7:10 pm
sometimes it doesn't flow through to the other side; i've spent the last year and half reading everything i can about this disease, reading forums like this, going to doctors every month cause i'm sure something is wrong, etc. . . .it's all consuming; waiting for the other shoe to drop is really hard, especially if you don't know if it's going to drop or when it might
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