- August 21, 2010 at 3:31 am
My heart goes out to you. Yours and Ron's story is all too common. My husband, Cal, had his primary in 1981 with no SNB. He continued visiting dermatologists over the years. He fell playing tennis and subsequently a lung and adrenal met were discovered on the rib xray. CT's and Pet showed mets from head to foot. He immediately started chemo, then biochemo with maintenance, then, finally, ipilimumab. Unfortunately, he was so advanced and weakened that all treatments had to be stopped. I fought hard for him and doubted myself often. Reading the posts on this board have helped me put things in perspective. He is now with hospice. We've had 9 months since diagnosis so I have been able to get a head start on the grieving process. I cry everyday knowing that I'm losing my sweetheart, but I'm still able to be at his side for a while. This has been a terrible shock for you and has happened so quickly. I hope that you can find some people close to you to talk to. I'll be praying for you and hoping that you will find some peace and comfort.
Jule wife of Cal